's good expression skills allow people to quickly understand one's thoughts, and good communication skills can help us quickly establish a social network with others. Kindergarten is the first step for children to leave their parents and enter society. It is also a critical period for parents to cultivate their children's communication and expression skills.
Many parents responded that they would talk to their children about the situation in the kindergarten on the way back, but children often ask three questions. began to think that the child just arrived in kindergarten and did not adapt, but now it has been two months since school has started, and this situation has not improved. Does have poor expression skills? How can this situation be improved? When
encounters this situation, parents don’t need to worry too much. Today, we will analyze this problem in terms of children’s growth characteristics and give corresponding communication suggestions, hoping to make parent-child communication more effective.
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Everyone will become focused when they concentrate on doing things they are interested in, and children are no exception. When children are addicted to cartoons or toys in their hands, they often use "don't know" to perfuse parents' questions.
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At this time, if the parents insist on asking the child questions, not only the communication effect will not be achieved, but it is also not conducive to the cultivation of the child's concentration. It is recommended that parents fix the communication time at the daily parent-child reading time. At this time, it is usually the most relaxing time of the day for the child, and the communication effect is naturally better.
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Children will not say that
Children aged 4-6 are mainly thinking in images. Their thinking is based on specific things, such as an apple, a book, a box of chocolates, etc. When parents ask abstract questions like "how are you doing today", children often don't understand what the parents are asking, so naturally there will be a situation of "one question and three unknown"!
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Parents can use "limited questions" to visualize and simplify the problem. For example: Which song did
teach you in kindergarten today? Can you sing to mom?
In kindergarten, which kid do you like the most to play with?
What was delicious for lunch today? Which is your favorite?
limited-style questioning concretizes abstract questions, which not only allows children to answer without thinking, but also leaves space for children to develop themselves, which is very helpful to improve children's expressive ability.
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Children dare not say
Under the strong supervision of their parents, many children are afraid of expression. Perhaps the child once told his parents that he accidentally broke the kindergarten toys and hoped to get some understanding from the parents, but what was ushered in was the parents' blame for "how are you so stupid?" Over time, in order to avoid being blamed by the parents, the child will perfuse the parents' questions with "don't know", which also causes the phenomenon of one question and three ignorance.
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This requires parents to understand their children’s psychological development and pay more attention to the way they communicate with their children. The sense of security in the process of children's growth comes from parents. The more children who make mistakes, the more they need parents as emotional support. Encouragement and guidance from parents at this stage will become the confidence of the child throughout his life.
Learning to express, dare to express, and willing to express will surely benefit children for life. In the eloquence cat curriculum system, we uphold the "eloquence +" quality education curriculum design concept, combining eloquence education with subject education, emotional intelligence education, traditional culture, and the trend of the times, so that children's eloquence, learning and quality training can promote each other , Grow together... If children dare not speak, they don’t know how to speak, so they are eloquent!
