Should children be strictly controlled or "stocked"? On this issue, I believe many parents have doubts. Some people think that as long as children can "consciously", many educational problems will be solved. However, the reality is very skinny. Once many children leave the supervision of their parents, the so-called "consciousness" disappears.
children are children because they lack consciousness. Therefore, on the road of education, parents should never simply expect their children to "consciously"!
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expect children to be the most useless
Modern education has an exciting slogan, which is to give full play to the subjectivity and consciousness of children and change "I want to learn" into "I want to learn". It sounds very smart, but it actually ignores the child's nature. There is no child who is born consciously. It is the child's nature to be lazy, playful, and cry hard.
If you know your child is doing something wrong, but you are a parent but you can't bear it, how can you expect your child to become a talent?
still remember that Liu Xing had a conversation with his mother in "Family with Children":
he accused his mother of not developing a specialty for him when he was a child, otherwise he might be a writer or a musician now.
, but my mother said aggrieved: "When I was a child, I enrolled you in this class and that class. I want you to learn it, but you don't want to learn it!"
did not expect Liu Xing to immediately return: "I don't want to learn, you won't let it. I learned? At that time, I was young and I was not sensible. Don’t you think you’re not sensible? You should nurture and educate me from a young age, and you forced me to learn from a young age... "Z2z
is a good boy. Some experts have shown that children must be at least fifteen or sixteen years old before they are truly self-conscious. And the establishment of consciousness is a long process. Therefore, on the road of education, never just count on children's "consciousness"!
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Visionary parents are a little bit cruel
True visionary parents will inevitably be a little bit cruel when educating their children.
In "The Longing for Life", Liu Xianhua exposes the experience of being forced to learn the violin by his parents when he was a child. At that time, he didn't want to go. He didn't like to play the violin until he participated in a competition when he was 11 years old. Angelababy, who was on the side of
, asked him: "Do you think you are grateful to your parents now?" He did not hesitate to return: "Thank you very much." Finally Angelababy sighed with a little regret: "Why didn't anyone push me back then? "Z2z
, the beloved son of parents, has far-reaching plans.
When the children are young, if their parents do not push them, they will miss the best time to learn.
Of course, we do not recommend blindly being strict with children, but when the child's worldview and outlook on life are not yet mature, we need parents to guide them.
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Don’t be lazy with your children
Every parent hopes to give their children the best education, but they often overlook the most important thing. Parents are the best teachers, and example is the best education. In the final analysis, when parents cultivate their children's consciousness, they must first set an example and give their children a good example. When a netizen of
recalled a scene many years ago, tears were still in his eyes: When
was studying, his mother was sitting next to her and sharpened her pencils, and accompanied her to do homework every day.
But mother is not literate, only recognizes her own name. For the sake of the child, he forced himself to read and read.
A "conscious" child is mostly the result of the parents' long-term companionship, correct supervision and strict control.
As a parent, once you see that your child’s behavior goes beyond the norm, you must point it out and correct it in time, otherwise he will make mistakes again and again. The proper coercion of
is not to oppress him, but to help him overcome difficulties and make him stronger when he is weak.
In fact, the so-called education is that parents accompany their children to experience a journey with difficulties and challenges. Parents and children are the best comrades-in-arms, working together for the same goal!
