"Teach" by the school, "educate" by the family! Welcome to the parent education psychology class. This course will analyze some professional knowledge points in psychology for you. The main purpose is to let parents get rid of randomness on the road of parenting, which can be followed by evidence.
Share a story "Heinz Stealing Medicine". There is a man named Heinz who took his seriously ill wife to the doctor. The doctor told him that there is a medicine that can cure your wife’s illness, but the price It was very expensive. Heinz had no money and had to go home. Seeing his increasingly weak wife, Heinz, helpless, ran to the doctor's clinic in the middle of the night and stole the medicine and cured his wife's illness. Finally, Heinz was taken away by the police because of theft.
In response to this story, let's analyze what kind of comments children of different age groups have about Heinz's practices. From the comments, we can understand the children's "view of right and wrong", which is the moral construction of children.
We start with children aged 5 to 8. Children in this period do not have their own criteria for judging. Authorities say what they say. They completely obey the judgment of adults. Therefore, for Heinz’s approach, they only look at authority. Hein Cis was eventually arrested by the police, that means he did something wrong
Children aged 9 to 10, this period is called the "reversible stage", also called the "fair stage", they think "you give me the rules, you They must also comply with it.” This is a transitional period, which means they are beginning to challenge authority.
For children between 11 and 15 years old, this stage is called the "fairness stage". The children have their own criteria for judging. They abide by the rules, but they also consider reason. In the story, they will think that although Heinz is stealing, But he was trying to save his wife, so he was forgiven.
Children after 15 years old, they start to question the rules, they think the rules can be changed and can be more humane.
Learn about the "views of right and wrong" of children of different ages. The enlightenment for our education is: before the age of 9 years, we can directly instill in children correct concepts of right and wrong, and directly tell him what is right and what is wrong; After 9 years old, you have to learn to communicate with your child and tell him why it is right and why it is wrong? At the same time, listen to and understand their ideas.
Understand psychological knowledge, get rid of subjective assumptions, return the truth to children, and educate them!
