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Two days ago, my best friend called and said that she was going to leave the child in our house for a few days, and she was going on a business trip. I wondered, the grandparents of her children retired early, and there is nothing to do at home. Why don't they send the children there? The best friend said that the grandparents of the child are busy bringing the grandson, and she always thinks that her son is naughty and doesn't like to help bring them, so she doesn't want to bother the two elders for anything.
Many people will wonder, this kind of old man is also weird. What is the psychology of having a grandson who doesn’t bring him but ran to bring his grandson? In fact, many elderly people do not like their grandchildren, but they like their grandchildren.
The old man is partial to his daughter, and naturally he also loves his grandson.
There is a saying called Aiwu and Wu. Even if the daughter is married and becomes a member of someone else’s family, his grandson also has the family name of someone else. Children, but because the old man is partial to his daughter, he naturally loves his grandson and regards his grandson as closer to his grandson. In fact, if there is no comparison with his grandson, it is understandable that the old man loves his grandson. After all, it is also the baby born to his own daughter, who can be regarded as his own offspring, and love is nothing. However, it is inevitable that people feel unreasonable if they leave their own grandchildren with their own family names and run to bring their grandchildren.
After all, from the perspective of our traditional inheritance and raising children to protect the elderly, grandchildren are the "authentic descendants" of the elderly. Even if you want to help your children with their children and contribute money, they must first come close to their grandchildren. If the old man prefers his grandson rather than his own grandson, it is likely that he is partial to his daughter, and then he is also partial to his grandson.
My grandson is a guest, and once in a while, the old man will naturally behave affectionate
Of course, some old people are not partial to their daughters, and even all the money and property are given to their sons, and the money is paid back. They ask their daughters, but they feel that they prefer grandchildren and not relatives. Why is that? In fact, this is related to our traditional way of getting along and getting along with each other, that is, we don't pay so much respect to the people closest to us, but we are polite and enthusiastic towards unfamiliar people, relatives and friends. The grandson, as opposed to the pro-grandson, is someone who needs to be polite.
Therefore, the grandson is a guest, and the old man is naturally affectionate when he comes once in a while. For example, the old couple of my neighbors are usually very strict with their grandchildren. They are disobedient, scolding and scolding, but when their grandson comes, they will take a bite of "baby" and "good" people. Spoiled. Once, my daughter-in-law couldn't see it and said that they were partial to their grandson and did not care about their grandson. At this time, the old man couldn't help telling the truth: "My grandson is a guest. We come here once in a while. We don't behave more closely. Will he still be willing to come later? Doesn't he hurt his peace when he goes home to learn from his grandparents? Besides, we spend all our money on our grandchildren, and we usually take our grandchildren every day. Who kisses him?"
Old people don’t like daughters-in-law and don’t have much affection for grandchildren
This last one is a commonplace talk: old people don’t like daughters-in-law, they usually have a lot of conflicts, or have little contact with them, and then they don’t help with their grandchildren. , Really doesn't have much affection for grandson, so I can't talk about liking grandson. However, they have a good relationship with their daughters, they have more contact with their grandchildren, they are affectionate and naturally like their grandchildren.
A friend of mine, her in-laws have looked down on her since they got married, and they don't help with the baby when they have children, so they never kiss their grandchildren at all. Her in-laws take with their grandchildren all the year round, so for them, their grandsons are more intimate than their own grandchildren. There are actually quite a few such situations in reality.
Moms, do your grandparents love their grandchildren or grandchildren?
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