has a saying that is very right. Parents are the originals and children are the copies. If there is a problem with the copy, the problem must be with the original.
The original environment (original family and parents) determines most of a child's personality. A good family usually affects the child in a good way, while a bad family usually affects the child in a negative way. What kind of person a child becomes has a lot to do with his or her original family, unless the child is given to others to raise from birth.
Someone asked why some children are mentally unhealthy while their parents are mentally healthy. This is a good question. This may be because their parents vent unhealthy emotions on their children in a timely manner. Just look at some parents in life. They are very gentle outside, but it is unimaginable to treat their children at home. They are so hysterical that even physically and mentally healthy children are yelled into psychosis by them.
Some parents have more serious psychological problems, but they will not affect themselves, but will only affect others. They vent their bad emotions, and they vent them to the weakest person in the family (the child). They are healthy, but the child becomes a doormat. The more grievances are accumulated, the more psychological problems occur!
Previously, there was a couple like this in our place. They spoke very softly to others outside. Others thought they had good personalities and thought they were easy to get along with. There was no sign that they had any psychological problems.
But they were upset as soon as they came home. How old is their child? I don’t know if they don’t like their child or can’t stand their child, or they have been wronged outside and don’t dare to vent at home. Their children always become their punching bags. I often hear them insulting their children with very vicious words. Those words are simply unbearable. The children dare not say anything. Sometimes they hide behind the house after being beaten. Even at night, they can’t bear it!
Their behavior resulted in their children having a cowardly character. The neighbors also found it strange that they were so talkative, but why their children were so timid and afraid of getting into trouble. What's so surprising about this? Parents are cowardly to the outside world and strong to the inside, vividly displaying their inner turmoil. How can children not be cowardly under their "coercion"? If children were as strong as them and antagonized them, would they be angry to death? Children have no ability to resist when they are young, and gradually develop a cowardly character. It is difficult to change when they grow up.
Some families are like mental hospitals. The parents' mental illness always breaks out in the family. As relatively weak children, they bear all their bad emotions, accumulate grievances in their hearts, become ill over time, and end up with many psychological problems.
