On the weekend, my mother wanted to take Beibei out for a walk and find a suitable interest class for her. It seems that everyone has enrolled in these two interest classes for the new children, and parents hope that their children can have a skill. Beibei's mother is no exception. She always wants Beibei to learn piano. After all, girls are more elegant in practicing piano.
But Beibei doesn't like piano much. She prefers to dance street dance , so he asked his mother not to sign her up for piano class: "Mom, I really don't like playing the piano. Can you not sign up for piano class?" But his mother decisively rejected Beibei's request, thinking that Beibei is still young and doesn't know how much benefit the piano will bring to her. She angrily said to Beibei: "Do you know how expensive the piano class is? Do you know how much the price I paid to sign up for you? You are picky." "But I said from the beginning that I don't like piano, why do you have to let me sign up?" "Because I am your mother, I won't harm you, you must listen to me." Hearing this sentence, the sister turned her head unhappily and turned away.
Whenever parents encounter these important things and need to make decisions, I feel that the child is still young and don’t know what kind of decision is correct, so I want to ask the child to listen to adults because adults are experienced and can help them avoid detours. However, such behavior is too strong in the eyes of children. The children will feel that their parents do not respect themselves and gradually feel a sense of distance from their parents.
Although parents are kind-hearted, such arbitrary denying their children's ideas will hurt their self-confidence and make them doubt themselves. After eating too much, the child will rely on his parents at the first time every time he encounters difficulties, and it is difficult to form the habit of independent thinking.
In fact, it is easy to solve such conflicts. As long as parents do not use their own rights to suppress their children, are willing to listen to their opinions, and encourage their children to express their ideas. Maybe the child will give you more surprises.
For example, when Beibei refuses to learn piano, mothers can communicate with Beibei in the form of negotiation: "Then think about what you like? Let's discuss it before making a decision, okay?" The child will gradually calm down and no longer be affected by bad emotions.
