"Mom, I want to eat ice cream!"
"What to eat?"
"Ice cream!"
"And this winter, what are you doing with that thing?"
"No! I'm going to eat it!"
"Where will I do for you in the middle of the night?"
"I'll read it at noon today?" When I was in the refrigerator, I saw that there was something in the refrigerator! "
" It would be even better if there was one!"
" Why? "
" Why? If you can't eat, you can't eat it! Hurry up and go to bed!"
It snows in winter, it's cold and it's past 12 o'clock at night. I was writing in the study. My child suddenly came over and told me that he wanted to eat ice cream.
If it were you, what was your first reaction when you heard your child say this?
You can't eat it at night. The weather is too cold, don't eat it. No, it's too cold and go to bed quickly. It's too cold and you can't eat it...
To be honest, the child is giving you face and respecting you. I'll just say hello to you and tell you! He said he wanted to eat ice cream.
If the child doesn’t say hello to you, he will secretly run to the refrigerator to eat while you are asleep in the middle of the night. What can you do to her?
The child greets you, but as a result, you rejected it, the child immediately understood a truth: "The next time I want to eat, I won't tell you!" The older
, the less the child will tell you the truth!
So, you will find that the longer you spend with him, the less he talks to you.
Why? Because through long-term experience with you, the child has discovered a secret and a truth, that is, you know too much and have more things, and the less "safe" you are.
This is the wisdom of children! Nowadays, children under three years old are all scrupulous about stealing snacks on their backs!
So, at this time, what should parents do?
First, be honest, body movements + language expression.
pulled the child to him and told him, "Child, it's 12 o'clock in the middle of the night, it's cold and cold. You dare to eat ice cream on such a cold day, and you dare to tell me openly that you can tell me this idea, which proves that the communication between our father-in-law is quite good. You can say it honestly. This is great. Mom is very happy.
Second, inform the results, present the facts
Tell the child that after eating ice cream, you have two results. First, you are fine, you go to bed, but he is also very cold and will cool your stomach. The second is that you will get sick after eating, so you have to go to the hospital when you get sick. We also go to the hospital, and we also ask the aunt to give you an injection and an infusion. We can't stop tonight.
We want to sue.
We want to sue. Tell the child this fact and express his truest appearance.
Third, give the right to the child to the final choice.
Of course, a parent will say that if you give the final choice profit to him, then he will eat it. What should I do after eating? You can only go to the hospital! But this is his own choice! You have already told him the result.
This is much better than depriving him of the facts after making a choice! You have to let the child understand that he has to bear the result after he makes a choice.
We all want to long for the child to mature and successful, provided that you have to learn to give the right to the child within a controllable range, so that the child can truly grow!
