Love children to cultivate children with a strong heart. A strong heart in children is the confidence and sense of security in the face of an unknown future.
How to cultivate a strong child in his heart? As parents, these 5 things must be done as their children grow up.
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Give your child enough psychological nutrition
During the growth process, children should give their children enough psychological nutrition and a sense of security. Only in this way can the child be rich and strong in their hearts.
So what is psychological nutrition?
Psychological nutrition refers to the psychological nutrients needed for children during their growth, just like a person needs various nutrients to grow taller.
With nutrients, the body will grow healthier and have sufficient psychological nutrition. The child will have the right to make himself happy throughout his life.
Psychological nutrition: It is the confidence and cornerstone of children facing the unknown future!
Psychologist Lin Wencai once said:
People who lack psychological nutrition are like people are in a hungry mental state and therefore are very eager to get psychological nutrition. What are they?
It’s like a person who has been hungry for 5 days and has no food to eat. What will happen to him? He will be extremely eager to have something to eat. If he suddenly sees a bowl of dirty rice, he will eat the rice without any disgust.
Psychological nutrition is the root of a person. Where does that root come from? The root comes from the family. Simply put, it is what kind of family environment we have created for our children as parents.
Children who are born with psychological nutrition and love who are lacking in their original family will place the missing love on their future partner. After marriage, they originally hoped to get more love from their lovers, but in the end things went against their wishes.
This also leads to problems and contradictions. Therefore, giving children enough love and security from an early age will make children feel safe and confident in their hearts, and at the same time, they will be strong in their hearts because of love.
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Give your children enough affirmation and encouragement
During the growth process, children must give their children enough affirmation and encouragement, because the affirmation and encouragement of parents is the greatest confidence of children.
Dell Carnegie "The Weakness of Human Nature" writes:
People are born to like to be affirmed and encouraged, if they are educating their children.
Treat children with a relaxed, pleasant, low and gentle attitude, and the children will gain confidence and strength, and thus become more outstanding and excellent.
So, when your child expresses his progress and growth to you with joy, you must promptly affirm and encourage your child.
instead of a cold water splashing over it to destroy the child's inner hope.
Parents are the people they think are the most important in this world. They care about any good or bad reviews their parents give them.
So, a positive sentence from parents will make the child full of hope, and a negative sentence will make the child begin to question and deny himself.
Give children unconditional love and acceptance
During the growth process of children, they must give children unconditional love and acceptance. Parents' love is selfless and has no value exchange.
So, in the process of loving children, as long as it is within our boundaries, we will unconditionally tolerate and accept our children.
For example, if a child has dirty clothes or sprinkled food, don’t blame the child as soon as possible, but tell the child gently.
I know you like to play very much, and you also know that you are not careful, but next time you have to put on a coat or sit at the dining table to eat, this will not only make the child realize his behavior, but also understand how to deal with things.
As parents, we must understand that we love children because they are our children, so we want to accompany them to grow up healthily.
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Give children enough attention
During the growth process, children must pay enough attention to it, rather than ignore everything the child says and always treats the child perfunctorily.
Pay attention to children, which will make children feel that their parents love themselves and that they are the best, so they will not underestimate themselves.
For example, when Dabao says something, I will listen patiently to what Dabao says, and express my own opinions at the appropriate time, so that the child feels that I have been listening, and at the same time, it also makes her feel that I respect her very much.
Our attention and respect will help children learn how to love and appreciate themselves better, and at the same time, they also realize that they deserve beauty.
Cultivate children's ability to fight frustration and repair abilities
In the process of children's growth, they should not only give children psychological nutrition and a sense of security, but also cultivate children's ability to fight frustration and repair themselves.
Because life is not smooth sailing, we will inevitably experience various setbacks and difficulties during our growth, and we cannot always accompany our children.
Therefore, only by cultivating their ability to resist setbacks and self-repair during the growth process can they not be defeated by difficulties and setbacks when facing setbacks and difficulties, so as to achieve true psychological growth and progress.
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Author introduction:
I am Tongwei's mother, a second child born in the 1990s. I am very happy to meet you here. I often share the information about women's growth and parenting.
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