With mother-in-law helping to take care of the child, it is a relaxed and happy thing for mothers. However, if the mother-in-law takes care of the child in the wrong way, it may also turn into a tragedy for the mother.
Mother and child should have been the closest one, but grandma takes care of the child but teaches the child to quarrel with her mother
Mother is a customer service staff member of an e-commerce platform. She usually works from home, and most of the time she has to work until the early morning and gets up late the next morning. The mother-in-law helped to take care of the children at home. Her son is 5 years old and she spends a little longer playing with her grandmother than her mother.
Once my mother worked late. After getting up in the morning, she ate and rested on the sofa. The son walked out of the kitchen, pointed to his mother's nose and said, " You lie on the sofa every day, and you don't do anything . You are so lazy that you are so lazy that you don't help grandma cook ?"
Mom was also very angry when she saw her son's arrogant look. She got up and walked to the balcony, wanting to wash clothes, so she said to her son, "Why don't you help grandma wash clothes?" The son's voice became louder, put his hands on his hips, pointed at his mother with the other hand and said, "I can't, teach me!"
Mother's emotions completely broke out. She walked towards her son, knocked off his outstretched finger, and asked him, "How could you point at your mother like this? This is very rude."
A child who is only 5-year-old , will despise his mother as lazy ? Will you blame your mother for not cooking or washing clothes? If it were the child that my mother had been taking care of, I probably wouldn't have happened.
I think the fundamental reason for the conflict between mother and son is not whether the mother is lazy, but behind the child, the one standing is grandma who is dissatisfied with her mother .
My mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts will affect the child, which is also common in families. It is said that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a pair of "natural enemies". If the child is added to the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law war, it will be very unfavorable to the child's growth. Education from generation to generation has become a hand that blocks parent-child relationships, and then mother-in-law is not your helper.
Grandparents spoil, it is difficult for parents to discipline their children
Why do some young people nowadays don’t like to live with the elderly? A large part of the reason is that is not conducive to educating children . Grandparents spoil their children, which is very unfavorable to their children's growth.
When the child does something wrong, parents want to criticize and educate the child, grandparents stand up immediately to support the child and save the child from criticism and punishment. Children become fearless and become increasingly difficult to discipline.
There is grandparents here, and there is another reason why the child is not easy to discipline, that is, grandma likes to say bad things about mothers behind their backs . The child is young and has no ability to identify right or wrong. If the child often lives with his grandparents, they believe it very much. When parents' prestige in the children's mind is destroyed , the older the child, the harder it is to discipline, especially after the child enters puberty, rebellious is more serious.
There is only one child in the big family. Both parents and grandparents have selfless love for their children, and they also hope that their children love themselves more. Therefore, "Do you prefer more mothers or grandmas?" often ask children about such questions. The child is stuck between his parents and grandparents, so of course it is not easy to answer.
In a family, all families hope that their children will be well.Therefore, we must try our best to do these things that are not conducive to children's growth, unite together, and cultivate children well.
Parents should pay attention to spending more time with their children and establishing intimate parent-child relationships.
The process of raising children is very critical. He will kiss and listen to the child whoever he raises. Some parents feel that they can’t control their children after their children enter puberty, and they don’t listen to whatever you say. In fact, this shows that the attachment relationship between parents and children in childhood is not close enough. If your child does not have deep feelings for you, what you say will not have much significance to your child’s education.
Parents should More with their children , and have more high-quality interaction with their children , so that children's childhood is full of beautiful memories of being with their parents. Establishing an intimate parent-child relationship will make the family happier and will also become the capital for parents to educate their children in the future.
Home Education should maintain consistency so that children can be educated more smoothly.
The parents and grandparents at home have conflicts. If you say something, they say something, and the children often don’t know what to do. The education of children is very bad. Most families live together to take care of their children, parents and grandparents. Since parents and other elders in the family raise their children together, they must keep the principles of family education consistent. The family will be harmonious, the family will be united, and the children's discipline will be smoother.
Parents and the elderly can have a clear division of labor for raising children. For example, the elderly are responsible for taking care of their children's daily life, while parents are responsible for their children's academic performance, so the division of labor is clear and there is no easy conflict. In addition, parents should communicate more with the elderly and teach them educational concepts that adapt to the development of the times, so that the elderly can become your good helper.
There is an old family. If there is a treasure, we must not only take good care of our children, but also support our parents and learn to properly handle family relationships. This is also a compulsory course!
