On a certain online platform, there is a group called "All Parents Are Hurting". Many parents may feel nervous after seeing it. After all, most parents have never thought about what kind of harm their behavior will bring to the next generation.
Judging from the descriptions of group members, their parents have done almost no other educational things except to bring them to the world. is fine if they use past ideas to educate their children, but they also use their own thinking to stipulate their children's future routes. causes the next generation to be wronged and inferior. Parents think that their children are not good, but they don't know that they are incompetent.
The more accustomed to "pretending to be generous" on three things, the less capable they are
Some parents may not understand why their children are always "disobedient" and do not follow their wishes. But everyone is an independent individual and should have their own ideas. parents who claim to be unable to control their children, do not know that "pretending to be generous" will make their children very tired.
The more accustomed to "pretending to be generous" in these three things, the less capable they are. I hope you are not. Let's take a look together.
There is a graduate who earns less money after work and doesn't make much money for his family. He is also uneasy during the Chinese New Year. He always quarreled with his parents over small quarrels. When she changed her job and worked overtime day and night, her family relationship became much more harmonious. However, she felt that she had become a bottomless pit and often felt very distressed, and often had the idea of suicide.
For their own face, regardless of their children's ideas, is one of them. Some parents always feel that it is easy for their children to make money after they go to college. They always openly and secretly say that there is something in the family that needs money, and sensible children will also live a saving life, pay most of their salary to their homes, and borrow from their colleagues if they have anything to do.
Some students are fighting with their classmates at school. When their classmates complain, parents give students a lesson if they don’t know the whole story. Students have no chance to tell the truth. After all, in the eyes of parents who like to “pretend to be generous”, they can pass such things by enduring.
Children are bullied, but parents only know how to persuade them to "give up" and think they don't like to care. In fact, they are all wronged. Many people will feel inferior because of their original family, because when something happens, parents never stand firmly on their own side and speak for themselves.
There was a junior high school student who used violin to play a happy birthday song for his mother. Unexpectedly, after listening to it, the parents said, "Are you playing something wrong? You didn't play well enough?" The junior high school student was very sad after hearing it and didn't know what to say.
does not recognize their children, but always praises other people's children. Parents think this is a manifestation of generosity. In fact, children who have not been recognized for a long time will also be affected. Don't say anything more, "Parents are all for your own good", false.
Many parents still refute after reading it, denying their wrong behavior, and competing for the unreasonable point. It can only be said that some parents' concepts have been deeply rooted. The deeply affected post-80s and 90s need to adjust themselves well and not bring this educational concept to the next generation.
What inspiration can you give to meet such parents in your life?
In fact, many people still find it difficult to heal the trauma brought to themselves by their parents after becoming parents. In this case, try to think about it as much as possible. Think about how to bring a good educational environment to their next generation. Moreover, everyone can also turn sadness into strength, correct their thinking, and avoid becoming bad parents.
If you meet such parents in your life, you must also understand that There is a generation gap between different generations of education. Don’t throw your children to your parents easily. Most families are dual-working families nowadays, but this will have a significant impact on children who stay at home. Influenced by different generations of education, your next generation may become the same mistake again.
And encouragement education is more worthy of praise than frustration education. It is beneficial to their development to allow children with conceited personality to receive frustration education appropriately. However, children are obviously confident and have the ability to deal with challenges, so why are they still hit?
And parents should pay attention to that should have a standard in educating the next generation, and don’t always rely on the experience of people who have experienced it to point out. otherwise they will become the person they hate the most. Some parents clearly have the wrong educational philosophy they receive, but they do not change it, but they become worse. In fact, it is a harm to themselves and the next generation.
at the end: In general, life is our own, we all have what we want to do and what we need to do. Don’t be influenced by other people’s ideas, which will make ourselves more happy.
I hope that people who are unhappy in childhood can think about it in time and work hard for a better family education environment, and promote the development of the country's educational environment in a good direction, create a good atmosphere, and become excellent parents.
Topic today: Do you have any unforgettable experiences that are still hard to let go?
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