This is an era where children and mothers have a grudge. The exposure of too many cases of killing mothers has made us moms feel heartbroken. But in fact, heartbreak alone is far from enough. We should think deeply about why this situation occurs. As the people children love and rely on the most, why are they increasingly alienated from such an important person in their lives?
@小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小小My God, I'm going crazy.
@Xiaoshi: My mother is a thug in our family. She treats my dad, me, and everyone in our family equally. She will go crazy if she is not satisfied.
@Haihai: My mother says my dad is not good every day, just like all men in the world are good, only my dad is not good. It's very worried. If you say you don't want to listen, she will say that my dad and I have the same virtue.
@Crispy Ice Cream: The way to live a self-abuse is about my mother. She is always frowning and doesn’t look like she smiles. If you are happy, she will complain to you, saying that you are ignorant, do not study hard, and do not give him a sigh of relief. This or that seems to be a disaster if the family is too happy. It's really fatal.
Look at what everyone is talking about mom? She drove me crazy, she took my life. But how could this person who gave me my own life easily kill the child?
In fact, the problem with these mothers is that they are under great pressure, and at the same time, they are all exposed to their children. The children are still young and naturally cannot bear it. Their psychological weakness is that they must have gone crazy before their parents.
So, smart mothers should at least do these things well in the child's life stage, so that when the child grows up, even if something goes wrong with your role as a mother, the child will understand you and still maintain a good parent-child relationship.
1. Before the child is six years old, mothers try to accompany her as much as possible
When the child is young, they really need the company of their mothers, their love, their protection and protection. Moreover, they are still young at this time, and it is easy for mothers to set rules for their children. If the child misses this time, it will be difficult for the mother to intervene again. It is difficult to correct the rules if they are dispersed.
So, as a mother, try to accompany her children as much as possible and educate them, aiming to cultivate a warm parent-child relationship for the children, and at the same time, it is easier to "shape" the children.
2. Before the age of twelve, you should learn to communicate with your children
Children are very curious when they are seven, eight or nine years old. This is just the time when parents and children have more communication opportunities. You must grasp it well. The child will not only thank you for encouraging them, but also thank you for satisfying his curiosity. In fact, what is growing is not only the children, but also the close relationship with their parents.
A little older, when the child is eleven or twelve years old, the child will feel rebellious again, but if we communicate with the child smoothly before, the child's rebellious mood will be greatly reduced.
3. After the age of twelve, parents should give their children independent space to grow
Children began to have the awareness of growing up after the age of twelve. When they entered adolescence, they began to become self-ego and sensitive. Therefore, they needed an independent space of their own.
At this time, parents should not nag in their children's ears, but should learn to let go and let their children take care of their studies and life by themselves. If they take too much care, their children will hate your existence. It will also cause children to lose the sense of order they are trying to establish.
or above is for reference and learning only. Please do it under the guidance of professionals. On the road of parenting, we are all novices. How to better take care of children? You can follow me and discuss with me what happens on the road of parenting.
