10 years old and still sleeping in the same room or bed with your parents? I saw netizens on the Internet giving various "shocking" answers:
@Xiaotu: At that time, I was poor and lived in the same house with my parents in high school. Every time they thought I was sleeping, but in fact I didn't sleep. My parents probably wouldn't understand the shadows that I couldn't take away.
@Yixin: I heard them before I could sleep since I was a child. I didn’t dare to be afraid of them finding out that I was not sleeping. I held it in my arms. At that time, I was a little scared when I heard it. Anyway, I had a big shadow on myself.
@qing: Help I slept with my parents when I was a child, and my dad put his hand into my clothes, which was disgusting for the rest of his life.
@Yuhuan: After all, I was scared to death. I hid in the quilt and shivered. My parents slept one by one, and I slept one by one on their feet. Then the two of them had four feet, right! But I touched four feet with my hands, and stepped on one foot with five feet. I was so scared that I really thought there was a ghost and I didn't dare to sleep in my parents' bed later.
In the eyes of many parents, they always feel that their children are still young and don’t understand anything, so they say something and do something in front of them, and they “have no scruples”. But in fact, children really understand a lot. Even if they don’t understand, it is possible that your unintentional behavior will bring a "shadow" to their first life.
Seeing the reply from netizens, my thoughts floated to 20 years ago. I remember that year I was in the fourth grade and was exactly 10 years old. Because the family is poor, the family of three lives in the same room. I slept in the small bed and my parents slept in the big bed. I drank too much water that night and my stomach was not very comfortable, so I didn't fall asleep.
My parents might think I was asleep, but in the middle of the night I suddenly heard some "unpleasant" sounds. At that time, I was so scared that I was sweating all over. I didn't know how I fell asleep that night, nor when I fell asleep.
I only know that when I met my parents the next morning, I felt an indescribable "discomfort and disgusting feeling" in my heart. My feelings for my parents seem to have changed, and I have become more repulsive and do not want to communicate with them. Since that night, I proposed to sleep on the sofa outside alone, but "beat me to death" and refused to sleep in the room.
Maybe you can't understand. At the age when your child doesn't understand "love and gender", he suddenly heard and saw some undescribable things. For children, it's really like the shadow of childhood and can't be removed. This feeling will last until you grow up before you can slowly let go, and you may not let go.
So, when you reach the age, it is really necessary to sleep in separate rooms
Nowadays children know more and are smarter than before. First, the children's growth environment is more open; second, the electronic products are now developed. Children have actually understood many things for a long time. For example, my 6-year-old daughter said to me yesterday, "Mom, Dad went overtime today, why haven't he come back yet? Don't he miss you?"
In order to avoid the "childhood shadow" of children like us, and to provide them with a healthy growth environment, when they reach age, parents must "sleep in separate rooms"!
What size room is the best place to sleep in?
-minute room sleeping without a fixed quantitative time. It is enough to do it before the age of 10, but the best age is around 6 : First, because children have to enter primary school from this stage, which is more secure; second, children are gradually starting to have their own small world and small space.
If your child is still 6 years old, it doesn’t matter. Every child grows up differently, and it’s not a big problem to be a little later. But it is important to note: when the child is old, he should pay more attention to his behavior!
How to sleep smoothly in separate rooms? Sleeping in a
-point room is really as uncomfortable as weaning for children. They need to go through huge psychological tests to do it, and compared with weaning, sleeping in separate rooms may be repeated.My daughter is 6 years old and has now successfully achieved separate sleep. From crying at the beginning, waking up in the middle of the night, to relentless refusing to separate the rooms, to sleeping alone now, I used the following 2 steps:
First: First instill the concept of "sleeping in separate rooms"
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Step 2: At the age of 5, I started to try "sleeping in separate rooms" first, try during the day, and then try
at night, suddenly I went to sleep in separate rooms. The child must not be able to adapt. I was on weekends, and I took my daughter to sleep in her room alone during a nap, so that she could slowly get familiar with her small room and small bed, and then put some toys she liked in her room. When I was about 5 years old, I could take a nap in my small room on weekends.
Then transition to night. At night, I first sleep with my child in her small room and wait until she falls asleep before leaving. At the beginning, she would leave a small light for her room, and the doors were all open. Once she wakes up, I can also quickly sense comforting her.
On the weekend, I will respect her request. If I still want to sleep with us, I will sleep together, but I made an agreement in advance that I should sleep in a small room by myself. My daughter also happily agreed. Until now she is 6 years old, she can basically sleep alone.
If your child is particularly resentful of sleeping in separate rooms, you can try the following three methods:
① Let the child’s classmates and playmates encourage: "Neighbor Xiaopeng sleeps alone, do you want to try it?"
② After coaxing the child to bed before going to bed, come to accompany the child early in the morning before the child wakes up;
③ Let the children of relatives and friends come to sleep with their own children during the weekend and summer vacation.
In short: When the child reaches the age to sleep in a separate room, parents should not delay it! If your child is particularly repulsive, you can let the same-sex parents sleep alone with their children!
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