"Your son said you would ignore the police when you hit him?"
"That's my personal business, what do you care about him?"
"It's a personal business? Then you're wrong! Do you think you can hit him casually if you support him? This child is not a livestock. This is a personal, and everyone needs dignity. Don't attack the child easily. Is your dignity based on your own fist? When you can't beat him for one day, where is your dignity?"
Two days ago, a father hit the child on the grounds of talking back, and the police came to the door.
The older generation always likes to say that filial sons appear under the stick, especially in our era. However, the way young people educate their children is no longer so "violent". Because today's parents are the generation of children living under the "stick". We even have this kind of education method wrong.
My good friend and my neighbor next door are my kind of "violent" father. Often, I am being told about some trivial matters, trivial matters, or even irrelevant things.
originated from this. She is in her thirties and still doesn't want to fall in love, let alone get married. It was a terrible thing for her to see her get married. Home is even more terrible. Because in her heart, she was extremely insecure.
Children are disobedient, so it is normal to teach them a lesson occasionally, but they should pay attention to methods. If you blindly rely on force to suppress it, then your child will be very insecure, timid and cowardly in such an environment. At the same time, when he grows up, he is likely to become the next you.
In fact, children's sense of security comes from their parents. With children with a sense of security, they will show a positive and happy, lively and active personality.
On the contrary, children will show indifference and irritability, and form an introverted personality.
"I really hope my parents have read this book" says:
"One of the most important indicators of mental health is the close relationship between parent-child relationship."
The original intention of raising a child is to hope that he will grow up happily, the ultimate wish of raising a child is to create a world jointly by parents and children. Warm love and flowing emotions are the bridge that connects children and parents.
We should give the love we need, pay attention to the child's emotions, rather than whether the child does what he does meets the standards;
What we need to pay attention to is whether we have broken the principles, rather than whether the child has done it;
At any time, we should keep our eyes open to trust the child; always stand behind him and give him strength.
No matter how old the child is, always treat parents as a way out and happiness. Please do not use your "hands" to push the child away.
