I saw a question on Zhihu: "If I am a sister, should I give in to my younger brother unconditionally?"
In fact, many parents’ catchphrase of educating their children is "If you are the older one, you should give in to the younger one", but in fact, such an educational method is very wrong, which is very unfair for both older children and younger children.
Nowadays, a video of a couple educating their two children is popular. In the
video, a 3-year-old girl was eating quietly. But he knew that the 1-year-old brother walked over with his body and punched his sister. At first, the girl was beaten and didn't say anything, and she still ate quietly, but her brother seemed to think that hitting her sister like this was a fun thing, so he punched her again.
The little girl who was beaten twice by her brother for no reason was stunned and didn't know how to do it. At this time, the father of the two children directly shouted: "Sister, call back!"
. After hearing the father asked his sister to call back, the clever brother performed a scene on the spot, "I feel very wronged, I want to cry" on the spot, but the father was not soft-hearted about his son's grievances. Then, he told his daughter like this, "If your friend beats you for no reason in the future, then don't be afraid of trouble and just hit you back."
Perhaps, some people may think that the father's education method is too extreme, but if you listen to his next words, you may change your mind.
While the father told his daughter, "We won't cause trouble, but don't be afraid of trouble," he also turned around and preached to his 1-year-old son: "You can't bully people casually. It takes a price to bully people casually."
At the same time, the mother sitting not far away did not speak out, perhaps because she had acquiesced to her husband's way of education for her children.
I don’t know if you have watched a parent-child variety show called "Dad Become the Home". In the show, the world street dance champion Xiao Jie made a brilliant debut with a pair of children. Many people praised his daughter Xiao Yuner for being weird and her son Xiao Liner was mature and steady, but more people like their family’s educational atmosphere. There is an issue with
. Yoona also provoked her brother for no reason, and punched her brother heavily, perhaps in the world of children, but Xiao Jie and his wife did not think so. They agreed that the brother could tolerate her sister, but at the same time, the sister should not treat her brother as a toy to tease her and punch her hard.
Perhaps some people will still think that Xiao Yuner, who is over 2 years old, is still a child, and it is normal for her not to understand these principles. But in fact, children nowadays are not stupid. On the contrary, they are very smart. If parents blindly ignore their ignorant children on the spot and deliberately ignore the positive guidance of their children, then over time, some areas that have been ignored will not be corrected.
So, no matter how old it is for children, parents should communicate and educate them with an equal identity. Only in this way can children grow up quickly and thrive under the guidance of positive education.
People all laugh at "relying on the elderly to sell their old age", but in fact, "relying on the small to sell their young" is also one of the unscrupulous behaviors. The families of two or even three children are prone to cause many educational problems, and how to keep a bowl of water as flat as possible has caused many parents to think. However, if parents blindly use the educational method of "big children should give in to the children", then a bowl of water will definitely not be able to become flat.
