Author: Wu Ling I don’t know why, but many parents like to control their children. Let them follow your thinking, or set a bunch of rules and they must follow this. Maybe many children will choose to passively accept it. Colleague Xiaoqiang said: Of course I can tolerate the requ

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I don’t know why, many parents like to control their children. Let them follow your thinking, or set a bunch of rules and they must follow this.

Maybe many children will choose and passively accept it. Colleague Xiaoqiang said: Of course I can tolerate the request, which is not excessive, but it exceeds a person's bottom line. Even parents must explain the matter clearly.

About one day last month, Xiaoqiang, who had been tired for a day, came home and lay on the bed, wanting to go to sleep directly. He felt that the temperature today was not high and he did not sweat. You're in an air-conditioned office all day, so it shouldn't matter if you don't take a shower!

But just when he was about to fall asleep, his mother suddenly rushed into the room and asked him loudly: Why don't you wash it? Are you ready to sleep like this?

Xiaoqiang opened his eyes and replied: Yes! It’s not hot today, so I won’t wash it! Moreover, I washed it yesterday and it’s not dirty!

After hearing this, my mother immediately rolled her eyes. What does it mean to not be hot? What is the temperature today? It must be at least 20 degrees! If you don't take a shower at this temperature, are you preparing to get dirty to death? And go to bed directly, who can stand such a sloppy person like you. Get up quickly and go wash it!

No! I won’t go, I’m so sleepy, let me sleep first! It’s not too late to wash it again tomorrow! Xiaoqiang replied not to be outdone.

As for Xiaoqiang's mother, when she saw that her son didn't listen to her words, she couldn't suppress her anger and spat out from her mouth: "You are so shameless, you don't even take a shower every day, making yourself sloppy." No wonder no girl likes you. With your image, it’s weird if someone wants you.

Unexpectedly, Xiaoqiang was determined to ignore her, causing her mother to go back to the room angrily. But not long after, my father ran over. He asked his son to wash it quickly to prevent your mother from chewing me and making me feel very uncomfortable.

Xiaoqiang was completely speechless at this time. Why would his mother have to control such a trivial matter, such as taking a bath? He couldn't have his own ideas and had to follow hers? For a moment, Xiaoqiang thought of many little things in life. His mother had strict rules for every matter. If he didn't do it, he would be scolded or beaten.

God knows how he got here after so many years. It was simply hell on earth.

Thinking of this, Xiaoqiang decided that he couldn't bear it anymore this time. He was already 26. If he was controlled by his mother again, would he be able to survive in the future?

He came outside his parents' room and told his mother loudly, "You are so controlling and you are not doing it for my own good at all!" I can't decide whether to take a shower or not, so what's the point of living in this home? If you are still like today, I will have no choice but to move out, you are suffocating me!

After that day, the mother and son naturally had a cold war for a long time. But can the problem be solved? I think it's impossible. Can a person change his or her habit at a moment's notice? What's more, Xiaoqiang's mother's rules have penetrated into every aspect of life. If you want her to give up her demands all at once, it will probably be more uncomfortable than killing her.

Although, I agree with Xiaoqiang’s mother on whether to take a bath or not. Isn't it more comfortable to sleep cleanly? But if the other party doesn't like it or doesn't want to, there's no need to force it. Everyone is an independent individual, and even if it is a child born by yourself, you need to respect his or her ideas.

blindly instills his own ideas, sometimes it will only produce feelings of disgust. In this way, not only do you fail to teach your children well, but you also hurt their feelings. Being controlling is not necessarily a bad thing, but when your child gets older and it’s time to fly, let him fly!

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