original leyouyou come on good sons and daughters 2022-07-05 07:36 published in Shandong
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On Saturday night, I went to the supermarket .
Before entering, the young man and I started looking for shopping carts. The number of shopping carts in this supermarket was, for some reason, so small that we often had to wait at the door for people to come out after checking out. Every time I have to wait for several cars to get in line.
The young man and I waited for a few cars at the checkout counter, but when we didn’t get one, I wanted to go to the other entrance to find a car. The young man followed behind and walked slower. I was walking in front when I suddenly heard him calling me from behind. I looked back and saw that he was holding an empty shopping cart, so I hurried back.
At this time, an aunt next to me was talking about something. She said several words with a reluctant expression. I guessed that the car belonged to her, and the guy pushed it over.
I told her: This is your car, right?
I told the guy: This is my aunt’s car, don’t push it.
I was about to lead the young man away, but the aunt was still talking about something. I can’t remember it now. Judging from her expression, she was still unhappy. I said to her: Maybe he didn’t know that the car was yours, and he didn’t mean it. ,Excuse me. (I felt a little unhappy at the moment, because I felt that even if the child mistakenly robbed her car, she would not keep talking)
The aunt continued to talk, and then I understood that she said it was not about the car, but about the car. The young man took the spectacle lenses she had placed there.
I asked her which one she moved? Was it damaged? Because I have told the guy many times not to touch anything on the stall, so I need to ask the guy if he touched other people’s things?
The aunt said that the young man had taken off the purple one. I took a look and saw that the lens was attached to it and was not easy to take off.
I asked the young man and he said he didn’t take any, not any color. At that moment, my mind was running: Do I need to call in surveillance? Who should be believed? Did the guy take it? Could it be that he was pushing the car in a hurry and bumped into it? Do I have to pay compensation if it gets damaged? I think it's more likely that he accidentally bumped into me, because he didn't have time to look for the car and get the lenses, which was the short time it took me to walk a few steps, but I also felt that this aunt wouldn't have to frame someone. child.
I continued to ask the young man which color lens he had touched. He still said that he didn’t take it, and started wiping his eyes with his hand. He didn’t cry, but he seemed a little aggrieved. I decided not to continue asking, and turned around to ask the aunt: Which one did he touch? Has it been damaged? Because I told him not to touch the things in the stall.
The aunt said: It’s okay.
I expressed my thanks and pushed the young man in the car away.
After walking into the supermarket, I stopped and said to the guy seriously: Did you take the lenses just now? The guy
still said: I didn’t take it, not any of it.
I said: If you do touch it, you must tell me. From now on, remember not to touch things on other people’s stalls. If they are damaged, we will have to compensate. If you didn't touch it and others say you did, mom believes what you said. Don't admit it. Don't worry. Mom trusts you.
The guy nodded.
could see that he felt at ease.
So, we continued to visit the supermarket.
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In fact, at that moment, my first reaction was probably to believe what the aunt said. The guy didn’t admit it because he didn’t dare to admit it and was afraid that I would lecture him.
But I was glad that I didn’t force him to admit it. Maybe, he really didn’t encounter it and the aunt was wrong.I even wondered if it was possible that the guy with the crooked lens helped straighten it? Or maybe he touched it by accident. If I really hit it and it broke, if the aunt insists that I pay compensation, if the guy admits that he touched it by himself, I will definitely compensate. If the guy still insists that he didn't hit it by himself, I will choose to call the supermarket surveillance, no Will deal with problems confidently.
Moreover, I will also tell this guy:
was your fault. You must boldly admit it and take responsibility.
If you didn’t encounter it, don’t admit it, mom believes in you.
It is important for children to learn to take responsibility, but I think it is more important for them to know that their mother trusts them. Knowing that his mother would not scold him for no reason, he would have the courage to admit it next time something like this happened.
This seems to be a small thing
In fact, it is a big thing
