As long as you want a child and have enough financial ability, having a child of your own is a good choice!
Some girls even don’t want to get married and serve their husbands and husband’s family, so they directly buy sperm to get pregnant and have children. So I personally think it’s normal for you to want to give birth to a child.
Here are some suggestions for your reference:
First of all, I personally don’t think you need to resign. The country has special protection regulations for women. Companies are not allowed to fire employees when women are pregnant and breastfeeding. Otherwise, you can go to the Labor Arbitration Commission to sue the company.
Moreover, national regulations do not specify that you must be married to enjoy this kind of treatment, so both unmarried and married people can enjoy it.
The most important thing is that as long as you don’t resign, the cost of giving birth can be reimbursed, and the salary during maternity leave is also a state subsidy! It is said that these two sums of money were given by the state, but were distributed to the mothers through their work units. Don’t miss out on this good thing by resigning.
In addition, since you are not planning to get married, your financial resources are normal! Even if the lactation period lasts for two years, it can still allow you to not worry about work and living expenses for both of you during the most difficult two years. Therefore, it is recommended not to resign impulsively. How to operate
can be learned by dialing the government’s social security hotline 12333. This phone number is available in every city and does not require real-name consultation, so you can call it multiple times, even from one place to another. It is much more reliable than someone asking about your company's personnel!
People in the human resources department of many units will call this number for consultation after you ask questions, so consulting the government directly is the most reliable way. But never give up on the country’s protective measures for women and children!
In addition, if you have financial difficulties in the future, you can also check the provisions on family and family relationships in the Civil Code . Even if children are born out of wedlock , parents have the responsibility and obligation to raise their children. Be an adult.
So, even if you are very stubborn, even if you are not prepared to hold the father of your child responsible, but you know the provisions of the laws and regulations, and you can still give yourself some room for maneuver when you have to, so that you will not be caught off guard!
Also, are you going to invite a confinement nanny to a confinement center, or are you going to ask your parents to help take care of you? It’s best to think and prepare in advance.
Don’t think that your parents should help you take care of your children during confinement. Your parents don't have this responsibility and obligation. If someone doesn't help you, it's their duty, but if they help you, it's their love. You must have a grateful heart.
Finally, it is very hard to take care of your child during the confinement period. It is recommended that you hire a confinement nanny during the confinement period so that your mother will not be too tired. After the maternity leave, hire a nanny or part-time worker to reduce your mother's workload, which will last longer.
Of course, if your parents won't help, life will be more difficult for you! During the confinement period, you can go to a confinement center or hire a confinement nanny. After the maternity leave, you can hire a nanny and install many cameras at home to monitor the situation at home at any time.
Either find a freelance job, work from home, or work flexibly, so that you can have enough time, energy, and financial ability to let you two live a comfortable life.
Because you have to face life alone, you must plan and prepare well when you are pregnant and have a baby. Only in this way can you and your children live a normal life, and not be a drag on your family or society!
Finally, if you are unemployed, you can also ask 12333 how to apply for unemployment benefits. If you really can't survive, you can also ask how to apply for relief funds.
Please be prepared, be self-reliant, have enough food and clothing, and rely on yourself is the right way!
I wish you get what you want, a healthy mother and child, and a happy life!
