Education is not innate. If a child does not have someone to teach him good habits and relevant knowledge, he must be ignorant and superficial. Tiantong Meiyu believes that parents can start from the following points to teach a well-educated child.
1. Basic etiquette education
Education is all about details. From basic social rules to the etiquette of dealing with others, they need to be taught slowly to children and soaked in every bit of daily life. Observe public order, lower your voice in public, have table manners, greet people politely, set a good example for your children in every specific life situation, and guide them with reminders, exhortations, etc.
2. Establish boundaries with others
Close lovers and friends still need a certain sense of boundaries, let alone ordinary people. Helping children establish boundaries with others from an early age reflects good literacy and respect for others. Don't take other people's things casually, ask for the other person's opinion before physical contact, don't crowd or grab, line up in a civilized manner, don't just consider your own feelings when doing things, learn to be considerate of others and be humble.
3. Give children the opportunity to take responsibility
Nowadays, living standards have improved. In addition to studying, parents are not willing to let their children endure hardship and do things. This just deprives their children of the opportunity to learn to take responsibility. Many parents lament that they have paid so much, but as a result, their children do not know how to understand themselves and have raised "white-eyed wolves". This is precisely the key reason.
Let your children do housework at home, and know how to show weakness to your children, such as: "Mom is a little tired at work, can you give her a pat on the back?", giving your children the opportunity to care and take care of themselves. In the process of taking on these small responsibilities, children can gradually learn to take care of the feelings of others and not only care about themselves. This is the essence of growth.
4. Teach children to manage their emotions
A well-educated person will not vent his emotions wantonly regardless of time and occasion. Patience, peace, and knowing how to express one's emotions appropriately are not only beneficial to children's interpersonal communication, but also an ability to better adapt to society in the future. Teaching children to manage their emotions is also a kind of emotional intelligence education. Because children are young and do not know how to express and vent their feelings when they are angry, frustrated or emotionally excited, at this time, they need active guidance from their parents.
When a child expresses his emotions by crying, throwing tantrums, rolling around, etc., parents should not coax him immediately. Wait until he has had enough troubles and is obedient before comforting and listening to his voice. This message should be conveyed to the child: If anything happens, just do it. Speak it out, crying will not solve the problem. You can also teach children more effective ways to relieve their emotions by reading books, being alone in a daze, practicing calligraphy, etc. It is also a good way to clarify their thoughts.
5. Do not indulge your children.
No matter how young the child is, you must teach him the correct view of right and wrong. Only when children know whether their actions are right or wrong can they form correct ideas. If adults do not stop wrong behavior in time, the child will only get worse and worse, and it may even lead to catastrophe.
Tiantong Meiyu suggests that parents should seize every opportunity to make mistakes and guide their children correctly instead of trying to find excuses for them.
