Parents are the first teachers for their children's growth. Their character and education are related to their children's future.
1. An important representative of Confucianism, Zeng Zi, who is respected by the world as "the sage of ", attaches great importance to the education of children.
Once, Zengzi was going to the market. His six-year-old son was crying and wanted to go to the market with him. No matter how much Zeng Zi's wife coaxed her, her son would never listen. When Zengzi's wife had no choice but to make up a lie to coax the child, she said, "We are waiting at home for father to come back to kill the pig and fry the meat for you to eat." After hearing this, the child no longer bothered.
Zengzi came back from the market and immediately slaughtered a pig at home, and then fried the meat for his children.
means what you preach! If you want your children to grow up to be honest people, parents must first do it and set an example.
2. Teaching by words and deeds
There was a general Tao Kan in the Jin Dynasty. When he was a child, his family was poor, and Tao Kan could only deal with a group of poor children. In order to help Tao Kan gain knowledge and skills, Tao Kan's mother spun twine day and night, took it to the market, exchanged it for money, and gave it to Tao Kan. His mother wanted Tao Kan to associate with local knowledgeable and prestigious people.
With the help of his mother, young Tao Kan became a knowledgeable and capable person. He became the head of a local department, specializing in supervising fishing matters. Once, Tao Kan took several kilograms of fresh fish home from work. When her mother saw it, she immediately sent Tao Kan back to where he was. She scolded Tao Kan and said, "As a person in charge, taking things from the government home is not only useless, but it also makes me worry that you are going astray."
Under the supervision of his mother, Tao Kan became famous for working harder and being honest and honest.
In the winter when the snow was falling and the cold wind was howling, an official stayed at Tao's house. There were many officials and horses, and the Tao family was very poor with only four walls. Tao Kan was in trouble. Mother said, just keep the guests, I can do the rest.
Mother cut off her long hair that was hanging down to the ground, made two pairs of wigs, and exchanged it for a few kilograms of rice in the market; she also took down the useless beams on the roof beams and used them as firewood; she smashed the straw mats she slept on to use as firewood. Feed the horses with fodder. Finally, my mother prepared a table of exquisite wine and rice to entertain the guests, and even the entourage was satisfied.
After this official arrived in the capital, he vigorously promoted Tao Kan and his son. As a result, Tao Kan was promoted step by step and became a general. Later, someone said with emotion that only with such an outstanding mother could she cultivate an outstanding son like Tao Kan.
Mother's help, education, and leading by example are very important for the growth of children.
3. Rewards based on merit
A mother has three children. One time, my mother took out several apples, which were red and different in size. The children were all vying for the biggest one.
The mother took the reddest and largest apple in her hand and said to the children, let's have a competition. Each person is responsible for mowing a lawn. Whoever does it best and fastest will be the champion, and the best apple will belong to him. .
My mother divided the lawn in front of the house into three pieces. The children were happy to accept their mother's proposal and participated in the competition happily. As a result, the second child won first place and got the big apple.
’s mother’s education made the children understand a simple truth. If you want to get the best, you must strive for the first place.
Later, all three children remembered their mother’s words and strived to be first in their studies and work. All three children are promising, one has become a lawyer, one has become an engineer, and one has become a doctor.
This method of educating children is used by many mothers to let their children understand the principles of gain and giving.
