Reasons for the difficulty in waking up children
Many parents have encountered difficulties in waking up their children. Since the child is sent to the kindergarten, the wake-up ceremony must be done every morning. Indispensable.
No matter how you shake this little baby, she doesn’t want to wake up. She twists her body and rubs her eyes and rolls over and then goes to sleep. There are some children who will "get up" and cry and make trouble for a while, Dad The mothers are anxious and distressed, not willing to let their children cry, time is tight, afraid of their children being late for school, and also afraid of themselves late for work.
The "supernatural powers" of the parents of each family are also different.
Some are gentle, call them repeatedly, and help their children dress while calling.
Some people know the reason and move with affection. If you can't afford it, you will be late, hurry up, and of course have to repeat it more than once.
is still full of firepower, yelling, hurting myself and hurting children, making me depressed early in the morning.
Kindergarten is okay. After elementary school, the school’s discipline is very strict. Children get up and "meshed" is repeated every day, and their moves seem to be ineffective. Unknowingly, parents still repeat the methods that are not effective. .
Of course, there are also parents who love to learn, learn effective methods, and practice them, and spent one happy morning with their children.
How do Japanese mothers get their children up
Let’s take a look at the Japanese chapter of the educational documentary "Childhood in a Foreign Country", the mother of 4-year-old girl Wakamatsu is How did you wake her up?
Mom gently entered the room, opened the curtains, and said good morning to the child. Through the curtains, you can see that the sky is just getting bright.
Then lift the quilt (some parents may think that the child will not catch a cold, the child needs to adapt and exercise, not blindly protection), call the child's nickname, say good morning again, and wake up , Gently touch the child’s chest and pick up the child. At this time, Ruosong rubbed his eyes and felt a little unhappy. The mother said, "Come on, come on," and the unhappiness disappeared when the child was sober.
Mom took the child to the living room, Ruosong and the younger brother in the living room and others asked good morning. This is a mother with two children. It is really not easy to have to deal with two babies by one person. The little brother is quiet. Sitting on the toy car, Ruosong rubbed his eyes again, and his mother smiled. The whole process did not exceed 5 minutes.
Then, Ruosong went to wash himself, and put away the small bench with his feet after washing.
Mother Ruosong said such a thing when the child changed clothes.
"Because the child is still very young, when she is not having fun, she won't listen to the adults."
"There will usually be some days when she just won't be obedient and follow the rules. Will reluctantly ask her, but will communicate with her in other ways."
"For example, if this mother does it for you, then you will do this with your mother in the competition. Use this game-like language to communicate with her. "
" In this case, although she can't be perfect every time, she will also learn to do her best in a day."
The 4-year-old Ruosong changed her pajamas and folded them. , Put on school uniform. At the table, I started to do the small topics my mother set up every day. My mother helped the child comb his hair. At this time, the breakfast was also ready. The child said "I'm going to start" in a polite and ceremonial manner before eating breakfast. Put your hands together and say "Quickly eat".
After eating breakfast, Ruosong carried his own bag, and the young and old set off to the kindergarten calmly and happily.
During the whole process, the mother has a gentle attitude, the procedures are very organized, and the children will do what they should do. It seems that many mothers sigh, "This is someone else's child".
Actually, children's good habits and performance are inseparable from the guidance and cultivation of parents.
How to wake up the child? The following coup is used
- Good work and rest schedule to ensure adequate sleep time for the child
As the child grows older, the sleep time will gradually decrease, and elementary school students generally must ensure 9 Hours of sleep time, so ensuring your child’s sleep time is the basis for your child’s healthy growth.
In order to have enough time before going out the next morning, parents should calculate the time for their children to wake up. For example, it takes 30 minutes to get up to school before 8:00, and it takes 1 to get up to wash and eat breakfast. Hours, and 10 minutes of emergency handling time is reserved, then the child needs to get up at 6:20.
6: Get up at 20, the child needs 10-20 minutes to prepare to fall asleep before falling asleep, you can tell the child the story of the picture book, chat, and calculate the child’s bed time as 21:00.
21: 00-6:00 is exactly 9 hours.
- Overcome the difficulty of sleeping late
I met many parents who said, so early, I often stay up late, some work overtime, some are playing mahjong, for various reasons , I can't get up very sleepy in the morning.
Parents work hard every day. Every day they come home from work, they have to cook, watch their children do homework, and even work overtime at home. It is really hard. However, the good habit of developing early to bed and early to rise can not only become a child By example, you can also keep your body healthy.
You can do exercises with your children every night after meals to improve your body function and energy.
Do a good job of time management and get rid of procrastination.
- Discuss the agreed schedule and process with their children
Many parents do not have the habit of discussing and deciding one thing with their children. They are used to order requirements, try to start a family After the meeting and discussion, you will fall in love with this format, which not only enhances the parent-child relationship, but also allows children to think independently, and children are more willing to abide by the rules they have participated in.
Make the topic of the discussion clear and ask why the child can't get up in the morning? The child would say because he didn't sleep enough? The child may say that he slept too late last night and other reasons. At this time, the parents can tell the child that we will come together to find a way to help you, what do you think? Parents can also say what they think.
We can write down these methods on paper, sign all fights on it, arrange a board of the convention at home, post it, and everyone will follow this.
- Difficulties and problems that will be encountered
This is just the beginning, but there will be some problems:
After adjusting the schedule, the child cannot fall asleep. Still restored to what it was before.
Parents can't control their anger, and the situation has become out of control.
The child is still slow and has to be late again.
If the child does not do well, let me help her do it.
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First of all, it is necessary to calm down, raising children is always not that simple. When we encounter problems, we will find ways to solve them, but don’t solve them by venting our emotions. Some things can be dealt with in the spare time after dinner.
Secondly, we must guide the child to learn to be responsible for his actions, and don’t worry about him, so if you are late, let the child bear the consequences of being late, and be hungry before breakfast. After all, you will be hungry for one meal or two. , It will not affect the child's physical health, let the child learn from experience.
Furthermore, for children of different ages, different languages should be used to guide. For example, Japanese mothers use this method for 4-year-old Wakamatsu.
Be patient and practice more. Things may not get better at first, maybe worse than before, as long as we insist on practicing in the right way, there isOne day you will be pleasantly surprised to discover the changes in your child.
You no longer have to envy "other people's children".
