Which one do you think is better if children talk more or less? Different parents have different views on this. Some time ago, when Professor Peng Kaiping of Tsinghua participated in a talk show, his views may bring different inspirations to everyone.
Professor Tsinghua: What kind of talents will society need in the future? Thinking and communication are the most important
In this talk show, Professor Peng Kaiping mentioned that the future society needs more talents that cannot be replaced by artificial intelligence, and there are two key aspects, the first is thinking, the second is It is communication.
Professor Kaiping Peng believes that in terms of thinking, machines lack sufficient human imagination, so in the future such talents cannot be replaced by artificial intelligence. And communication is because humans have many magical "charms" in their speech, being able to speak complex emotions that machines cannot express, and play many meanings such as propaganda and summoning. This is also very important for children.
So with the rapid development of artificial intelligence today, it is extremely important to cultivate excellent communication skills for children if they are not eliminated by society in the future. If children are just blindly "taciturn", they may suffer a lot of "dumb losses" ”.
How big is the gap between the children who talk more and those who talk less? It may be more serious than you think
A scholar in the United States once conducted such an experiment. They took 2 and a half years to select criteria based on academic qualifications and occupation, and tracked and recorded all conversations from 42 families. Among them, includes middle-class families from mentally working families, ordinary families from working-class families, and some poor families in need of welfare and relief . Their children are 13-36 months old, and the results of the experiment It was a surprise.
The results show that children from mentally working families can hear an average of 487 sentences per hour, while children from families receiving welfare assistance,On average, only 178 sentences can be heard every hour. 3 -year-old children have heard a total of 3,200,000 words.
So why is there such a big gap? Researchers believe that parents of mentally-worked families have more free time and more time to accompany their children, while parents who need welfare and relief families are tired of work, so the time to communicate with their children is greatly reduced.
Children who talk more and who talk less do not only bring about a gap in communication skills. Researchers also found that those children with large vocabulary have better intellectual development during a return visit 10 years later. Among the children who heard the most words , The IQ reached _strong16 117 , and the lowest child IQ was only 79 , that is, in a sense, more words and less words also explain the specific performance of the child on the intellectual level.
And as children get older, the gap between more and less talk may be further highlighted. For example, on the cognitive level, children who talk more often have more active thinking and are more concerned about the world. The cognition is also better, and at the personality level, children who talk more will be more sunny and cheerful, on the contrary, children who are less prone to have some personality problems and tend to be introverted.
In this regard, Professor Li Meijin once said in a speech "Children_strong16 6 Before the age of 15strong, the nagging of parents is golden" , the communication between parents and children is important to the child's language development Irreplaceable role.
Find the correct way to communicate with children. Smart children are "chat" out
Many parents actually do not master the correct way of communication when communicating with their children. It is often easy to feel that there is no topic. "Chat to death". For example, when communicating with children, Zangzang will ask "Do you like this game?" and "Are you happy today?" The child only needs to give an affirmative or negative answer, and the communication between parents and children will have to end.
When we communicate with children, may as well ask more detailed and open questions, so that children can give a more detailed answer , so as to extend the topic continuously and achieve high-quality communication between parents and children.
For example, when talking to children about eating, this can be extended to the issue of food saving, what efforts the country has made to feed 1.4 billion people, Yuan Longping’s contribution to society, etc., to maintain high quality with children Effective communication, and invisibly triggers children's useful thinking, and expands the depth and breadth of their knowledge.
and When communicating with their children, parents need to pay attention to their children’s feelings as the orientation. If the children are indifferent to the topic they are talking about, or have no empathy, parents can change the topic appropriately , Fully pay attention to the child's feelings, so that the communication between the two parties is always in a more positive state.
Summary:
William Herzlit once said that "The art of talking is the art of listening and being heard" , our parents should also pay attention to the communication skills when communicating with children. Some small methods stimulate children's desire to communicate, find the right way to communicate with children, and help children grow up healthily.
Today’s topic: Do you usually spend a lot of time communicating with your children?
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