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Young people who are not yet in their thirties have long lost their so-called vitality and are only a dull and dusk look.
Middle-aged people who have families to take care of have long lost their early ambitions and only infinite sighs left.
The elderly who are about to retire have no expectations for the family happiness in their later years, only a treacherous helplessness.
To be honest, there are too many people who are relatively "premature". is not yet that age and already knows what is going to happen to me. Just like young people, they have already sensed the limitations and powerlessness of life before they reach middle age.
Just look at the young people in big cities and you will know it clearly.
In the subways of Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, all young and middle-aged people were frowning, as if others owed them money. has some energy, and will also use your phone to browse it. Those who have no energy have a dull expression and empty eyes.
They lived to be numb at an age that should not be empty. I think the pressure they are under may exceed our imagination.
Not everyone is qualified to be born in a good family, live a comfortable life, and enjoy a happy life. Most people can only live like they keep working hard, and this is the case for their whole life.
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Looking at my children who accept their fate, I feel guilty for the rest of my life.
Mr. Chen from the countryside has a pair of children. His son is 30 years old this year and his daughter is 28 years old this year. Coincidentally, 's son and daughter both left the big city and returned to their hometown, preparing to spend the rest of their lives in a small town.
Hearing the words "The rest of your life", Mr. Chen's heart couldn't help but beating faster and faster. He asked in confusion: "You are just thirty years old, why do you talk about the word "rest of your life"?"
's son shook his head and said with emotion: "I have worked in a big city for seven years, and my youth has been dedicated to the landlord, boss and so-called work. Now I have saved a little money, and I can't stand it in a big city, and I can't buy a house and get married in my hometown. This is how life is."
Mr. Chen looked at his daughter and said, "Daughter, You don’t have to worry about the house and car. Just find someone to marry. Why do you have to think so much? "
The daughter immediately refuted her father: "Is it just the only thing left to say about 'marrying' in my life? Looking at your messy marriage with your mother, living your life with hard work and meaninglessness, is it really valuable? Anyway, I don’t want to get married."
Mr. Chen didn’t know what to say, so he could only let them go. Now that couple are reviewing and practicing questions at home, hoping that civil servants who can go ashore in towns can live at least a little more stable.
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There are too many parents, all like Mr. Chen, who come from the countryside, and cannot afford to buy a house and a car, and even the resources that should be available cannot be provided to children. Therefore, a child is destined to have an ordinary and mediocre life.
Some children, let alone ordinary people, can't even find their other half. Perhaps, it is not that they don’t want to find it, but that the actual material conditions are beyond the scope of ordinary people.
is also strange. More than ten or twenty years ago, people's concept of money and material things was not that serious. Today, more than ten or twenty years later, people's concept of money and material things has actually reached a "demonic" state.
Young people will be worried because they cannot change their destiny and cannot make much money; middle-aged people will be worried because they are unemployed in middle age, cannot support their families, and are looked down upon; elderly people will be worried because they cannot protect their children from getting old and the pension costs are too high.
people have been bound by the so-called "money and material things" throughout their lives.Gradually, people in material life began to doubt their lives and began to stop getting married and having children.
Today's young people, such as those born in the 1990s, are too different from those born in the 1960s, 1970s and 1980s, as if the post-90s are an alien. Perhaps, it is because the education of 90s has improved and has seen through life, so he resolutely chose to live alone and has no idea about starting a family and starting a career.
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We should notice that there are fewer young people talking about marriage and more young people who do not want to start a family and start a business. There are more young people without any desires, and there are fewer young people with vitality.
The dusk has become the norm for young people, middle-aged people and the elderly today.
Many people will wonder, if middle-aged and elderly people are "deep in a state of depression", why do young people always have "deep in a state of depression"? Because of the pressure of life, they overdraw their hope for the future.
In Guangzhou, I met a 30-year-old man with a mortgage of 3 million yuan. He said this: "Maybe, I will not pay the 3 million yuan on the day I left. In order to get a broken marriage, I spent my whole life and took on the money I could not pay back in two lifetimes. I really got my brain." There are too many young people like
in Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen. They are usually graduates from prestigious universities and work in the city centers of first-tier cities. looks like a senior white-collar worker and a senior intellectual, but in fact they are just worker bees who have worked hard all their lives for steel and cement.
Perhaps, it is not that people take the initiative to become dull, but that reality makes people have to be dull. Just like the guys and girls who deliver takeout today, there are countless middle and high-education people. It can only be said that not everyone is qualified to choose their own life.
The truth is ugly, but it is very realistic. Everything is worth our deep thought.
text/Shushan Youlu
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