Ask yourself, are you afraid of trouble?
most people hate trouble. We have been on the road to pursuing simplicity.
As the writer Yishu said : "Please come to you and you will deal with it. If not, let it sleep."
Sadly, some people like to cause trouble and also affect the fish pond.
Look carefully and you will find that there is a kind of person who lives a very transparent life, lives a peaceful life in the prosperity, and gets rid of most of the troubles.
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Don’t bother others, please help yourself.
Xunzi said: "Goodness is in one's body, one must be kind by oneself; badness is in one's body, one must be evil by oneself."
If you are kind, everything can be accomplished; if you are not good, one will be futile. Most lives are also suitable for this rule.
magnification, you have to grasp what your life will become, sometimes good and sometimes bad. If you are a muddy person and ask the craftsman to help you turn into a house, this is impossible, and you will be ridiculed and ridiculed by the craftsmen.
Therefore, you are used to not bothering others, and you will strengthen yourself and surpass yourself.
Once upon a time, Bo Qi, the son of Dayu , led his troops to attack the Youhu family of the princes. The two armies faced each other, and Bo Qi lost to the point of falling.
The soldiers were not convinced and said, "Carrange the army and do another battle."
Bo Qi said, "We have more soldiers than them and our territory is larger than them, but they still failed. This is our own problem. If we want long-term stability, we must learn from each other and correct ourselves."
After several years of hard work, the Youhu family took the initiative to bow to Bo Qi.
Facts have proved that if you don’t bother anyone and work hard to cultivate yourself, you can achieve great things. The person you should have asked for help will take the initiative to help you after your investigation.
There is a local saying in the countryside: "Where the fire is big, go to the fire wherever you are."
Winter is coming, and it is cold everywhere. If anyone has a bonfire, it is your favorite place. And the size of the bonfire determines the number of people who are roasting the fire.
If you want someone to come, build a bonfire; if you want someone to be strict, you should cultivate yourself.
Go away you are not human nature. Like everyone else, you are making money, supporting your family, etc. If you bother others to give you a bowl of rice and a little money, it will be similar to a beggar.
becomes the provider of interests by itself, and the situation is very different. In other words, at this moment, you have become a boss, entrepreneur, and leader.
Those who do not blame themselves for defeating themselves are just looking for it. Don’t blame others for not helping you, but for your knowledge and virtue.
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Refuse to be troubled and stay away from idle things.
As the saying goes, "Don't go to the Three Treasures Hall without any trouble."
When someone comes to visit you with a gift, you should think that it is not as simple as reciprocity, but there should be a goal behind it.
If you accept the gift and know the other person’s purpose, you will find that the gift is like a hot potato.
The most terrifying thing is that you have gone through so many troubles, but you have not done other people's things. When others find out, they think you are "greedy for money", or say insincerely "meat buns beat dogs" in a group of relatives and friends.
people's hearts are unpredictable. You think it is a small matter, but others think it is a huge matter.
Once you are troubled by someone once, you are likely to be troubled three times and ten times, countless times.
Reject others from having trouble for the first time, and you will leave an impression of being "unkind" but you will also live a free life because of this.
Northern Song Prime Minister Wang Anshi When he met a relative from his in-laws, he invited his relatives to eat Hu cakes. When the relative frowned when he saw Hu Bing, he realized that this relative was not worth helping and was decisively alienated.
Late Qing minister Zeng Guofan , when training Hunan Army , a fellow villager came to surrender. When he saw his fellow villagers picking about food, he judged that this was an old man who could not afford it, so he sent the fellow villagers away.
people can stay idle, but they can't meddle in other people's business.
Poet Eliot wrote this sentence: "Most of the troubles in the world are caused by people who want to become great people."
Always trouble you, with a strong selfish heart, and may wish you could take all the benefits you get into your arms. Do you want to be someone else's springboard? Think about this issue and you will be much more transparent.
A fellow villager of mine got into the supervisor position when he went to Dongguan to work.
Another fellow villager Xiao Zhong found him, hoping to introduce him to the factory. Soon, Xiao Zhong was arranged to work as a custodian in his fellow villager's factory.
Two months later, the factory notified the fellow villager and left the bedding.
It turned out that Xiao Zhong robbed himself, causing the factory to lose tens of thousands of yuan, and the fellow villager, as the guarantor and introducer, had to bear joint and several liability.
The fellow villagers were crying when they saw their fellow villagers; when they saw their fellow villagers, they shot them behind their backs. The former refers to feelings, while the latter refers to pros and cons, and they all make sense. It is best to have a meal together, reminisce about the old things, and just refuse the troublesome things.
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How to reject others? Not bothering people?
often hear this view: "On the road of life, anyone may not bring an umbrella on rainy days. If you help others hold an umbrella, and when rain falls on you in the future, someone will hold an umbrella for you."
The key to staying away from trouble is not to ignore everyone, but to learn to "choose" . You should know who should refuse harshly and what should be kept away from.
In addition to choosing, you also need to understand the words "touching and polite".
When you say no, you need to improve your emotional intelligence. Make others feel better and never have dirty words.
For example, a relative asks you for help and needs to borrow some money. You can't just say that you don't have money or give me a look. You can tell the other party that you are investing in something and are in a state of being unable to take care of yourself.
In addition, behave simply and don’t drag it out and arouse others’ imagination. If you say "One other day", others may really come to you another day, so that you have no place to put your face.
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Kazuo Inamori said: "The biggest ugliness in human nature is not greed, selfishness, nor hypocrisy, nor arrogance, but embarrassment on others."
Whether it is troublesome or troublesome, it is a difficult problem. Therefore, we must minimize trouble and keep it simple.
If you can solve it with money, don’t use emotions; if you can solve it yourself, don’t let others out.
People’s energy is limited, so try to leave it to themselves.
Author: Buyi Kushi,
Follow my words and enter your heart.
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