Some people say: Soft-hearted is an unfair kindness. It helps others and makes people wronged, but is regarded as a fool at the slaughter of others.
In life, when we face other people's requests, we always feel unconsciously soft-hearted.
I don’t think anything once or twice, but if you get too many times, it often makes people feel dilemma.
So you will find that when you compromise many times because of your soft heart and tolerate it without limit, your life will gradually enter a dead end.
Because while you tolerate others, you are also consuming your own life.
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Uncontrolled tolerance is not kindness, but humble
You think you are kind and tolerant, but others think you are weak and easy to bully.
Uncontrolled tolerance will eventually become a knife that stabs you.
Weibo There is a highly praised comment:
2is easy to be bullied, and they are always those innocent and soft-hearted people. After all, they are easy to cheat and bully. Once the scar heals, they forget to hurt.
agrees deeply.
We are always worried that we are not kind enough and are afraid of disappointing others, so we keep complaining.
No one has the obligation to always think about others. What kind of humility should a person who always puts other people's needs and feelings first?
Your tolerance must have a little sharpness
Fudan University Professor Chen Guo said: Your kindness should have a little sharpness.
Whether it is kind to others or tolerant, the premise is not to make things difficult for yourself.
Don’t blame others for being too greedy, and don’t blame society for being too unwarm. How can a person who cannot even protect himself ask others to treat you?
Even if we have the obligation to tolerate others, we do not have unlimited tolerance.
If a person wants to shine, he must first grow a sharp edge. Being a principled bad guy is much easier than being a good guy without edges.
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Only by knowing how to refuse can you have a high-quality life
Don’t know how to refuse is like a stubborn disease, gnawing on people’s lives without saying anything.
Only when you know how to refuse can you live a more comfortable and pure life.
is like Qigong .
sanmao once said:
Don’t be afraid to refuse others. If your reasons are justified, when a person makes a request, he will have already prepared the answer in his heart.
Every kind of well-organized life is achieved by rejecting some things.
See your own needs and wishes clearly, and boldly say "no" to some people, and your life will be easier.
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There are not many people in this world who put their hearts in mind. If you are kind, some people will deceive you cruelly;
If you are tolerant, some people will gain a better position.
The true focus is based on the equality of personality and delivery of equality between the two parties. Only in this way can our interpersonal relationships be harmonious and healthy.
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0. Good people are a poison that not only makes you addicted, but also makes the other party constantly addicted to your requests. Until everyone becomes enemies in the end, this kind of interpersonal relationship with strong poison will end.
Learn to reject is far more important than learning to accept.
Know that things will turn out to the extreme. Any tolerance to a certain extent is honey to others, but to yourself.
Reject soft-hearted and unbottomed tolerance, so that you can find a clue from the messy life and gradually get on the right track of your life.
