1. Endless repayment of debts for children
does not mean completely giving up helping children repay debts, but having principles.
Young people are inevitably going astray. The first time financial help is often needed, but it is not a wise move to repay debts for their children again and again.
If parents protect their children again and again. Whenever a child has difficulties, he always wants to help. No matter what the child does, parents will help solve it later, even if it is wrong again and again. What's more, even though they know that their parents have limited abilities, they still force their parents to pay off their debts for them. This will make the child feel the pressure of debt.
But after all, no one can protect their children for the rest of their lives. Everyone must learn to face the ups and downs of society alone.
What parents need to do is guidance, help, and give their children life advice, but they cannot take care of everything. Parents should learn to be "ruthless" and let their children experience the hardships of paying off their debts and remember the principle that it is natural to repay the money due to debts.
will not make mistakes again and again, and will eventually even go to the abyss of crime.
2. Endless support for children to enjoy
Chinese parents have this idea that they would rather suffer the hardships of life themselves, but they just can't bear to see their children suffer. I wish I could take out my heart. Even if the children are already capable adults, parents will try their best to satisfy themselves as long as the children want them.
Many families have never looked for a job, or have to take the civil service exam, or are studying entrepreneurship, and try every means to ask their parents for money. Turn around and spend money, or stay at home and stay in the door and stay away. It has become a typical leniency.
But is this love for children? I don't think so.
If parents always give without any bottom line, their children will not be able to learn to be grateful, they do not know that they need to support themselves, and may even become a chilling ungrateful wolf.
When children are young, there is nothing wrong with their parents' care. But many parents still give their children all the money when they become adults. It seems to be supporting their children, but in fact it is to indulge their desires.
What parents need to do is to let their children have the ability to support themselves in this era of material desires. This is the best gift parents give their children.
3. Endlessly supporting the family for children
There is a very common phenomenon in modern families, which is to ask the elderly at home to help take care of the children. Of course, if the children know how to be grateful and the elderly have financial strength, it is a lucky thing for the whole family. But some people will also regard their parents as cash machines, and their family expenses and food and drinks will be paid by their parents.
If an adult is used to living expenses every month. Whenever the family needs money, they will ask for it. If the gift is too late, they will even urge it impatiently. This is a kind of harm to parents' original intentions.
I can understand that every parent cares about their children and is afraid that they will live a bad life. Sometimes it is normal for them to subsidize their children's small families. But if you always give without asking for reward, you may hurt yourself.
Parents’ love for their children should be considered for their long-term happiness in life. Money can be supported, but there must be a bottom line. Let children fully assume their responsibilities and have the ability to resist wind and rain.
written at the end
I do not agree with the saying "children and grandchildren have their own blessings".
Parents bring their children to this world, and children cannot refuse them. Appropriate financial help is a natural thing, but remember to have a degree and not affect their children's judgment and hinder their lives and development because of excessive selfless so-called "dedication".
You and I will always be just ferrymen in the lives of children. Can't be with you forever.
If the son is stronger than me, what is the use of money? If the son is virtuous and rich, it will damage his ambition; if the son is not as good as me, what is the use of money? If the son is foolish and rich, it will increase his mistakes.
But let them learn to be independent and strong, learn to adapt to society, and live their own way. This is the most precious wealth that parents should pass on to their children.
Thank you for reading.
