The strong are cowardly, swing the sword to the stronger, the weak are cowardly, but swing the sword to the weaker. ——Lu Xun
people have high character and high talent. But more importantly, whether you have enough wisdom to deal with setbacks and challenges in life.
We will meet many people and many things in our lives. What kind of attitude should we treat with is inseparable from our experience and wisdom.
An adult will face himself and others in a more mature and decent way.
is not double-standard, not strict, and not inferior. This is the top wisdom of adults.
is not a double standard, it is the minimum standard for dealing with people
Nan Nan went to the supermarket to shop and used a coupon at checkout. Before talking about using coupons, the clerk originally said that he didn't need to give a fraction of it.
Seeing the coupon, the clerk suddenly said that the fraction of the original erased was not erased and needed to be filled with another payment method. It is also electronic payment, and whether there is a coupon or not, the clerk will treat it with different appearances, seriously double standards. Nan Nan felt very dissatisfied, but she had no choice.
There was a joke about "double standards" on the Internet.
gives you boiled water: Thank you, I won’t drink it. I'll give you milk tea: Thank you, I'm just thirsty.
people have different likes and dislikes. Sometimes they have different attitudes toward different people and things, which is understandable. But excessive double standards are annoying. Some double-standard behaviors are confusing and some are ridiculous. People with dual standards may not only offend people without realizing it, but may also be despised.
Not double standards is a kind of character and a kind of wisdom. It is a bit difficult to restrain your emotions and get along with different people with similar attitudes.
But as a wise adult, being basically not double standards is a basic respect for others, an explanation for yourself, and the minimum standard for dealing with others.
is not strict, it is a precious life wisdom
Some people can always see other people’s shortcomings and magnify other people’s shortcomings infinitely. They often stare at the small mistakes made by others, and are unreasonable. Such a person who treats people harshly, even if he is originally correct, is offensive.
Someone said, "If you want to become a big tree, don't fight with the grass, and think that the saplings want to grow into a big tree, don't fight with the little sunshine and water that the grass needs."
Han Xin was humiliated under his crotch. After he became a general, he chose to forgive. Han Xin also gave him a job to the person who had humiliated him.
The Master said: "No one can do without mistakes; if one can correct one's mistakes, it is no great thing!"
Some people are very strict with others and tolerant of themselves, which is of course very bad. But it is actually not good to be tolerant of others and strict with yourself.
Sometimes when you accidentally say the wrong thing and do the wrong thing, you may blame yourself and even call yourself a waste in your heart. But it puts more pressure on yourself, and the result is that it is wrong and it falls into a dead cycle.
Be more tolerant of yourself, forgive the mistakes that have happened, and forgive some mistakes caused by objective reasons.
In "You Are Actually Great", the author Neil tells the story of his mother.
Mother grew up in a backward and ignorant place, and even studying could not take her away. She had to give up her life plan and was forced to marry someone she was not familiar with and go to a completely unfamiliar place.
So, the mother had to learn to adapt. She likes to say, I haven't learned waltz yet, I haven't had the chance to meet people for the time being, I have no other choice, I have no...
She chose to be tolerant of things that she is not familiar with and incompatible with the environment.
Tolerate your discomfort, tolerate your own ideas and ignorance, and tolerate your injustice to her by fate.
A wise person will not treat others seriously, nor will he treat himself seriously. They know how to treat others and themselves with a tolerant heart.
is not strict, it is a kind of tolerance and kindness in treating others and yourself, and it is a precious kind of life wisdom.
Not inferior, it is self-growth after adjustment
There was a classmate who was very beautiful, but he was not confident and very inferior. When walking, he hunched his back and always looked down at the ground. My friend joked with her, is there any money to pick it up on the ground? She always blushed and didn't speak, just smiled.
Later I found out that this classmate’s original family was not very good. Parents always quarrel and have a cold war, and the family atmosphere is very depressing. Her parents have also had strict requirements on her since childhood. They dare not say a word wrong, and they will be scolded and beaten if they say it wrong.
This caused her personality inferiority and she didn't dare to speak loudly in school. Because of this, I don’t have a good time with my classmates and I often go alone. It may be due to mood, and the academic performance is also average.
When she grew up, when she saw this classmate again, she seemed to have become a different person, became confident and calm, and was at ease with interpersonal relationships.
joked about her former inferiority complex, her former head down, hunched back, and not talking. I realized that she had also struggled and confused a lot. finally found that she would first learn to affirm herself before she could be affirmed by others. has grown up and gradually got rid of the influence of the original family in life and work. With confidence and achievements, everything is getting better.
Some people say: Life is a mirror. If you smile at it, it will smile at you; if you cry at it, it will cry at you too.
If you look down on yourself, how can others respect you? If you don’t believe in yourself, how can others believe in you?
There are various reasons for the formation of inferiority complex. Perhaps it was the influence of the original family, or perhaps it was due to nature. But this may not be detrimental to personal growth.
There is a saying that people who move from inferiority to self-confidence are truly confident, while people who are blindly confident from the beginning actually do not have confidence.
If you can get out of inferiority, become confident from inferiority, and gain growth, you will become a truly confident and capable person.
A wise person does not never feel inferior, but knows how to adjust himself. They will say goodbye to inferiority, turn from inferiority to self-confidence, and become better people.
Summary
is not double standard, not strict, and not inferior. It is the top wisdom of adults.
People who are not dual-standard will respect others and themselves; people who are not strict will treat others well and themselves well; people who are not inferior will adjust themselves and grow. These characteristics are rare top wisdom in life. As an adult, with such wisdom, you will live more comfortably and get along with others.
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