Touching is not love, although love cannot be separated from touching.
We have been looking for the sincerity and enthusiasm of love throughout our lives, but we are always lost in the proximity and companionship of the opposite sex. It is not that we lack IQ or experience, but that we always have some feelings that are uncontrollable, and there are always some fate that cannot be balanced. It is our powerlessness and sorrow in this life.
Some people love you, but never deliberately move you. They warm you with the details of life and accompany you silently. As long as you don’t appeal or depend on it, the other party can keep a right distance and measure from you, waiting for a better opportunity. For example, there is space and opportunity for you to live alone, and there are stories and things that move your relationship. In short, the other party has been waiting for this day for a long time, and seems to love and excitement, just want to give a little bit of it for you, even if your happiness has nothing to do with the other party, it is OK.
But the warmth and deliberate touch of true love are different. The former is a warm existence, while the latter is an embarrassment and desolation that makes people suffer from suffering. It seems that everything is asking for trouble and there is no need to resist or struggle.
If a relationship always moves you, then you have to be extremely careful. Behind this is not affectionate or fate, but other secrets and stories. For example, the other party just uses your conditions or identity to achieve success in life. Your existence value is equivalent to a springboard, and you don’t have to have the rest of your life, it just needs a short time.
When you truly love a person, the touch is the continuous occurrence and brewing of time and life, while the routine is a jump and moment, which can only happen briefly, and it is difficult to maintain for a long time, and it is aimed at exchanging equal value.
If a relationship always moves you, then you have to be careful
【01】
The other party’s relationship with you is a “routine”
The opposite sex is getting along with each other. If you are moved as the norm, it is likely that it is because the other party always wants to trick you while getting along, set traps and teasings for you, and wait for your trap to fall into trouble. He will not feel sorry for you at all. At best, his liking for you is just a need and comfort loneliness. When another opposite sex breaks in and accompanys you, you are the first person to be abandoned and forgotten, and will not be remembered or missed at all.
routine is like false interactions and interactions. It seems to be very loving, enthusiastic, and serious on the surface, but in fact there is no affection or fate. Everything is released between the world, weighing the other person's feelings by conditions, and measuring the other person's love with value. It seems that if there is a lack of love, all this does not have to be continued or extended.
Compared with the real state of love, the touching relationship is more romantic and complete, with few flaws and scarcity, giving people a feeling of unreality. Sometimes there are doubts, but they dare not express their thoughts, occasionally hesitation, but they cannot criticize. It seems that all the knots are brewing, but they cannot be placed or dealt with.
The people who lie to you are the best at saying that those who truly love you always let you see through reality and helplessness, and it seems that there are always some painful feelings and understanding. This is the truth and falseness of love. How to freeze your encounter can be defined by the amount of touch.
is always moved by the other person's attitude and love words, always grateful for the other person's tenderness and consideration, and always deep in the other person's favoritism and doting. The romantic atmosphere in these things does not happen by chance, but a preset trap and plan. You are just a pawn, which belongs to the control of others' hands.
【02】
The other party is always backward compatible with you
backward compatible, what does it mean? Is it a good or a bad thing?
Generally speaking, backward compatibility requires us to be strong in our hearts to persist. Otherwise, the dignity of love and the confidence of life will make you particularly inferior and uneasy, and always question whether the other party has other appreciation and admiration besides you, and whether there are other likes and attachments besides you.
After a long time, you will feel that loving someone is not beautiful. Although the original choice and love originated from touching, you will still retreat and hesitate when considering the future, and it seems difficult to obsess over it.
Other people's excellence cannot improve your social level and value, and other people's charm cannot replace your quality of life and level. All your expectations are just fantasy and empty, and it is difficult to achieve both perfection and perfection.
If you are always backward compatible with others, then you will be easily protected from time to time, always pampered and cared for, and you have few responses and poor efforts. It seems that the other party is always in charge of the ups and downs and changes of fate, and all trends are controlled by the other party. All your meaning is participation, obedience, and acceptance. A situation like this is not a happy appearance, nor is it as beautiful as you initially felt. If you cannot work hard to realize your value, there will always be some shortcomings and regrets.
Growing up alone, actively surviving, pursuing dreams, and pursuing goals are all the values and meanings of life, not boring or casual.
Some of the enthusiasm for preferences seems to have nothing to do with life, but in fact it is the meaning and beauty attached to love, and the hope and sustenance in the individual's heart.
Life is particularly wonderful because of pursuit, and life is also particularly precious because of goals. If the soul is empty and lonely, it will be meaningless.
【03】
Deeply explore your sentiment, most of them are extremely rational
People who treat you affectionately are often more emotional than you, so how can they deeply explore your sentiment?
Those who treat you with very rational and realistic are actually not sincere and sincere enough. They always keep guard and alert to you, hide all wisdom in their hearts, but show you a very elegant and decent state. For example, life is very enthusiastic, life is very interesting, and the future is exciting, but it just won’t make you feel that your feelings are happening strongly, as if all signs related to feelings do not exist.
In real life, facing a person who deeply explores your emotions, we must learn to handle it calmly and face it correctly, and don’t rush to refuse or feel heartbroken. There are many stories worth thinking about and precipitating. For example, the other party may not only like you but also want to get gentleness from your relationship. You happen to have such a personality, which is easy to be moved by others, and it is also easy to trust and depend on, so you quickly let go of your defense and vigilance.
People with extreme rationality may not be bad, but they are enough to make your heart feel cold. For example, the other person's perspective of thinking about problems is mostly from a life standpoint, and it is not easy to incorporate too much emotion and heartbeat. The more you expect romantic happiness, the less likely the other person will be to satisfy you.
The touching fate of the opposite sex is mostly mixed with sadness and helplessness, as well as coldness and indifference. I hope we can let go when we encounter it, and understand when we encounter it. Even if we are moved, we must learn to give appropriately and restrain more emotion.
