Want to make your life happy, and don’t talk about other people’s gossip behind your back, and don’t easily say what others are right and wrong. Live a simpler life without asking others about their privacy.
people keep their hearts and keep their mouths during social activities. Don’t say hurtful words in front of others, and you can’t say too much.
The best way for a person to live: don’t talk, don’t worry about other people’s business. "Sitting quietly and thinking about one's own mistakes, don't talk about others' mistakes." Not talking about gossip is a kind of education; not meddling in other people's affairs is a kind of cultivation; not being idle is a means.
The bottom line of being a human being is: don’t deliberately worry about other people’s affairs, and don’t talk about other people’s family affairs. Don’t say what you shouldn’t say, don’t do what you shouldn’t do, and keep the bottom line of being a human being.
Too much words will lead to mistakes. I often hear people say that someone has a good mind but a bad mouth and cannot speak, which will lead to disasters. Sometimes, just understand it in your heart, and you don’t have to say it out loud. If you don’t speak, no one will treat you as a mute. Because there is no one who can’t speak, and there is no one who can’t listen.
Dealing with people is inseparable from talking. No matter how you say it, you don’t hurt people, but you have to listen to it with a good word. You must pay attention to some ethics and not say extra words. There are three words, and cleverness is the best. Words are the voice of the heart, and you will speak until you are done. Distinguish the occasion of speaking and don’t say what you shouldn’t say. Listen to the sound of speaking, listen to the sound of gongs and drums.
people often say: "If you don't talk too much, you will have a lot of words, and you will have a thousand cups of wine for your close friend. ." You can't say too much, and you can't do things too well. It is better not to speak than to say extra words. There are people in this world who can’t speak, but there are people who can’t listen. Don't talk when you can't speak. Don't say it, go and listen to others.
In life, we are always used to talking about the content of caring for others in extreme words, and others may not necessarily accept your concern. But in this way, the other party can only accept the reprimand. "A narrow mind is the root of misfortune, and a broad mind is the door to blessing." Don't be too curious about other people's affairs. No matter how good a person has a good relationship, don't take the initiative to inquire when others don't want to say it.
If you always think that the person who makes mistakes is others and the person who takes the blame is yourself, you will easily feel dissatisfied. If you are more generous and have the courage to admit your mistakes, you will be understood by others. If you do a little more small things than others, you shouldn't say it out again. The pain and fatigue you have suffered will always be rewarded in another way.
Once you can't control your emotions and let your anger prevail, you will often suffer a big loss. A hurtful word is enough to change a relationship and also enough to change one's own destiny. There is a saying: "No matter why you get angry, you will still hurt yourself in the end." The world is full of troubles and resentment is always accumulated in your heart, and it is inevitable that you will get angry; if you can let go calmly, you can be transparent and open-minded.
What you think is just what you think is not necessarily the truth of the matter. The world is never just what you see. There are many things that you can't imagine. Don't easily evaluate a person. There are all kinds of things in the world, although joys and sorrows cannot be the same, emotions can be integrated. Good things don’t go out, bad things spread thousands of miles. If you want others to know, don’t do it unless you do it yourself.
When others have difficulties, you can choose to be considerate and help. Because of your understanding of respect, you can think from the perspective of others and look at problems from the perspective of others. If you judge whether it is good or bad based on your own point of view, it is like a blind man touching an elephant. When he touches an elephant's legs, he says that the elephant is like a pillar.
speak and listen to the sound, and gongs and drums listen to the sound. Words are the voice of the heart, and you can’t speak, and embarrass others, which means you can’t get over it. Never impose your own ideas on others, everyone has their own ideas. The right and wrong, grievance, grievance, affection and hatred in life are not spoken casually by mouth.
Life is your own, not someone else’s. If you live a good or bad life, or you are happy or unhappy, others will take responsibility for you. In life, people live for themselves, not for others to see. No matter how others see you, it is someone else's business. I just want to have a clear conscience and be yourself with peace of mind. Don’t blame others easily. What you get is a smile when you are lenient.
In fact, most people who are straightforward and kind-hearted are honest and kind-hearted, and are typical "knife and tofu heart". They often say whatever they think, without any scruples. But speaking regardless of the occasion will hurt others' feelings. Respecting others is a kind of cultivation. Only by knowing how to respect others can you be respected by others.
pointed out others' mistakes in appearance in public, making people embarrassed in public; caring about other people's soul scars in public, making the other party the focus of public discussion; correcting friends' shortcomings and mistakes in public, making friends lose face.
people who are straightforward often think that "I have a kind heart". After offending others, they still don't know that the mistake is on themselves, but instead complains angrily: "Why are you biting Lu Dongbin? You don't know the hearts of good people!" Who knows that it is not that others regard your kind hearts as a donkey, but because you have not noticed the occasion of speaking and are not sure of your proper attitude.
straightforward personality is not a disadvantage, but speaking without any scruples can make people disgusted. When interacting with others, you should pay attention to some skills in speaking, and don’t always regard straightforwardness as an excuse to speak without any restraint. Telling the truth regardless of the occasion and regardless of other people's feelings can easily make people unable to come to Taiwan and will inevitably be jealous.
Huangdi " Jinren Ming " says: If you don't say much, you will lose more; if you don't have much trouble, you will suffer more troubles. This sentence is exactly the same as the saying " disease enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth". It also has the same effect, both of which show that too much talk will cause trouble. Before speaking, you will only make enemies everywhere. If you speak less, you have high prestige, and if you speak too much, you will lose.
Laozi said: "Those who know do not speak, and those who speak do not know." A truly smart and knowledgeable person will not talk much easily, but will intentionally remain silent. And those who like to talk more seem to be wise, but are not wise, cautious and mature enough to appear shallow and ignorant. Don’t go to places with a lot of people, don’t say what you shouldn’t say. Some words are better than saying them. Too much words will lead to mistakes, and keep your words.
You should talk less in life. Of course, speaking less does not mean saying nothing, but trying to be cautious when talking with others, speak less, and not speak nonsense, maintain appropriate silence, maintain a cautious attitude, keep calm, and think carefully about every word you want to say, so that you will not cause trouble from your mouth.
There are always people in life who speak freely, speak without any restraint, and take on everything. As a result, they either forget their promises, or they cannot find reasons to shirk their reputation. A wise person never speaks big things casually, has a clear idea of what he says, and only promises what he can do. Those who speak big talk will not believe even if they tell the truth, and the final result will often harm others and be unfavorable to oneself.
Life is noisy, you must be as calm as water. Sitting in meditation always reflects on one's own mistakes, and don't talk about others' mistakes in chatting. Don’t compete, don’t compete, don’t compete, don’t scramble; be open-minded and be content and always happy.Quietness is a kind of cultivation with rich connotation; in your spare time, listen to an old song, read a good book, appreciate flowers, and exercise your body. Watch quietly and listen silently.
just don't deliberately please me, and don't pretend to please others to please others' joy. And please yourself in the way you like and be yourself quietly.
instead of joining in the crowd aimlessly, it is better to do what you should do quietly. There are not so many stories in life. Silence is gold. You have to try everything, just know it.
In the days of life, you either put yourself in the dilemma of being isolated, or you will cause verbal disputes and trouble. People often say "think twice before acting", "that you will lose more" and "that you will lose more." Don't cause trouble for yourself or cause trouble for others.
Happy to be taciturn and speak less. Don’t talk about people’s good or bad things in front of others, and don’t talk about people’s right or wrong after others. Don’t say it all, see through it without saying it thoroughly, see through it without saying it thoroughly, leave a thin person for others and leave a way out for yourself. A smart person never competes with others in words and is silent at the right time. This is a kind of wisdom in life and a person's greatest self-consciousness.
As a human being, control your mouth and don’t say what you shouldn’t say. No matter how small or big things are, every time you say a word of gossip, your image will be greatly reduced in the hearts of others. Gradually, you will find that fewer people are willing to talk to you, and fewer people are willing to listen to you. Many things are not big things, they are all caused by words.
As the saying goes: "If the water is deep, the person will not speak, have good thoughts in his heart, and he will be long-lasting." The most basic cultivation and kindness of a person is to control his mouth and not talk about gossip. Don't talk about others casually, and don't point fingers at others. Everyone has their own way of living, and how others live has nothing to do with you.
As a human being, you cannot go with the flow. You must learn to be a wise man who does not listen to gossip and does not speak about other people's affairs. Having good thoughts in mind, being cautious in words and actions, and not talking about gossip is the wisdom of dealing with the world and also a person's lifelong practice. People who are good at practicing do not say bad things about others or talk about the right and wrong of others.
The biggest stupidity of a person is to randomly interfere in other people's affairs and think he is self-righteous and enthusiastic, but in fact, it will cause trouble to others and also make yourself uncomfortable. Don’t talk about other people’s pain, nor do you use it as a topic of conversation or joke about others after dinner.
control your own hands, don’t mess with other people’s affairs, make people feel comfortable and happy, which is the real win-win situation. May you and I not talk about gossip, do not care about other people's business, do not be idle people, and move towards the future with confidence and firmness, and strive for a better life.
Only by taking care of yourself, not talking about gossip, not doing anything, and not provoking idle people can you achieve quiet ears, peace of mind, and purity of interpersonal relationships. If you always focus on how to talk about others, you will not only miss the opportunity to improve yourself, but also put yourself in the vortex of right and wrong.
is enough to see how important it is to control your mouth, but there are always some people who like to talk behind their backs. "Those who say right and wrong must be right and wrong." Not talking about gossip or talking about right and wrong is a kind of ethics. Keeping your mouth shut and not talking is not only a kind of self-discipline, but also a way to help you achieve a counterattack in your life.
Don’t pretend to understand, be humble and low-key. If a person understands the wisdom of silence, then the road of life will naturally be less setbacks and a smooth and peaceful life will be. As the saying goes, "Take tacit words to nourish the spirit, few thoughts to nourish the spirit, few desires to nourish the nature." Don't talk big in front of others. Only by being low-key can you win more respect.
