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People are old, and we must start to face many griefs in the world. After all, people will get worse and worse when they get older. I can’t tell you when they will enter the painful death.
And there is always someone who will leave first between you and your wife, which is inevitable.
Therefore, when you are old, you should be mentally prepared for such a situation early, so that you will not seem so off guard when that day really comes.
More importantly, how to arrange your wife’s life after taking the lead is also something worth thinking about.
There are many elderly people. When their husbands are still in the world, they can live a happy and happy life, but when their husbands leave and lose their backbone, they often do things that will affect their stability in their later years, so that their later years' life is even more miserable.
people are old, my wife takes the lead. The truly visionary elderly person will not do these three things.
1: I will not hand over all my savings to my children
After my wife left, some people consider that they are a helpless elderly person. In order to make life more secure in their later years and to relieve the current pressure on their children, they will hand over all their savings to their children without careful consideration.
In their opinion, raising children is to prevent old age. Now they have taken out all their savings to help supplement their children's family. They will definitely not ignore themselves.
They regard this as a profitable investment, but they never want to think about the many risks behind it.
Children are filial, and the elderly will naturally be happy in their later years, but what if their children are not filial? What if your children’s partner has any objection to you? If you are often sick, what if they are exhausted and exhausted to take care of you?
People's hearts have always been the easiest to change, and even parent-child relationships are no exception.
Give all your savings to your children, which means putting your happiness in your later years on the conscience of your children. Their conscience is related to reality and interests. In the end, you are afraid that you will be regarded as a burden.
2: I won’t find someone just because I am lonely and live
Although life has reached the last stage, I take my old age seriously and spend the rest of my life. This is what people in my old age should do most clearly.
However, not everyone can have such awareness. They feel lonely and lonely after losing their spouse. Under such emotions, they often forget their original intentions and want to find someone to accompany them for the rest of their lives.
They often have strong emotional needs and are eager to get the warmth and comfort given by their partner.
But the more you think this way, the harder it is to get happiness.
I am afraid that after he really enters that marriage, he will find that he just jumped from one mud pit to another mud pit. It is difficult for him to have happiness in his life.
3: I won’t regard myself as the emperor, so that my children will unconditionally meet his unreasonable needs
In the drama " is all good ", Su Daqiang always consumes his children after losing his wife.
Not only does he make many requests that others cannot understand, but also requires his children to satisfy them one by one. Otherwise, he will say that they are unfilial and have a hard wing and don’t want to care about themselves.
, such an elderly person, will be despised by his children, whether in the play or in real life. Su Daqiang in the TV series still has three capable children, but there are not so many wealthy families in real life.
Their financial ability and time cannot withstand the trouble of such an old man at home.
Therefore, an old man with vision is definitely not to regard himself as the emperor and let his children unconditionally meet his unreasonable needs.This will not only affect the parent-child relationship and the happiness of old age, but also affect the happiness of the elderly.
people are old. If the wife takes the lead, the truly visionary elderly person will not do the above three things. Being at peace with oneself, keeping one's property, and keeping the stability of the rest of one's life is a visionary approach.
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