The ancients said: "Good and bad luck are unpredictable, and we can make good relationships."
The good and bad luck in this world is not something that ordinary people can predict. At this moment, maybe life has brought disasters, and in the next moment, maybe life has brought blessings. We can only "passively accept" .
Nine out of ten things in life are unsatisfactory, and there are usually fewer blessings. And disasters usually account for as much as 80% of them. What should we do about this? The best way to
is to "make good relationships widely", sow good causes widely, and then produce good results, and find your own blessings in "good relationships" to dispel misfortunes.
The more you are in a dangerous situation, the more you should feel at ease with "making good relationships". For example, when you reach 49 and feel that you can't stand it anymore, you should change your lifestyle in time and make good relationships.
has a word that is very well summarized, that is, "Seeking for good fortune" . The number of blessings is not born with. is either cultivated by ourselves or obtained by ourselves.
Middle-aged people who are approaching 49 or 59 years old, it is time to "make good relationships" as these four points hide your blessings.
1. Cherish the confidants and nobles who have helped you.
In this extremely cold era, it is easy to add icing on the cake to , but it is difficult to provide timely help.
When you have money, someone will flatter you. Most of these people who flatter you are not good people, so stay away from them in time. Only when you are down and out, will you still be by your side be your noble person.
When you are in trouble, your wife is always by your side, and you are likely not interested. When you get out of the predicament, how should you treat your " Wife "?
In life, you still need to be grateful. Others have been with us for many years, so we should be grateful for their efforts in the rest of our lives. If you are grateful to the person who accompanies you, good luck will favor you.
has come into contact with some bosses. After becoming successful in middle age, he kicked his original wife away. People like these will not have a good result. All the failures in come at a price.
No matter what environment is in, cherish the people who have helped us, always be grateful and good luck always accompany you.
2. Great wisdom is not a group, stay away from the circle of right and wrong.
Yu Qiuyu said that Great wisdom is not a group, great kindness is not helpful, why fear of being alone, and why fear of slander.
People who are truly wise will not easily societe. You don’t care about circles or groups at all, and you don’t care about groups or so at all. You can live whatever you want.
This is more difficult for ordinary middle-aged people. Not everyone can stay away from the circle in time, and not everyone can live for themselves.
Some middle-aged people who often socialize outside are not in good health, and they also cause a lot of trouble and trouble. Can they calm down in the second half of their lives? It's hard to settle down.
Today, I will be here, tomorrow, and there will be no time to breathe. Even if you are a robot, you can't stand it, let alone you are just an ordinary person with flesh and blood.
people reach middle age. The essence of making good relationships is not to allow us to participate in any group, but to let us cherish those who should cherish and stay away from those who should not be approached. This is the "dialectical" thinking about life.
3. Don’t indulge yourself and be self-disciplined.
There is a saying on the Internet: "Indulging yourself will eventually reduce your life."
What exactly is the behavior of "indulging yourself"?
Smoking and drinking too much is indulging; often staying up late to work overtime is indulgence; too many physiological desires are indulgence; unable to discipline oneself, this is indulgence.
When we are in our twenties and thirties, it is no problem to indulge ourselves appropriately, because we are still young, have time and energy, and can afford it. And when we are in our forties and fifties, we still indulge ourselves , then it's a bit "desperate". How can
suppress your inner desires? Just do these two words - self-discipline.
If you can drink more tea, don't drink often; if you can go to bed early and get up early, don't stay up late often; if you can exercise more, don't sit often; if you can read more, don't think often.
A person, as long as you do the word "self-discipline" to the extreme, you will be blessed and wealthy , how could it not appear?
4. Enjoy the energy of fireworks in the world and get rid of the evil of desires.
The older you get, the more you like the four words "fireworks in the world".
When you come home every day, you see someone cooking in the kitchen, and the child is gradually growing up. You are studying or doing what you like. We will feel particularly pleased .
At that moment, we will feel a sense of "unspeakable" happiness deep in our hearts. This kind of happiness cannot be bought by no means much money.
money and other things are all external things after all. We don’t need to be too greedy, and we don’t think that “more money is better” is better. money, for ordinary people, it’s enough.
When you are free in your daily life, We can close our eyes, feel the warmth of home, and feel the vigorous vitality of nature, and our lives will become "vibrant".
people have been in middle-aged and late years, but we have ignored it. After all, you and I are both blessed people. Let us encourage each other.
text/Shushan Youlu
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