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There is a question on Zhihu that triggered a lot of discussion: What kind of experience does it feel like when people reach middle age? In the comment section of
, someone said:
"Middle-age is a bitter tears. My parents once supported our family with us. Now it is our turn. We must be obliged."
"I feel sorry for my parents' temples that are gray. I hope my children will become talents. All we can do is pat the dust and grit our teeth and move forward."
"You are busy at all costs, and life is only fatigue and hardship. Maybe in an occasional leisure, after a glass of wine, a heart full of sadness surges into my heart, and tears flow out in my eyes."
When we reach middle age, life seems to be full of sadness and difficulties, and we cannot escape or escape.
So, how should we survive the painful watershed in life?
There are old people and young people on this stage. We should have these three abilities: the courage to get out of the comfort zone, the perseverance to enter the learning zone, and get rid of the internal strength of the panic zone.
Get out of your comfort zone and break through yourself
There is a line in "Shawshank Redemption":
"The high walls in prison are really interesting. When you first went to prison, you hated the high walls around you; slowly, you got used to living in it; eventually you will find that you have to rely on it to survive."
This is the comfort zone. This "zone" will make people feel at ease and contentment in comfort, and their will and fighting spirit are slowly consumed. Once the risks come, you can only be crushed and have no power to fight back.
A colleague who suffered from depression because of layoffs and stayed in the door all day.
When he visited him, a big man actually cried and cried. Looking at the scene in front of him, he couldn't help but think of the conversation he had with him.
At the first year of the company's annual meeting, he asked him, "What plans do you have next year?"
He replied, "What plans can you have? Keep working. It's better to give more bonuses at the end of the year!"
The second year of the company arranged for professional title evaluation and said to him, "By your qualifications, you can sign up."
He replied, "Forget it, I now have a fixed monthly salary and live a petty life. It's good, why bother and work hard."
The third year of the company organized personnel to take the professional qualification certificate and asked him, "Would you work hard once with your conditions?"
He replied, "Well... Actually, I enjoy my current life very much, comfortable and comfortable, and don't think about anything else."
In the fourth year, due to the industry's recession, the company's business plummeted and had to lay off employees. At nearly forty years old, he has no choice but to lose his job without any suspense.
I read a sentence: "Life is like a long-distance running. Only with the courage to set foot on the starting point can you have the chance to see the red line of the finish line."
Don't indulge in your comfort zone and just live by, because it can shelter you from the wind and rain, and it can also prevent you from seeing the light of day.
Break through lazy thinking and try and temper. If you don’t draw a circle for yourself, your life will not be shackled.
The toad who wanted to eat swan meat went to the altar; the frog who was sitting in a well and looked at the sky, sculpted the hot pot.
Learn to do these four things well and go out bravely.
· Reflect often and reflect on me three times a day. In reflection, prepare for the future.
· Clarify your direction and overcome difficulties. Analyze the deep causes of fear outside the comfort zone and make breakthroughs one by one.
· Change cannot be achieved overnight. Take it step by step, step by step, and slow means fast.
· Try some new things outside the comfort zone every day. The experience of constantly trying is the process of getting out of the comfort zone.
Gorgeous falls better than unnecessary wandering. Taking a step forward will be closer to success than standing there.
Enter the learning area and improve yourself
"The road is long and arduous, I will search up and down."
Life is turning around and it is already year-old, and middle-aged people are full of beauty.
During this period, if you don’t learn and update, the road will become narrower and narrower; if you keep learning, the road will become smooth under your feet.
TV series " Ideals Shine China " in "Start Again", Xue Rong, who was laid off in middle-aged, failed to start a business nine times in a row, and her relatives and friends left her, but she did not give up and continued to improve herself.
Xue Rong was originally the manager of a five-star hotel. The company reformed and laid off employees. She couldn't bear to see her sisters lose their jobs, so she voluntarily resigned.
She has never done business and learns to raise dogs, raise fish, and sell home appliances. Although she has not made any money, she has gained rich experience from it.
Then, she opened a cleaning company.
In order to contract the cleaning work of the TV station, she surveyed the TV station's environment and grasped the building area, the number of rooms, the sanitary blind spots, etc.
wrote a cleaning outsourcing project plan for the TV station based on his own knowledge and gave detailed explanations on the cleaning work in various places of the TV station building.
has also specially developed cleaning tools, such as: professional cleaning of shutters, gloves that specialize in cleaning door handles, brushes that specialize in cleaning mezzanines, etc. After listening to her professional introduction, Chief Su of TV Station changed her previous indifference and gave her the TV station's cleaning outsourcing order.
So, don’t question your efforts. All your accumulation and experience will eventually support you and make you a better person.
Middle-aged learning is not only to make up for the regrets of youth, but also the best precipitation for middle-aged life.
Even if you cannot change your life immediately, you can at least gain a lot of life wisdom in the process and improve your mood.
Learning professional knowledge and interpersonal communication can make your work smoother; learning yoga and fitness will make your body stronger; learning to play the piano and learn flower arrangement can cultivate sentiment...
Make a little progress every day, and over time, the benefits can be seen.
Get rid of the panic zone and stabilize yourself
After half of your life, when youth and passion gradually fade away, what you can't waive is not only the increasing wrinkles, but also the heavy responsibility on your shoulders; what you can't get rid of is not only the growing belly, but also the heavy burden given by life.
At this time, the best state should be: no matter whether it is high or low, or ups and downs, you can keep a steady progress.
I once saw a story like this:
In 1928, the New York stock market collapsed, and the boss of a large American company returned home worriedly.
said to his wife in panic: "It's over! It's over! I'm declared bankrupt by the court, and all the property in the family will be sealed by the court tomorrow!"
heard this and said softly: "Has your body been sealed? Is your wife also sealed? And your children?"
He replied in confusion: "No!"
The wife said: "Since that's the case, what are you worried about? You have a wife who supports you, a group of hopeful children, and you have rich experience, a healthy body and a flexible mind. As for the wealth you lost, you can earn it back in the future, why bother with panic!"
After hearing his wife's words, he gradually calmed down his anxiety.
Results, three years later, his company grew stronger and stronger again and was also named one of the top five companies by Fortune magazine.
Life will not be the peaceful years, and life will always have stormy waves.
It is because there are cracks in life that the sun has the opportunity to shine in; and people will become stronger after experiencing ups and downs.
Don’t panic when encountering problems. Have the courage to face them directly, make the worst plans, and work harder to the best. There is no hurdle that cannot be overcome, nor is it difficult to survive.
As said in " University ": "You can be at ease after being calm, you can be at ease after being at ease, and you can think after you think."
No matter how things change in the world, it is the most important thing to stabilize your heart.
Yu Hua wrote in " Living ": "Nothing is happier than living, and nothing is harder than living."
Life is never easy, and people are not gentle. In the world, there are many people who have struggled to make a living.
In the quagmire of reality, each of us is an ordinary ant. Only by struggling hard can we crawl forward.
walk out of the comfort zone, don’t wait until the storm comes before you remember that you don’t have an umbrella;
enters the learning zone, and when you have full battery, you can move forward bravely;
get rid of the panic zone, stay calm and calm, so that you can turn the tables against the wind.
I wish you can travel all over the mountains and rivers, and after years of hardship, you can still be calm.
Be a true brave man in the dark night of time. #Telebrity Creation Challenge#
