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Dong Yuhui shared his experience of attending the party during the live broadcast.
Dong Yuhui's friend invited him to have tea and said he would introduce his friends to him. Due to the enthusiasm and kindness of his friends, Dong Yuhui passed by.
arrived at the scene and saw a group of people drinking tea and chatting there. Everyone had their own opinions and seemed very lively.
But after a while, Dong Yuhui found that what everyone talked about was nothing more than expressing some opinions. I like this, I don’t like that.
These views are all expressed by the spokesperson's own personal subjective consciousness and feelings. No one is inferring or discussing based on real facts or some data or theories.
So he got up and left the boring party, not afraid that this action would make him lose his original friend.
Dong Yuhui has been very withdrawn since childhood. When other children are playing freely outside, Dong Yuhui likes to think about many problems alone. In the eyes of others, he is like an alternative, and looks out of place with the people around him.
When he grew up, Dong Yuhui also admitted that he had few friends. He hated and refused to be invalid. He would rather go home and read more books than waste his time on boring people and things.
It is precisely because Dong Yuhui won so much respect and applause today.
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When the world-renowned novelist Maugham died when he was 10 years old, his parents died and were adopted by his uncle. Because of his short stature and severe stuttering, Maugham is often bullied by other children. In this environment, Maugham has developed an introverted and introverted personality.
When other children are playing outside, they hide in the attic and read quietly, immersing themselves in the ocean of knowledge.
It was this experience that laid the foundation of his literature and had a profound impact on his subsequent literary creation until he finally became a novelist, using his own brushstrokes to analyze the cruel or warm life and society around him.
Most of the children who laughed at him as children have been forgotten in the torrent of history, and Maugham's name will continue to be passed down.
If he was also one of those children, maybe you and I would never know the name Maugham now.
Henry David Thoreau , gave up his life of having no worries about food and clothing, and went to the shore of Walden alone. One person builds a wooden house and plants crops, and works from sunrise to sunset, and stays away from the hustle and bustle of the city.
2 years have allowed him to write "Walden", one of the earliest examples of prose works in modern American literature.
He wrote in the book: "The best state of life is to be extremely simple in material and abundant in spirit."
The spiritual enrichment is unavailable in noisy gatherings. It can only be understood when you are alone, based on the guidance of your heart, and find the spiritual yearning.
Dong Yuhui's spiritual pursuit is all in the book. This is why he can count classic quotes with just one mouth, tell life stories with beautiful sentences, and touch everyone's hearts.
Only when you reach tranquility can you understand what your heart is, understand where your potential lies, and understand the direction of your efforts. Only by being in trouble can you avoid losing your original heart, moving towards your goal, and finally gaining what you think.
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Once attended high school classmates' reunions, and classmates over the years have experienced their own changes in the world. Everyone's experiences and thoughts have made each other no longer the innocent and flawless frivolous teenagers he used to be.
"Mr. Wu", "General Wang", "Principal Zhang" and other various titles filled the dining table, replacing the former "Fatty Wu", "Wang Saner", and "Zhang Tiedan".
Behind each title is a toast who holds a wine glass and bends to varying degrees. The degree of bending depends on what your needs are.
Occasionally, when 2 or 3 students take the initiative to toast with them, a classmate who has no special name, I can't help but feel happy. Some people are still thinking about themselves, an old classmate.
Before he could be happy for a few minutes, the other party said, "Did you buy insurance?" All the secret joy came to an abrupt end.
Even if my friend who was once a high school student has not been in contact for many years, he would just say goodbye in a hurry after chatting for a few words and heading towards a completely different life.
My friend’s husband often goes out for social events. He is always drunk when he gets home and doesn’t listen to it no matter how he persuades him. If he talks too much, he still blames his friends for being ignorant and not understanding him. This is called making connections and laying the foundation for his career.
The two have had many quarrels about this, and even their friends use divorce to threaten their husbands, which has no effect.
More than years have passed. Not only did my friend’s husband not achieve any career development, but he was directly laid off due to the company’s recession.
After drinking for many years, my blood pressure is high and my uric acid is high. I can't touch beer or seafood.
In contrast, my friend has not been idle for the past few years. He changed his English class to a foreign company and his salary increased three times, and he supported the financial expenses of a family by himself.
meaningless parties, social events, and alcoholic parties, except for the brief lively at that time, all they brought to you is emptiness and excessive drinking, and nothing else.
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I once saw someone say "Excellent people are lonely."
does not mean that excellent people do not have love, but excellent people often do not waste their time on meaningless things, especially some ineffective social interactions.
Dong Yuhui said: "There is no empathy in this world. It is very rare to meet each other's sympathy. If you make more friends, you will spend a lot of time doing ineffective social interactions, welcome and send off, brag about each other. What's the use of bragging?"
If you spend all your energy on ineffective social interactions, eat, drink and have fun with some so-called friends every day, and go home with exhausted energy and sleep loudly.
Excellent people are not without friends, but their friends are few and exquisite.
Dong Yuhui himself is the English teaching and research supervisor. There is a friend who is the physics teaching and research supervisor. Both of them like to read and like to talk about things with in-depth content. When Dong Yuhui lived at this friend's house, the two of them often bought a roast chicken downstairs, sat on the moat in the southwest city corner of Xi'an City Wall , and found a step to sit down and chat.
chats all night and can't stop at all. Dong Yuhui knew that this was his true friend.
can achieve each other and promote each other's progress. There is no need for too many such people, 1 or 2 are enough.
So Dong Yuhui said that: Don’t make many friends, you should be with those who understand you.
Life is just a few decades and is fleeting.
Ordinary people like to squander time for short joy, while excellent people know how to spend precious time on people and things worthwhile.
Instead of wasting time at various boring parties, it is better to calm down, clean up the room, make a pot of tea, sit in the corner of the room, hold a book, and enjoy the quiet time.
Only by learning to stay away from glitz and hustle and bustle can you find your true self.
