Author: Mo Xiaobei
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01: Introduction
There is always a kind of person in this world who will refute no matter what you say. It seems that only refuting can show his sense of existence.
From the surface, they seem to have the upper hand in words, which is a kind of wisdom, but in fact, the greatest stupidity.
People who want to defeat others in language may feel superior in an instant, but after a long time, they will naturally not be respected, and in the end, they will stay away from everyone and become a laughing stock.
A person's low emotional intelligence is actually a habitual rebuttal.
People say that their affairs have nothing to do with you, and whether they are right or wrong, they are their affairs, and they have nothing to do with you at all.
A truly smart person will tolerate the differences between others. If his or her opinions are inconsistent with others, then choose to stay away from them instead of having to argue about the reasons and let the other party follow their requirements.
If you can restrain your desire to refute in the process of getting along with others, then you will have a more exciting life.
02: Habitual rebuttal is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence
In the process of interpersonal communication, people who are habitual rebuttal do not consider the consequences. They only consider that they are happy, so they will ignore it and directly express their feelings.
He will follow his own perception. As long as he thinks it is right, even if it is wrong, it will be right. He will refute it to you until you admit it.
For example, we all know that the earth is round, but if he thinks that the earth is square, then it is square. Even if you come up with more evidence that it is round, he will not admit it. He only believes in himself. People like
have very low EQ. They don’t care whether you can get out of the market or not, as long as you say it, they will persevere.
For example, when friends gather together, when others ask you when you treat you, you may explain it casually the day after tomorrow. Everyone knew that this is just politeness. As for whether you invite or not, everyone will not pay attention to it.
However, people who are habitually refuting are different. They will hold on and let you make a decision. If you say you want to order a restaurant tomorrow, he would like to ask you to book a restaurant immediately.
If you ignore him, he will become more and more serious, making you unable to get out of Taiwan.
friend Wang Meng met such a friend. After he finished speaking, the other party asked him to book a hotel, but Wang Meng ignored him.
Originally, Wang Meng thought that he ignored him and the other party would forget it, but he didn't expect that the other party's next behavior made people very angry.
The other party said, "If you don't invite me, don't invite me. No one will miss your meal. As for this?"
When the other party finished speaking, Wang Meng was shocked. He never expected the other party to do this.
Facing the other party's attitude, Wang Meng didn't say anything, but hurriedly ate something and left, and after leaving, he blocked the friend.
The other party feels that they have won the argument, but they actually lose. Just as Franklin said:
"If you debate and refute, you may win, but that victory is short and empty... You will never get the favor that the other party gives you."
In fact, this is really true. In this world, no one likes people who are used to refuting, it will be very tiring to get along with such people. Since getting along with me makes you feel particularly uncomfortable, it is not enough to end the relationship.
People who are habitually refuting must know at any time that you do this is not a smart behavior, but a real stupidity. You will pay the price for your stupidity.
03: Don’t argue when encountering things, the greatest cleverness is
There is a saying: The clear one is clear, and the turbid one is turbid.
If you are right, then even if others frame you, there will be a day when the truth will be revealed. You don’t need to think too much.
There are different levels between each other, and naturally the understanding of things is different. If you have to let the other party follow your perception, that is the biggest stupidity.
I once read a philosophical story and felt it deeply:
A scholar and a woodcutter argued. They argued for a long time but didn't tell the right or wrong. Then they went to the county government office together and wanted to ask the county magistrate to make the decision.
After the county magistrate asked the reason for the matter, he directly determined that the scholar was wrong and had to punish him. The woodcutter left with a victory expression.
When the woodcutter left, the scholar was very angry. He felt that the county magistrate was not worthy of sitting in this position. He was obviously thirty-two, but he had to say thirty-two. He felt that the county magistrate was just a foolish official who was ignorant.
At this time, the county magistrate said, "You are not people of the same level. You naturally know more than him. You know what the result is, but you have to argue with the other party. I punish you now just to give you a memory. Not everyone is worthy of your argument with it." After the county magistrate said that, the scholar suddenly realized, and he realized how stupid his behavior was and shouldn't have done such a thing.
Really smart people will not argue with people of different levels.
Because, they know that such a debate is meaningless.
They will keep a silent attitude and stay away from such people.
In this world, only stupid people like to argue. Since each of us wants to be a smart person, don’t argue.
Don’t refute others habitually. You should believe that others do this. There is a reason to do this. We just need to listen.
is a manifestation of low emotional intelligence because of habitual refutation of others.
In this world, no one likes people with low emotional intelligence. Dating with such people will make people feel very tired.
Maybe, what others say is unreasonable, just remind me appropriately, there is no need to refute the other party in habit, because a smart enough person will wake up from your reminder.
You should know that keeping silent properly is actually a manifestation of high emotional intelligence.
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