Author: Mo Xiaobei
Original article, plagiarism will be prosecuted
01: Introduction
On the road of life, you have never been a flat horse, but you will encounter one or another troubles, like a roller coaster, a fixed number of ups and downs.
In this life, we will meet many people and miss them. Whether we meet or miss them, we will be in the dark.
Love but not getting it is the norm, there is no need to sigh, and there is no need to suffer because of missing it.
Please believe that all this is fate in the dark.
If you have fate, you can't drive away even if you are rushed; if you don't have fate, you can't keep even if you are rushed.
On this one-way road in life, no matter who we get along with, we must work hard to strengthen ourselves. Only when we become strong enough can we make our lives more valuable.
If you can remember the following two sentences while getting along with others, you will naturally gain a wonderful life.
02 First sentence: The essence between people is the exchange of interests
When we encounter difficulties, we always think about seeking help from others, thinking that others will help ourselves unconditionally. Until we hit a wall, we realize that we are thinking too much.
You may not understand why others don’t help you, but this is human nature. Because, you cannot provide value to others.
The essence of people getting along with each other is actually equivalent exchange.
Therefore, when you encounter something, don’t have too much hope for others. It depends on whether you can provide value to others. If you cannot provide it, you can’t blame others.
Modern society is a reality, it is the exchange of interests. When you want others to help, first see what help you can provide to others.
If you find that you cannot provide value to others, you must learn to accept the ruthlessness of others.
When I first started learning to write, I added a WeChat message from a famous writer. Although the other party was very busy, we still talked a little. The writer's encouragement made me wrong what he meant.
I originally thought that I could bother him anytime and anywhere, but in the end I found that this was not the case at all. The relationship between us was just a nod.
During that time, I wrote an article to contribute. In order to increase the hit rate of this article, I wanted to send it to the writer. I originally thought he would agree, but I didn't expect the other party to refuse directly.
When I was wondering, the other party asked me if I didn’t understand why he refused? I said bluntly.
The other party said, "This is something you wrote. It is your own to earn the royalties after submission. I want to take the time to show you and also to know. Why? Besides, what can you provide me with? "
He asked me speechlessly.
Yes, why did the other party help me? This is just my expectation because the other party never thought of helping me.
Everything is actually what I think so well.
I thought he would not refuse, and thought he would help me, but I ignored what I could provide to the other party.
The relationship between people is really very realistic. If you give others seven points of help, others may give you six points of help.
But if you don’t help others, then why should others help you?
You must know at any time that people emphasize equivalent exchange. If you cannot do this, then this relationship will be difficult to maintain.
After all, no one is obliged to provide services to the other party.
isn't it?
03 Second sentence: People are in a low point, please try to save yourself
There are too many troubles in life. If you are defeated by these troubles, it will be difficult to experience the joy of life.
When you are in a trough, don’t count on anyone, because helping you is a love affair, and not helping you is a duty.
So, you cannot expect too much value. The reason why you are disappointed is because you have too much hope for others.
Once there is no hope, you will naturally not be disappointed.
When we are in a low point, the only thing we can do is to save ourselves, because we rely on the mountains and mountains to fall, and we can only rely on ourselves.
may be particularly difficult to start on your own, but if you survive, you will find a different kind of excitement.
Learning to save yourself is an amazing ability for a person.
When a person has such ability, even if his life is temporarily in a trough, he will sooner or later pass away the clouds and fog to see the sky clear.
The famous writer Liu Qing once said:
"Although the road of life is long, there are often only a few steps in the critical situation, especially when people are young."
In fact, this is true. If you can take these steps well, why worry about not being exciting in life?
is afraid that you don’t want to leave and put your hope on others. Once others can’t help you, you will lose the ability to solve problems.
Many people think that being able to rely on others is a blessing, but in fact it is a misfortune, because over-reliance on others can only delay your own growth.
people have never said long or short for the rest of their lives. You have to live for yourself, not for others.
You have to live your own wonderful life, not others.
People who know how to save themselves are the wise men of life. Even if they are in darkness, they will have sun, moon and stars in their hearts; even if they are temporarily surrounded by difficulties, they will always clear away the clouds and fog.
It is true that life is difficult for a person. No matter how difficult it is, you have to rely on yourself to hold on, because in this society, no one will give you all-round help except yourself. Isn't it
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