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A few days ago, my best friend had a few gatherings. During this period, we talked about the past and looked back. Everyone was filled with emotion and had a common feeling:
If I had understood these principles at the beginning, maybe there wouldn't be so many regrets in life.
The bottom wisdom of life, or life philosophy, will always quietly hide when you need it most. And when you grow up, they will appear in your mind. There are some truths that the earlier you understand, the better.
Part 01
The result is hard work, and the result is as fate.
Everything goes well, it is a must-have congratulations every festival. But there is no one who can really do it. Even the snake spirit in "Gourd Baby", although holding "ruyi", was inevitably subdued by the Vajra Calabashes in the end.
Nine out of ten life is unsatisfactory. But why do we always have the illusion that everything will go as planned? This is mostly because when I was young, I was overly spoiled by my parents. Parents will give whatever we want. As a result, when I grow up, I still have luck.
We love someone wholeheartedly and hope to get her love, but what we often receive is not "I love you", but "I'm sorry".
The one we worked hard and worked overtime, and finally got promoted and raised was a relative of the company boss. He was idle and flirted with all day.
We often say that life is a long river. Everyone is a small boat in the river. If you don’t go up against the current, you are regressing and sinking.
people must work hard, but we can only work hard on the "cause", and the final "result" can only be left to God's will. If you are entangled in "fruit" every day, no one will pay attention to you and no one will interfere with you, but throughout your life, you will be in pain
Set a goal for yourself and try to catch up every day. Even if the goal is not achieved, time will give you what you deserve. It will appear in front of you with another gift.
Part 02
people are all good or bad, only pros and cons.
When we were young, we often used "good" or "bad" to distinguish the people around us. When watching TV, we often asked our parents around us:
Is he a good person or a bad person?
Naive and naive, sometimes it lasts for a long time until we enter society. We have an illusion:
She is my best friend, and I support everything she says and does. She is petty and is not my friend. No matter how well she does, I don't agree.
However, the one who often pits us the most is that good person. And when we hid in the corner and cried alone, the bad guy appeared next to us again.
In fact, after entering society, we gradually discovered that there is no difference between good and bad in people. Most of the things that can be together depend on are gains and losses. We do not deny the role of emotions, but just say "the vast majority".
Why are some youth campus themes very popular in film and television now? It is because people who have entered society work hard in the world of fame and fortune all day and see the value of "true love", and this pure "valuable" only appears when they were young and ignorant.
We, who were young and ignorant, can no longer be ignorant after entering society. Remember this sentence: People are nothing but good or bad, only pros and cons.
Part 03
Marriage is not the grave of love, it just changed its appearance.
We long for love, but we are afraid of marriage. The entanglement of marriage makes us feel that marriage is the grave of love, without passion and unrestrainedness, only food, food, food, and salt.
Best friend Nana and her husband have been divorced for many years, and the two of them finally got back together. My best friend Nana once told me: After the divorce, she also started a new relationship again, but there was always the shadow of her ex-husband. She always wanted to use the ex-husband's standards to measure the current marriage.Only when I got to this day did I realize that there is still love between us!
Love and marriage are like a couple walking along the way. In love, the two people hold hands, without any burden and bond, and take steps happily.
In marriage, two people carry many luggage on their shoulders. We often put our minds on the backpack and unconsciously amplify its pain. But in fact, the two people in the marriage still did not loosen their hands, but instead they held tighter and tighter. Because without mutual support and love, how can two people with heavy burdens walk on the road of life?
Marriage is not the grave of love, it is because the love in marriage has changed its appearance and definition!
Part 04
, which is greater than ability.
Recently, " Great Qin Fu " is quite popular. Among them, there is a little character Guo Kai, who has no ambition and is greedy for money. Why can a villain in power become the prime minister of Zhao Guo ? Some people know how to behave, rely on relationships, because he is the companion of Zhao Wang ? But why did Zhao Yi, as the brother of King Zhao, have far better strength than Guo Kai, so why didn’t he become the prime minister?
This is a kind of workplace wisdom: take the team. Because although Guo Kai has poor abilities, he has always been on the side of King Zhao, and will support King Zhao regardless of whether it is right or wrong. Although Zhao Yi is very capable, he is only on the side of justice and sometimes disagrees with King Zhao's decision.
In the view of King Zhao, although Guo Kai was incompetent, he was a confidant. The bigger the talent Zhao Yi was, the more threatening his rule. Therefore, Guo Kai is the one who is more used, but Zhao Yi is the one who is excluded.
In the workplace, we often hate flatterers, but these flatterers can often step on your head and act as a mighty person. Don’t feel that God is unfair, but reflect on your own mistakes: you are not close to your boss or leader.
Side is always greater than ability. When a company boss inspects and appoints subordinates, he will first consider whether the person is the same as himself. If he is not from the same team, he will choose you, even if he has great abilities, it will make the boss upset. Then who will improve you?
Never care what others think of you and how you evaluate how you curry favor with your leader. In fact, there are only one or two key figures that determine your destiny in one unit, and the evaluation of others is really not that important.
