Writer Ted Jiang said in "The Story of Your Life": " Maturity means seeing the difference, but realizing that the difference is not important."
So, when you are persistent in changing others, you should shout to yourself early to stop.
Because changing others will only bring yourself into the abyss of troubles, and your heart will be occupied by bad emotions such as anger, regret, and sadness. It’s often because you are angry and sad, but the other person thinks you are unreasonable.
I believe most people have more or less this experience.
What should I do? Japan's most popular psychologist, Hiroko Nakamura, tells us to let go of expectations of others and give ourselves the opportunity to make a new choice. No matter what you have experienced in the past or what will happen in the future, only by using a positive and optimistic attitude and trying to do what is in front of us can all problems be solved.
Grandma Hengzi has been worried about her husband's relationship. Her husband likes drinking very much and goes to several taverns every night and does not return home until he gets drunk. After getting drunk, I still have a bad habit of talking to Hengzi’s grandmother and the children. Apart from drinking, he never wanted to help his family.
Grandma Hengzi once thought of many ways to change her husband. But she got nothing, which made her very angry and sad.
When she realized that her husband would not change, Hengzi's grandmother decided to "put down on her expectations." As she let go of her mentality to change others, her mood suddenly became clear and she let go of her worries.
Life is so strange. When we let go of our excessive expectations of others, we turn our attention to ourselves, and instead constantly inspire ourselves and gain the power of life.
Life, no one of us can influence the length of life, but we can change the width of life; we cannot influence the harsh environment, but we can change our mood.
Give up expectations, let go and change others, and want to change the world, and change yourself first is the bottom line.
I hope each of us will learn to let go of our expectations, stop changing others, work harder to ourselves, change ourselves more, and feel the beauty of the world.
