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Forty years old is a watershed in life.
Before you are forty, you can be ignorant, naive, childish, and do many things wrong by your own temperament. But after the age of forty, the cost of making mistakes is greater, and the cost of taking wrong paths or detours is greater, so you must be cautious in every decision you make, which is to be responsible for yourself.
However, some women do not realize this. They always refuse to do a lot of things, always have no high demands on themselves, and always think about just being bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye
Little do you know that this kind of visionless behavior will make your future full of danger. After all, there are some things that the more you refuse to do, the more annoying it is.
1: Refusing to pursue a higher quality life, always living a mess and full of resentment
What is a higher quality life? In fact, there is no 100% definition. The relationship lies in everyone's pursuit and everyone's heart.
But there are several points that can be determined, that is: have clear goals, love life and live out yourself, give yourself a stable relationship and financial source, and have a clean social circle.
Only when all of these are in line with them can your life be smooth, full of love and hope.
But some women always live in a mess and sloppy life. Not only are their marriages not well managed, their careers not well run, and even their interpersonal relationships are poor, which leads to them being always entangled with negative energy and resentment. People like
will not be likable, they will only make people want to stay away because she does not know how to love herself. She is a black hole rather than a luminescent body.
Once she lets herself fall into this vicious cycle, it will be difficult to feel happiness again.
2: Refusing to learn, always standing foolishly, believing that nothing will change
Some women always lack vision, she believes that what they have now will never change in their lifetime. So I no longer study, no longer work hard, but stay in my place with everything I have and stand foolishly.
But one day, when a man changes his mind, his marriage cannot be saved, and everything he has will disappear, she will suddenly wake up: It turns out that nothing in this world is unchanging.
From the moment you refuse to learn and improve yourself, you have put yourself in danger.
After all, a woman's sense of security can only come from herself. No matter how much a man loves you, he cannot afford your entire life. Therefore, it is irrational to regard marriage and men as life-saving straws.
Not learning is itself a regression, and it is itself disconnected from society. If you are not charming in the eyes of men, how can you not be annoying?
If you don’t get out of the small circle of your whole year, and don’t go to the outside world and take a look, you will become more and more short-sighted. In this way, you will be destined to be eliminated by the world.
3: Refusing to be responsible for marriage and family, always allowing one's heart to do some ridiculous things
Some women always do some incomprehensible and extremely absurd things in the name of freedom or living for themselves. They think they live very freely, but in fact they have long been underestimated.
For example, after reaching middle age, some women no longer cherish their existing marriages and families, no longer cherish their husbands’ kindness to them, but instead think that they are dull and boring, and just want people to escape.
At this time, you will have other thoughts and will no longer be loyal to the marriage.
The freshness of extramarital affairs is only temporary, but the price you have to pay is huge. Once your reputation is destroyed, you will no longer be able to gain a foothold in society, and once your marriage and family are lost, you will never be able to have it again.
When I am middle-aged, I don’t know how to be self-esteem and self-love, and I don’t know how to be responsible for my life. In fact, it is a very irrational stupidity.The more willful and nonsense you are, the more likely you are to narrow your path.
This is something a smart and visionary woman will never do.
Women have passed by forty years old and should have a clearer plan for their life.
How to manage marriage and family, how to deal with relationships with husband, children, parents and in-laws, what attitude and mood should be used to treat your social circle, how to improve yourself, run your career, etc., you must have your own standards, because this is directly related to your quality of life in the second half of your life.
Only when you are responsible enough to yourself, be sober, rational and visionary enough can you not make life full of regrets. Otherwise, the more you reject these, the more annoying you will be.
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