"Send to Moments for someone; not posting to Moments for someone is also because of someone."
"I liked someone when I was young, but now I like someone."
people's feelings, mentality, and emotions are always in a changing state.
What are we expressing in our hearts when we post on WeChat Moments?
There is a question on Zhihu: Why are more and more people reluctant to post on Moments?
One of the netizens' answers was:
"When I realized that after I posted it on Moments, no one liked and commented at all; that feeling of loss made me embarrassed and wanted to escape, and finally deleted the news in Moments in a mess."
In fact, not posting on Moments is also a test. What is
testing?
Test if anyone among your friends cares about you.
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posted on Moments for someone
Psychologically, there are some motivations hidden behind many of people's behaviors.
has motivation to make a person motivated;
loses motivation, and this person has no desire to do this.
For example:
Some people have a desire for money and only want to make money, so they will try every means to run their career and work hard.
If you meet someone you like, you will find various opportunities to appear in front of the other party, create opportunities for chance to meet each other again and again, and find topics to chat.
The desires in your heart often give you more action.
is actually the same as posting to Moments.
Because there is someone in your circle of friends who cares about, you will keep posting updates on your circle of friends.
Your purpose is to attract the attention of the other party.
There is a saying on the Internet:
"The news posted on the circle of friends is marked as only 1 person can see it."
This is a hint and a kind of loneliness.
There are people you like, but you dare not confess, so you can only use this method to hint to the other party;
Like someone, the other party does not know and does not have the courage to confess, which is a kind of loneliness.
What does it look like if you like someone?
is probably:
While eager to get close to the other party, he was timid and wanted to take a step ahead of the other party, but in the end he chose to retreat.
When faced with people you like, you will always subconsciously develop an inferiority complex. The behavior of posting to your Moments is to attract others' attention and attention.
We need to manage our personal design, polish it carefully when posting on WeChat Moments, and try every means to hint.
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Only then do I know who cares about you if I don’t post to my Moments
I have seen a story:
In order to test my boyfriend’s feelings for her, a girl always likes to “play with missing”.
will not reply to the message today, will not be able to contact you tomorrow, and will pretend to "leave you" the day after tomorrow.
She loves this boy very much, but the way she expresses love is a bit extreme.
She was worried about gains and losses, afraid of failure, and even more worried that the other party would leave her.
That's why she used this "extreme" method to test whether her boyfriend still loves her.
At the beginning, boys always tried hard to keep, please, say good things, and acted humbly;
But over time, boys became more and more tired of girls' behavior, because boys' patience was exhausted in such a love pattern.What does this state look like in
?
A girl breaks up with you, not really wants to break up, but wants you to keep it;
A girl says she is not angry, but she is actually very angry; if the boy doesn't notice it, the girl will "remember a note" to the boy and get the old debts in the next quarrel.
If you say, posting to Moments is to give some people a hint; then not posting to Moments is to test who cares about you. How do you say
?
"When you are silent, you know who cares about you the most."
There is a sad joke:
2 People from the company went out to build a team together. When they set off, they clicked the name twice, and everyone felt that it was fine; but on the way, they remembered that there was one missing person.
Can you understand this feeling of loneliness of "ignoring, not being paid attention to"?
If your life enters a period of silence, you close your circle of friends and will not be active in front of everyone.
At this time, it is clear who cares about you the most.
People who care about you will ask you what you are busy with and whether you are encountering any problems;
People who don’t care about you will not care about what you are doing or what you are busy with; because in their hearts, your sense of existence is not high.
There is a concept in psychology called " spotlight effect ".
can be understood as:
People are born to think that they are the center of the world, and believe that everyone around them should revolve around themselves and regard themselves as the central point.
When I was a child, I was cared for by my parents and loved by my family;
When I grew up, I also hope to be paid attention to by my classmates and friends;
Even if I get in love and get married, I hope that my partner can put all my thoughts on myself.
Live under the "spotlight effect", and people's desire to perform will become stronger and stronger.
You will unconsciously think that the focus of the people around you is on you.
Walking on the road, thinking that others are watching you;
did something wrong, thinking that others are watching you joke.
In fact, who cares so much about you?
There are not many people who really care about you. They will only appear in front of you when you need it.
And those who don’t care about you don’t pay so much attention to your life.
If you want to test whether anyone cares about you, you might as well close your circle of friends and see if anyone cares about your recent situation.
Today's topic:
Will you post to Moments for someone?
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