Not long ago, I received a postcard for written by a pen pal . At the beginning of
, she wrote: I have never seen you, I can only imagine you in the words, but I think you should be a warm, sunny and cute girl. I'm in Yunnan, I'll say hello to you.
was very surprised when I received the letter, because in the Internet era, we have long since left the moment of writing letters with a pen and are deeply surprised.
Over the years, I have been surrounded by countless tags. Some people think that I am very hostile, and I advise girls to be independent, and women who are unhappy in marriage to divorce;
Some people think that my words are gentle and full of power after reading.
The appearance of adjectives constitutes a full image of me. I keep receiving various comments from all directions in my mind, but I can't find a description that satisfies me.
There are many friends around me who are like this. They are sometimes lively and cheerful, strong and gentle, proud and beautiful. There seems to be no word that can describe them completely.
They are multifaceted and three-dimensional.
It’s like some people who feel cold when they first meet, but after they get to know each other, they are willing to open their hearts and release the truest emotions in their hearts.
Some people are silent and socialized at work, and are not sociable, but after get off work, they seem to have changed their appearance, put on beautiful makeup, and exude themselves in the lively crowd.
Some people always have a sense of distance. We are obviously very close to each other, but we cannot enter each other's hearts and maintain the boundaries that we should have as friends. If we shouldn't ask, we all know the boundaries that friendship should have.
We are no longer those women who live in the hearts of others, but undefined independent and lonely girls.
In the past, I was very concerned about whether I would be pointed at by others if I insisted on not getting married or not having children at the so-called marriageable age. Or my family will be discussed and commented on me because of my questions.
These problems have bothered me countless times, but later my mother told me: It’s okay, as long as you live a good life, don’t always care about what others say, how tiring it is.
In fact, during my growth journey, my mother was a person who had a profound influence on me. She was trying hard to treat me well in the way she thought was right, which made me understand that I should define my life myself, rather than being carried forward by others.
In our relatively backward town, it is rare for girls to receive education until they are eighteen years old. They are more required to get married after high school, or go out to work to subsidize their family income.
But my family treats me differently. Since childhood, my mother told me to study hard and walk out of that mountain.
So when she finished her undergraduate degree and was going to study for a postgraduate degree abroad, she still tried hard to raise my tuition fee.
Maybe you will feel that the countryside is no longer what it used to be, and many people can afford higher education. But I think you must have never seen most rural areas look like if you can say such words.
reality is often more cruel than we think. Why is the movie " Hidden in the Dust and Smoke " said to be true, because that is what most rural areas look like.
. It is difficult for most rural girls to get a particularly good education. They are more educated and study useless. They have to get married when they are old, or to support their brothers, such as brothers or younger brothers.
Many people read my text and think that I am creating female anxiety. I feel that I am very hostile. I feel that I keep encouraging girls to read and encourage girls to see themselves is a mistake.
, just think about it, it is this difference and tag that allows me to be seen by more girls and let them know that there is still someone in this world who firmly chooses to stand with them, which is enough.
often encourages girls to be themselves. This is a very brave word in itself. It is that we can follow our hearts and live hard. It is to jump out of other people's stereotype and jump out of the cage that imprisons our nature.
Do what they expect, even if they are not understood, they must stubbornly stick to what they love in their hearts.
Be yourself, be yourself and live your own shining life.
Even in the eyes of others, you are different. You are very resentful, sharp, lonely, fragile, etc., admit the contradictions in your personality, accept the multi-faceted self, but the life defined by others.
