Author: Xiaolu (Columnist of Fushu)
There was a popular question on Zhihu: "What experience do people with a good memory have?"
There is a highly praised answer: "There are too many worries and it is easy to be nostalgic. Whenever you look back on the past, those sadness and joy are always vivid in your mind. It can be accurate to every minute and every second, making people unable to forget it. Life is very tiring."
Indeed, too good memory is sometimes a burden.
Occasionally, if you forget it appropriately, you will live a happier life.
In fact, truly smart people have learned to "selective amnesia".
Don't take it seriously,
People get along with each other, and there are inevitably bumps and bumps.
Don't take it to heart if you are angry when you quarrel.
is too serious and you lose.
A family of three, the husband works at home, and the child cries. The husband says to his wife impatiently, "You don't care."
The wife said angrily, "Aren't I coaxing you already? You just say that you can never come and help."
The husband is not happy, and replied, "Aren't I busy with work?"
The wife retorted, "You don't care about big and small things at home, just like a hand-off manager."
The more quarreled, the more angry the husband slammed the door and came out.
people are most likely to say angry words when they quarrel.
People who care about their anger will get angry and become more angry the more they think about it; while those who learn to keep a calm mind will be neither annoyed nor angry, and will be content with satisfaction.
" Zizhi Tongjian ", there is such an interesting story:
Tang Dynasty had a famous general named Guo Ziyi . Guo Ziyi's son Guo Yan , he is a famous general, brave and good at fighting.
, and the daughter of Emperor Daizong of Tang at that time, Princess Shengping , was well-educated and generous.
The two of them are in love and soon entered the palace of marriage.
However, after marriage, one is a general, and the other is , golden branches and jade leaves, , every time we encounter a problem, we have their own opinions, and no one wants to let anyone go.
The most serious time was when Guo Yan got drunk and said to Princess Shengping in anger: "Don't think that your father is the emperor, you can despise our family. My father still disdains to be the emperor!"
Princess Shengping was very angry after hearing this, and ran back to the palace to confide in Tang Daizong.
After Guo Ziyi learned about this, she hurriedly called Guo Yan home and imprisoned him, for fear that he would speak nonsense again. He immediately entered the court to apologize and asked Emperor Daizong of Tang not to blame Guo Ai.
Unexpectedly, when Emperor Daizong of Tang heard this, he just smiled and said, "Why take the angry words in his children's boudoir to heart!"
Yes, why take the angry words in his heart for a moment?
When people are angry, they often speak without saying anything.
If you take angry words seriously, you will only become more angry the more you think about it.
Keep angry words out of your heart and keep good words in your heart. Life will naturally give you happiness and joy.
Don't remember past failures in my mind
A lifetime is long, you always have to go through some ups and downs and face some failures.
Some people choose to be willing to fall and stop moving forward;
while others choose to clear the clouds and start over again.
Oriental Selected famous anchor Dong Yuhui. Some time ago, with his humorous and interesting style, he became a hot search on Weibo and won the love of countless netizens.
But what few people know is that before becoming famous overnight, Dong Yuhui was abused a lot.
Some people say that he is ugly and does not deserve to be an anchor.
Some people also say that he is a good teacher and habitually guides others.
Some netizens even said that he made a living by selling things and advised the audience not to buy things.
The most serious time during the live broadcast was that Dong Yuhui did not sell a single order from 1:00 a.m. to 7:00.
But no matter what kind of abuse and the dilemma of not being able to sell it, Dong Yuhui never gave up.
Day after day, he continues to work hard to improve his live broadcast skills and try his best to spread the most valuable content to the audience.
His efforts were also rewarded. There are fewer and fewer insults on the Internet. Netizens praised Teacher Dong for his good speech in the live broadcast room of more than 100,000 people, and left messages to like his live broadcast.
Faced with the hardships of life, cowardly people either give up on themselves or indulge in the past. They are unwilling to face reality, and they cannot accept their own losses.
And brave people become more and more courageous as they set down, they will turn all their grievances into nourishment for growth.
Only by losing the burden of success or failure can we go into battle lightly and create a brilliant life.
Old old accounts, don't put them in your heart
Mo Yan once said in " Life and Death Fatigue ": "The world is like a book, pages are turned over. People should look forward and turn less old accounts of history."
Every time the old accounts are turned, they have more worries.
Regularly clear your heart to gain a happy life.
Netizen @Amu , once shared his story.
When Amu just graduated, he worked as an intern in an IT company.
Unfortunately, I met a boss who was lacking in responsibility and narrow-minded.
Once, in a project, he finally finished the design case, and only one data needs to be supplemented by his boss.
Amu sent the case to his boss, explaining what needs to be added. In order to avoid errors, Amu also called to communicate with his boss.
When the project was displayed, there was a serious error in the part of the data added by the boss, which caused the project to fail.
The boss who was not responsible pushed all the blame to Amu, and Amu lost his job because of this.
More than a year later, Amu worked hard to own his own company.
During a cooperation, he found that the partner was the original company. The person in charge of the cooperation project happened to be the former boss.
Someone and Amu suggested that they directly change the docking person or change the partner.
However, Amu did not do this. He said that he had never taken the old accounts of those years into his heart.
I have heard this saying: "Before going down the mountain, clear up all unhappiness."
people have limited hearts. If we put unhappiness and resentment in it, then happiness and joy will have nowhere to be placed.
Only by learning to clear old accounts can you live happily.
Real smart people,
All have learned selective amnesia
There is a saying that goes very well: "Patients with selective amnesia, only remember all happiness."
Life is long, remember what you want to remember and forget what you should forget.
A moment of anger, I was worried and lived a happy and contented life.
The past failures are not kept in mind and live a light and happy life.
The old accounts are not put into their hearts, and they live a peaceful and peaceful life.
For the rest of your life, I hope you will learn to selectively lose memory, only cherish beauty in your memory, and only keep happiness in your life.
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