In the process of making choices, the best situation is that in the state of awareness, the power of sensibility and rationality can be mobilized to make reasonable choices. Follow my heart and Follow my mind!

Life is a process of choice. The best situation in the process of making choices is that in the state of awareness, you can mobilize the following my heart and the power of rationality (Follow my mind) to make reasonable choices. Follow my heart and Follow my mind! Make a difference! lead your life! (Follow my intuition and thoughts! Let's make a difference! Lead your life!)

But in the process of actual choice, people are easily controlled by habits. Neither follow intuition nor rational choices, he is bound by the "false ego" (ego) composed of various subpersonal personalities. Let us make choices involuntarily and passively in the cage.

Our most precious thing is in our hearts. Just as someone obtained a treasure, he wanted to place it in the safest place. He first thought of the ocean, but he didn't feel very safe; he thought of the earth, but he didn't feel very safe; he thought of the sky, but he still didn't feel very safe. Finally, he put the treasure in his heart and finally felt at ease.

One day he wanted to use treasures, so he searched repeatedly from the ocean, the earth and the sky. It took a lot of time and too much energy, but it still gained nothing. But he never thought of going back to his heart and looking for it...

is like a poem "Song of Freedom" says:

Freedom is the quality I pursue throughout my life.

Before, I had been looking for the outside world,

As a result, the harvest was more disappointment,

seems that there is no such place that makes me feel free forever.

So, I asked myself: What is eternal freedom?

Until, I suddenly realized: freedom is in my heart.

In fact, when I untie my inner bondage to myself,

is free, and I am always with me.

Life is a process of experience. Happiness and pain are both normal emotions. A person full of positive energy will also have at least 60 emotional lows a day. When we perceive emotions, accept and understand emotions, we know that we can be the masters of emotions, free from external constraints, and return to an eternal state of freedom. No longer rely on the outside world, no longer pray for freedom to be given to others.

But we also need to clarify the truth, that is, in a tangible and physical world, on the one hand, we hope to live in a free and free "true self", but at the same time there will be a "ego". Sometimes, we also need to wear a "personality mask" and in some situations, use subpersonality to deal with external stimuli and challenges.

) Fully feel the things

People’s perception of the world is first of all, relying on the representational system. Through eyes, ears, nose, tongue, body and mind, we can obtain basic information about external things. However, the deep understanding of this information is mainly achieved through the "filter" (deletion, distortion, generalization) formed by the belief system. The drive of filters depends on the belief system on the one hand, which is the stable part; on the other hand, it depends on emotions and emotions, and there are characteristics of randomness and stability interactions.

Emotions and emotions are important tools for us to perceive the outside world. It has a "pendulum effect", your happiness and sorrow are like the pendulum swinging at both ends. Essentially, if you have sadness, you will be as happy as you are. vice versa. A person with flesh and blood must be emotionally diverse and stable.

In childhood, we can all express emotions and emotions. We can express happiness by laughing, or weeping. Enjoy the pleasure of expressing emotions freely.

But as the growth process occurs, there are gradually restrictions. Crying and anger are bad, tears are manifestations of incompetence, and anger cannot be expressed. Men do not cry easily, etc.This makes people fear emotional expression and get a response at the level of feeling: emotional expression is bad, we must suppress our feelings and limit our ability to express emotions. In order to make others feel more mature, more obedient and more honest. On the one hand, this situation will protect yourself and make yourself easily recognized in interpersonal communication; on the other hand, it will emphasize too much concealment of emotions and lose the ability to perceive emotions. When you have emotions, you will suppress them and not show off. The pendulum no longer swings, becomes a waste and cannot be used anymore. Emotions themselves should be flowing. Without flowing, there will be barriers and slowly form silt, which will be presented in a physical way.

If you want to have a reasonable flow of emotions, you need to fully feel things, believe and do things based on intuition, make reasonable judgments, and fully feel the present.

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) Believe and use intuition

When I was a child, I mostly learned and did things based on my intuition. Intuition is of great significance and role for children's learning and growth.

Intuition can make children curious. Because people are born curious about unknown things and want to explore further. This is also the driving force for the development of the world. Because it is less polluted by known knowledge and experience, it will freely perceive the world. Many geniuses lived in a relatively free state when they were young. When parents don’t let their children write or draw on the wall and don’t let their children freely control their time, a lot of curiosity will slowly be smoothed out and even disappear.

Intuition brings courage. Under the framework of experience, things that are believed to be impossible or impossible will be constantly refreshed at the intuitive level and will break a new path. In Robert Diltz 's "The Magic of Language", he mentioned changing the cognitive framework:

from problem framework to result framework;

from failure framework to feedback framework;

from impossible framework to like framework

In this framework, there is no fear of conflict. The goal focuses on the results, and conflict is also an integral part or means of improvement in achieving the results.

In this framework, it will also reduce the fear of self-persistence. Since everything is feedback and there is no failure, persistence can lead to more possibilities.

In this framework, you can be the real self or express yourself truly.

) Reasonable judgment

In "ego", judgment is a terrible limitation.

During the process of growing up, people have some expectations that are not satisfied and some desires that are not respected. In the view of gestal psychology, these are unmet expectations and unrespectful desires, which will exist and hope to be satisfied and respected.

These external needs will be projected on others. If there is a conflict between the outside and the inside, you will feel uncomfortable, and emotional pain will follow, which will make us afraid to face or deal with it.

Therefore, judgment and judgment become a sharp weapon, directly attacking the outside or self-inflicting can avoid being exposed to the feeling. Label other people and things to relieve your own discomfort.

So, when encountering any problems, make reasonable judgments. Sometimes, when we see some facts, we think it is the truth. But this so-called truth is mostly based on our judgment of the facts, and perhaps the truth is not as we think.

For many external things, we often wear tinted glasses to look at. Before it happened, we might have made a conclusion based on our inner system. The latter just verifies how correct our inner system’s judgment and judgment is.

Of course, external judgments will also be taken back internally to form self-judgment. This is the most core and fatal judgment. Our constant attack on ourselves makes ourselves fear and guilt; this fear and guilt will continue to project outward and attack outward. This cycle becomes a dead knot.

So, if you want to be free from judgment, you must first remove your own judgment. No matter what the outside is, we have to stop and not judge ourselves. Even if people all over the world are judging you, you will not judge yourself.

) Live in the present

Many people live in dreams, and this dream is the false appearance of time.

Many people will blame themselves and feel guilty when they think of the past. Past failed experiences and mistakes made will become lingering shadows in the mind, lingering in the heart and cannot be dissipated. This reflection actually increases self-blame and guilt.

Some people will be afraid and communicate when they think of the future. The uncertainty of the future and the unreasonable expectations for the future are all sources of fear and anxiety.

However, they never thought that the only thing people can truly grasp is the present. If you live in the past and the future, you will definitely miss the current experience and lose the grasp of life.

How to live in the present is not about understanding, but about experience. We can feel the feeling of living in the present through our physical experience.

Breathing is the best way to know the present, because neither the previous minute nor the next minute of breathing can let yourself live. Only the present breath can feel the existence of the self. In addition, you can scan the body to find your own physical feelings and experience the present existence. In addition, you can improve your awareness and develop an equal mind through meditation, meditation, , and vipassana .