I really like a passage written by the writer Kuang Kuang in "Handling of Women" in "Handling of ": "I have longed to be treasured and placed properly to avoid being shocked, to avoid suffering, to avoid being displaced everywhere, to avoid having any branches to rely on, but that person, I know, I always know, he will never come!"
Women can more and more realize the helplessness and regrets in this, as well as the courage and fearlessness that comes from this.
shoulder the burden of life and fill the gap in the soul. Women must eventually learn to face the ups and downs of life alone and live a life full of joy.
Some pains are a bit hard, you must grit your teeth and bear it. Some pains are no longer the shackles of self-restraint. Learn to "reduce the burden" for yourself, so that you can go into battle lightly and move forward with a smile.
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anymore, only by showing your opinion can you win respect.
No matter how capable women are, they will inevitably suffer discrimination in the workplace. Not only are they gender discrimination, but they also have the contempt of superiors over subordinates and the provocation of strong colleagues against cowardly people.
Faced with blatant oppression and obvious unfairness, many women choose to accept it and live according to people's faces, in order to use their own obedience and tolerance to protect hard-won job opportunities.
Facts have proved that this "pleasant" approach will only make others more aggressive: if you do nine points in the work of cooperation, he will be taken as a matter of course; from this, if others ask you for help, you will be helped ten times, it is a sin.
Anyone who gives others a look can skillfully apply the methods of " moral kidnapping " and "scoundrel" to seize the other party's weaknesses and "extort" the other party's labor force openly and secretly.
Women are middle-aged and dare not be at the bottom of the house, but become the head of the department, so they should stop suffering from "judging people's faces".
Especially in those units where there are not many people but "title reports" are popular, making the messy. The more you look down on your face, the more those who eat "idle" food are picky and picky. You are obviously talented, have a reputation online, and have a straightforward position. What are you afraid of?
So, when a middle-aged woman starts to do whatever she wants in the workplace, starts to be "stigmatized" and starts to be "not easy to mess with", and her words and deeds must follow her own opinions, which is the beginning of her true maturity.
Although the discussion behind it was still endless, they firmly "ignored it", and the gossip of the mobs was self-defeating.
Those who want to control you at will are like encountering a "hard hedgehog" and never dare to act rashly again.
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Don’t suffer from the pain of “being old before you get old”. Only by strengthening your body can you be confident.
What does a woman belong to her in her life?
Only after middle age will you find that lovers, children, parents, fame, wealth, status, and wealth are not, only physical health is the only one who belongs to you.
read a short article about a wife who loves her husband deeply. She has been doing housework, raising children, supporting her parents for decades, and fully supporting her husband to work hard for her career. However, when her husband succeeds and becomes famous, she is diagnosed with a malignant tumor.
She was unwilling to receive regular treatment with the reason of "I don't want my husband and children to worry", and hid for two years and wanted to self-condition, but the result was that she transferred to the lungs and was exhausted.
In the last days, she continued to play the role of "good wife", not allowing her husband to guard the bedside every day, and even encouraged her husband to find a good woman so that she could feel at ease.
Not long after, the wife passed away. As she wished, her husband remarried soon, and the child called others "mom", leaving only her parents behind, crying secretly.
After reading this story, I just felt that such a woman was too stupid and stubborn.
No matter how much a woman loves someone, if she doesn’t know how to cherish herself, everything will be nothing.
Compared with the loss of body weight in middle-aged women, what is more severe is the decline in physical functions.
At this time, don’t let it go as an excuse. Instead, strengthening the body should be regarded as a part of daily life. Through exercise and fitness, not only can the body detoxify, but also relieve stress for the mind.
When a woman is over fifty years old, she can still have a youthful and beautiful spirit, and she can face the challenges of life calmly.
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Don't suffer from the pain of "loveless marriage". If you have good hearts, love will be willed by God.
Women reach middle age, apart from the mess of life, what makes people unable to let go of is the pain of a loveless marriage.
Like Francesca, the housewife in the movie "The Unforgettable Dream of the Bridge", as a woman who loves fantasy and dreams, she traveled thousands of miles from Italy to a foreign land. However, the husband who gave her infinite passion and romance back then has become an ordinary farmer under the tempering of time. She also had to put aside her dream of wandering far away for the sake of her family.
When life becomes a repetition day after day, life will be like colorless and odorless boiled water. You can't tell where it is bad, but you can't tell where it is good anymore.
By chance, her husband took his two children to the town to participate in the competition. She chose to stay at home for four days.
It was during this period that she met photographer Robert, a person who was free of sex.
She led the way for him to find a country wooden bridge. During the intermittent conversation, they saw the appearance of their ideal lover from each other's words and eyes.
"This kind of certain love is only once in a lifetime." Francesca chose to stay in the family. This love cannot give each other a companionship day and night, but the four days and nights they were together became each other's endless love and longing.
Because of his beauty, Robert took the necklace given to him by Francesca and walked further and saw more scenery. With the support of this love, Francesca enjoys the beauty of every ordinary day.
At that time, life ended, and they chose to "be together": scatter the ashes on the Rothman Bridge, let love travel through life and death, and last forever.
Women when they reach middle age, when facing a "loveless marriage", they not only need to reflect, but also need to be beautiful and always maintain their longing for love, so that every ordinary day can bloom flowers.
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Conclusion:
Women reach middle age, don’t let yourself suffer too much grievance.
Life is already very hard, you must learn to find some sweetness by yourself.
The tangible pain, since you can't get rid of it, it's better to do it with a different mindset. The invisible pain is mostly due to your thoughts too much, so it's better to just let go of your mind and cherish it.
This way, life will become more and more exciting.
Author: It is as light as the wind and as light as the clouds.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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