Brother Tietou, I thought about responsibility for a long time at night and felt a little insomnia. Look at me, my family is average, but I have never suffered any crime. I used to study but I was at least in college. I was not as good as my job, and I didn’t fall into the pit of consumption. I just smoked, squirted, followed TV series, flipped through books, and so on. I didn’t have a girlfriend, but I was free and easy. I was a little confused when I suddenly thought of responsibility.
Don’t panic, you are only 25 years old, Tietou comforted me. I have time to figure it out. I have spent a long time reading many books, and I have a vague understanding.
Milan Kundera 's " Unbearable Lightness of Life " I don't remember much, but this book opens up my thinking on responsibility, lightness and heaviness, lightness and heaviness. I didn't understand it at the time. In a vague way, I think that I should choose heavyness, the so-called gentleman carries things with virtue. In the past, when I played games, I either played intellectual mages or agile characters. After reading this book, I gradually began to play power warriors. Attacks are not as good as agile, and fancy ones are not as good as mages, but they are resistant to beatings. This book at least changed my style of playing games.
But what deeply stimulated me was "The Legend of Hulanhe" by Xiao Hong . Feng Waizuizi's wife passed away not long after giving birth, leaving behind two children, one big and one young. Even though others pierced Feng Waizuizi with desperate eyes, Feng Waizuizi looked at his two sons and calmed down. He felt that he must take root in this world and grow firmly. Regardless of whether he has the ability or not, he sees others doing this, and he thinks he should do the same. I couldn't help but think of my former high school English teacher. His deeds were also legendary, but he played a good hand in his hand. Later, the divorce ended. Once in the evening self-study, he said, if it weren't for his children, I could still remember his eyes at that time.
The virtue is too far away, and the heavy shoulders support the sky of children. It is true that life is real and ordinary. My eyes returned to my side. I compared my grandparents, my parents, and later my father-in-law and mother-in-law. They are all ordinary people, working diligently throughout their lives and are reluctant to spend money. Who doesn’t want to eat some good food? Let’s ask who wants to relax? What do they want? There are so many people like them. If they all choose a light lifestyle, I can't imagine what society will become, but I also have a feeling that there will be more and more light people. I think life needs to be heavy and people need to firmly grasp the roots. You can compare these two books and read them. It is interesting to read many books.
, let’s talk about it, my family has started urging me to get married recently. I’m going home for the Chinese New Year and ask questions. It’s a headache to think about it. When I think about getting married and having children, I feel like my whole life is over. I look at it at first sight, and I’m afraid it’s not about the evidence that “died at the age of 25 and buried at the age of 75.”
Tietou sighed, who didn’t come here like this? I figured it out and finally made a choice. My ancestors have taken root in this way for generations, how can I be an exception? I also have to take root firmly, and I am also lucky. A friend of mine always says he wants to find a soul confidant, and I don’t have to look for it, but my wife is. After so many years of marriage, I can still chat for a few hours, and the direction is the same. If I lack it, I will work hard to achieve it. There is no internal friction between families, which is better than anything else.
I feel like I've been hit hard, Brother Tietou, just teach me some experience.
Tietou said helplessly, there is really nothing. I was 27 years old. After falling in love at first sight, I chased and got married for three years. I only talked about this time and had no experience to teach. I listened to the songs of Zheng Zhihua in four years in college, which changed my view of love. I believe that a person can only love once in his life, so I have to make careful choices this time. While waiting, I also doubted whether there was such a person, and in the end I got what I wanted. This is basically of no reference value for you. I am not a romantic expert, and I don’t have a good idea. I can only say that if you meet it at first sight, you will burn your passion!
Maybe I'm too home-stop, so I have to walk around. I rarely heard you talk about Chinese books in the past. I will read this book "The Biography of Hulanhe".
Foreign language books are not that heavy. After all, it is also the history of others, and we cannot feel it. I recommend you to read classical classics before the Qing Dynasty? There were many books from the late Qing Dynasty to the Republic of China, and when I read them, my chest was dull. No wonder Mr. Lu Xun's collection of novels was called "Call to Arms". When we fall behind, we are no longer confident and think that advanced things are good. As long as you don’t "run", you will eventually focus on this land. You still have to look for your own past. If you really want to, you will find these books yourself. You don’t need to recommend them, but foreign books need to be recommended.
After listening to you, I feel even worse.
Haha, there is nothing good or bad, keep calm and don’t panic.
