When I read "Insensitive Power" for the first time, I was very disappointed as to why such a PUA-style book was recommended by so many people.
After re-reading it this time, I found that, minus the dregs and inappropriate examples, it still has reference value.
What is insensitive force?
The so-called insensitive force is delayed reaction. Its essence is an emotional response mechanism. Through the power of insensitivity, you can give your emotions a buffer time and prevent you from making wrong decisions in an irrational state.
The core of insensitivity is the value judgment system, which is a standard for judging right and wrong, and making choices when dealing with things.
Why do we need insensitivity?
The power of insensitivity can help us control our emotions, strengthen our hearts, maintain a relatively stable core, and keep us in a relatively peaceful state without excessive reactions. This balance is good for physical and mental health. Insensitiveness is actually an adverse quotient. In adversity, people with insensitiveness will not be too sensitive and will not be easily defeated by setbacks. This shows how important insensitivity is to us.
So how can we cultivate our own insensitivity and achieve a comeback against the wind?
First, anti-glass heart.
We can cultivate ourselves to focus on our own feelings. If others say something good, we will accept it happily, and we can enhance our self-confidence through these compliments. If others say something bad about us, we should forget it as soon as possible and not let the bad things affect our mood.
Additionally, we need to desensitize ourselves and not overreact or overthink things. Being too sensitive will cause troubles in your life, and caring too much about other people's opinions will prevent you from focusing on doing more important things.
Second, goal-oriented.
We need to learn to streamline. We can abandon irrelevant things or hand them over to others, and focus on important things related to results. We need to get the results we want, not the person, so we don’t have to get hung up on the process.
Third, improve adaptability. Don't worry about small things; don't worry about bad things; don't complain when others make mistakes; don't complain when things change. Adjust yourself to changes in a timely manner.
Cultivating insensitivity is not to suppress or wrong yourself, but to allow yourself to forget about those insignificant things. Don't worry,
"Only by ignoring all kinds of unpleasant problems can we live a cheerful and generous life."
