Many times, life is like seeing flowers in a fog that cannot be seen through or read clearly. In this society, we learn step by step to crawl around and survive in the cracks.
Gradually, I transitioned from calling friends to learning to "walk alone". On the road of life, this marks that our lives have entered a new stage.
Some people can adapt to it and enjoy it, while some people can't bear it and still tolerate it.
At the beginning, we thought that when we entered the society, we were utilitarian and preyed on the weak. But I was surprised to find that sometimes the world of children is the same.
read a mother's confession: Her daughter, Xiaoxiao, has been in a bad mood recently and is crying and not going to kindergarten. Xiaoxiao is now in the third class of kindergarten. She had never been so resistant to going to school when she first entered school, which aroused her mother's suspicion.
later learned after patient questioning that there was a girl in the small class who was very beautiful and had been praised all the way up. Once I applied pink nail polish on the weekend and didn't take it off on Monday.
As a result, on Monday, Xiaoxiao became the princess in the hearts of the girls in the class. The beautiful girl ran up and asked Xiaoxiao to take off the nail polish. Xiaoxiao was frightened and froze for a moment. The beautiful girl took Xiaoxiao's hand and took off Xiaoxiao's nails fiercely.
Although in the end, all the little nail polish was removed. But he was still isolated by this beautiful girl. The girl also made other children treat Xiaoxiao coldly and could not play with her. Thus, the current situation was formed. Is
scary? Such a small child. Maybe that's just how human nature is. Anyway, my heart felt cold and depressed.
Even adults with sound minds will have difficulty digesting such negative emotions if they have not experienced some life experiences, let alone a child.
Adults who have experienced life and have seen through life may find that this is not difficult to accept. Many times, being alone is a kind of relief and comfort.
But those children and young people who are new to society don’t think so. They need group life and the love and affirmation of others.
To allow them to "separate" from group life, what they need is practice again and again in life, and learning to gradually recognize and understand the human heart.
Although, as we grow up, we understand that other people's opinions are actually not worth mentioning in our lives. But the pain that this process requires is indispensable.
Even so, there are really very few people who can really not care about it in their hearts. This is a kind of self-belief and a kind of spiritual practice.
In fact, many times if there is no external interference, we will have more time for ourselves, and our thinking can become more organized and in-depth
But if you want to learn to be alone, it also requires a process. , this is a change in mentality, usually stemming from these four points.
After experiencing the ups and downs of the world, I no longer look forward to friends.
Life is like a journey. Different age groups tend to different scenery. Everyone has gone through the lively youth, and has also made friends with a sincere heart.
People who have suffered losses in interpersonal relationships and whose hearts have been trampled on will find it difficult to trust others and no longer expect to meet wholehearted friends. People like
want to live peacefully in their own world, rather than expose themselves all over again and become bruised and bruised.
Discover the charm of being alone and no longer insist on being in a group
Some people have experienced time alone because of certain opportunities, and have experienced different beauty during this time. They enjoy and crave solitude.
Although there is less bustle and bustle around them, the purity and freedom really fascinate them. As a result, they no longer worry about integrating into social circles. People like
have seen through the essence of communication, which is nothing more than the measurement and exchange of interests. Therefore, I no longer force myself to be gregarious.
Fall in love with a simple life and stop trying to cater to
Everyone wants a different way of life. Some people like to have friends coming and going, while others prefer a simple and comfortable life.
They understand life little by little and find that they prefer to live in their own world than cater to others against their will. As a result, they no longer try to cater to others, but live wholeheartedly, quietly and comfortably. People like
are neither inferior nor introverted, they just choose a simpler way of life.
Find the home of your soul and stop wasting your life
In the noise, many people cannot see their own hearts clearly. When we experience solitude and benefit from it, inner maturity begins.
Gradually recognize yourself, fall in love with the quiet and comfortable self, see clearly what you want, and look for it. In a place of peace and joy, expand your life.
Just as it is written in "The Crowd": "As soon as a person joins a group, his IQ is seriously reduced. In order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong and use their IQ to exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safer."
In reality, then A sense of security and belonging is nothing but an illusion in life. After that, one feels doubly lonely and empty. It's better to live according to your heart and you will always be successful.
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