In the adult world, we are always in control. Many things and people are not determined by us, and there are very few parts we can control.
If a person still lives in his own imagination, his life will get worse and worse, but if a person gives up on himself after encountering the blow of fate and reality, that is not a wise move.
The true maturity is probably to accept the reality, but still not give up, to understand the uncontrollability and meaninglessness in life, but still to be able to face it with a smile and be calm and calm.
01. Accept that things are counterproductive
Many times we will find that some things will have results without hard work. Effort is the prerequisite, and then there are various uncontrollable factors.
Opportunities and choices are also important, but only hard work can be in our own hands.
strives for it as much as possible and accepts imperfections after trying its best.
writer Lu Sihao once said: "Working hard is not to get results, but to feel at ease after success.".
In this era where everyone is pursuing results, few people can focus on the process. It is true that the results are important, but it is also important to accept the results, especially if the ideal results are not achieved after hard work.
Acceptance in life is not about compromise, but about knowing your limitations as a human being, knowing that things are impermanent, and knowing that you just have to do your best.
02. Accepting love without getting it
I wrote a sentence before: "Not getting and being imperfect are the normal state of life", especially in relationships, this is even more true.
No matter what kind of relationship in life, it is about mutuality. Not all efforts and efforts can be seen and understood.
Accepting someone's departure, accepting love without getting it, is just like a simple saying in "The Best of Us": "Wishful thinking means you have to be willing to admit defeat."
In love and friendship, many times, there is not so much equality. Someone's departure is accidental and inevitable. Maybe it's because of incompatibility, maybe because the magnetic field is not enough, or maybe it's just because of the passage of time and the gradual alienation.
But no matter which one it is, the beauty I have experienced is real. I particularly recognize one sentence: "Everyone can only accompany you for a certain distance."
People are in the wind, and it is not up to you and me to gather and disperse. As we grow older, we realize more and more that what we can leave behind are those who are truly worthy of our cherishing and protecting. There is no doubt that companionship is the longest confession of love.
03, but still brave, optimistic, confident, hardworking,
In fact, these words are very simple to say, but it is not easy to actually do it, especially when facing setbacks.
Brave: Even if you are turned upside down by fate, even if you are struggling to survive, you will still be a "lonely brave man", the person who always moves forward and never surrenders to fate.
Optimism: No matter what the outside world is like, your heart is always full of sunshine, always believe in it, have a peaceful mind, and think for the best in everything.
Confidence; True self-confidence is to be able to keep a low profile, not to show off, and to be able to not care about the outside world's eyes, affirm what you do, and affirm your own value.
mentioned in "Life-Changing Conversations" that the reason why a person is in the eyes of the outside world is that he is unsure of his own value.
When you are able to determine your own value and be confident in your abilities, you can still get back on your feet in the face of a big blow.
In the final analysis, confidence is the driving force to persevere.
Hard work: The harder you work, the luckier you are. The luckier you are, the harder you work. It is true that not all efforts can get corresponding results, but it will definitely not work without hard work.
Effort is an opportunity for ordinary people to show themselves. Even if your family background is not good, even if your talent is not high, even if your abilities in all aspects are not very strong, God has not deprived you of the right to work hard, nor has it deprived you of the opportunity to fight for fairness. Chance.
For most ordinary people, the only way out is to work hard while ensuring their own health.
especially likes what Dong Yuhui said in the live broadcast room: "The flow of water is not first, but the endless flow."
Whoever has clearer goals, firmer ideas, continuous efforts, moves forward step by step, talks non-stop, and takes his time, will be able to reach the other side of his ideal and go further.
A person's maturity is to accept but not compromise, just like what Romain Rolland once said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to still love the world after seeing it clearly.".
means discovering yourself, keeping yourself, knowing what kind of life you want, living out yourself, not forgetting the original intention under the wave of life and destiny.
