In this life, the key is to live clearly;
Live clearly does not mean that you have to grasp the past, but that you have to decide the outcome, or make it clear in unnecessary matters;
But you know that the most important person in life is yourself;
When we interact with others, we must learn to respect our feelings;
Some people have habitually suppressed their own thoughts throughout their lives, and always complained about themselves to please others, sacrificed their own happiness, and achieve the happiness of others;
At critical moments, these people who are usually pleased and tolerated by themselves may not not If you help, you won’t even care about you;
If you say that when you are young, people have to bow their heads for their careers, or don’t understand the complexity of people’s hearts, they will let evil people bully themselves and take advantage of themselves;
Then, after being fifty and middle-aged, you should have been familiar with the rules of human relationships. There is really no need to keep frequent and friendly contacts with many people;
does not need to deliberately compromise;
, please keep them away from your life, so that you can be loyal to your choices and avoid being hurt and betrayal;
Private relatives
In the habits of Chinese people, it is a very natural social phenomenon between relatives;
Of course, it is human nature to support each other based on blood relationships, and overcome difficulties together;
If relatives can really be united and moral, rely on each other, and go through the ups and downs of life, it is naturally a good story;
But in reality, relatives are jealous of each other, watch the misfortune of their relatives coldly, and even turn against each other into enemies;
The reason is also the selfishness and greed of human nature;
people are considering themselves, but no matter who they come and go with. , we must pay attention to fairness and reason;
Some people can reciprocate, while others are too much. They always take advantage of others, give themselves convenience, let others make sacrifices and contributions, and choose ready-made benefits by themselves;
Even if you help them with your heart, they take it for granted and will not remember your kindness. They may avoid you when you are in a dilemma, and may even ridicule you a few words. Anyway, you have no value they use, and they will not be afraid of your majesty;
Therefore, in order to avoid being plotted and hurt by these extremely selfish relatives, you should stay away from them as much as possible in life and do not suffer unnecessary losses.
Indifferent classmates
Classmates are the most beautiful in the memory of most people;
But after going to society and experiencing the sinisterness and coldness of people's hearts, you will find that the so-called innocence and beauty are just frozen in the past youth;
Some people do care about the feelings between classmates. When encountering difficulties on weekdays, they will help, do not put on airs with classmates, and do not set traps;
Some people's original intentions have changed. Under their greed, they have learned to use the good relationship between classmates to achieve their own ulterior motives. Purpose;
He asks you for your business, you always agree happily and help with all your strength. When you encounter trouble, some students will push back and forth and try to separate themselves from you;
When you are famous, have status and are valuable, your classmates will smile at you and often please you;
When you are in a down-and-out position, almost all the people around you "disband" and disappear in your life;
Such classmates' friendship is just as thin as paper. Instead of placing hope for them, it is better to reduce contact and leave precious time to those who are worthy and the right people;
snobbish old colleague
People have summarized their busy work: the time spent with their partners is not as long as they spend with their colleagues;
I have to say that some colleagues are indeed worthy of our interactions, and they have the value of cooperation and the sincerity of being friends;
But more often, colleagues are just ordinary interpersonal relationships, and if it is not for interests, feelings are always out of reach;
When you are in a high position and can summon wind and rain in the workplace, you don’t know what purpose your colleagues are friendly to you have;
A few people really admire your talents, and most of them are looking at your value and want to fight for yourself. Calculate, get value and information from you;
So, don’t have too high expectations for your colleagues, it’s probably just to use each other;
can get along with like-minded colleagues, chatting and laughing, and comforting each other, which is a blessing;
But you have to learn to know people, don’t invite snobbish colleagues into your life;
people like
are profit-oriented and will not be moved by feelings. If you invest too much, it will consume and damage yourself;
They are trying their best to treat you, all for yourself, don’t think too naively, and let yourself be troubled to help them.
People over fifty years old should face their life easily, rather than worrying and sad about having a good relationship with their snobbish colleagues. That is really not worth it;
When you reach middle age, no matter whether you have money or not, you should not bother with your own efforts or not;
contact them is often a loss of energy. If you have time to date them, it is better to read more, exercise more, and spend more time with your family. This is the important thing in your life.
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