Someone on the Internet asserted:
"In the future society, 90% of people may live like maggots due to excessive indulgence in desires. They do not have the ability to change themselves and restrain themselves, but are immersed in short-term pleasure until they lose themselves."
This is by no means alarmist.
In 2021, the American social platform media Facebook released an astonishing data: 360 million users around the world have symptoms of Internet addiction. As soon as the
data came out, it caused a huge uproar on the Internet.
In fact, many people suffer from social media addiction and don’t know it.
In life, do you have this situation: pick up your phone and relax, and the past few hours have passed without realizing it; frequently check your phone to see if there are any new messages.
We always think that mobile phones make life better, but only by "dropping away" mobile phones can life be colorful.
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A short film called "False You" exposes false online social networking.
Someone has a cold relationship with his partner, but he posed for intimacy and pretended to be happy;
Someone is taking a green fat-reducing dinner under the camera, but turning around but eating high-calorie food, pretending to live a healthy life.
is hard to imagine. It takes so much effort to create illusions just to give likes. Behind all behaviors of
, there is a desire to be paid attention to. In
TED speech , actor Jigsef told his story.
号Sef embarked on the path of an actor when he was a child. During his audition, he won many roles in TV series. Because he is famous, he often brags in summer camps and is sought after by all stars.
Social platform The emergence of Twitter infinitely amplifies his sense of vanity.
When he read the script, this idea came back to his mind: how people evaluate this movie, how to gain attention, forward, and not be unblocked.
As an actor, he doesn't consider how to shape characters or study scripts, but just thinks about how to play Twitter well.
号Sef put all his energy on Twitter and no longer focused on acting. He gradually lost the sense of accomplishment he gained from his creation and became a slave to Twitter. Like comments on
Social software are like catalysts of desire.
It is difficult to get affirmation in reality, and it can be easily obtained on social media. In order to gain recognition, people have repeatedly studied taking photos and copywriting, trying to create a perfect character on social media.
But there is no upper limit on the number of likes, and there is no end to desire.
Unconsciously, social media fills people's entire lives. In the end, it penetrates into the bone marrow like a poison and cannot be given up.
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After I went to work, I had a certificate exam plan, but I could only prepare for the exam at night. In the plan, free time is filled with full of work and there are learning tasks every night.
plan is beautiful, and the reality is skinny.
After dinner, I flashed my phone and made all night, and I didn’t count the plans I made. When I wanted to put down my phone, a voice in my mind said, "Play for a while, it's not too late to wait and learn again."
is getting closer and closer to the exam time, and the study plan is still stagnant. What’s more serious is that my patience and concentration have dropped significantly due to excessive mobile phone play.
I used to be able to wander in the book for a day, but now I will be impetuous when I read for 15 minutes. I used to be able to study intently for hours, but now I study for 10 minutes and my thoughts will float away and I can't sit and stand still.
I have put down my phone countless times, picked up my phone countless times, repeatedly fighting against desires, and not being able to get rid of it. The result is that every night I spend in a daze and cannot get any growth myself.
login to social software like clocking in every day, and I can't stop when I open my phone. am I controlling my phone, or is it controlled by my phone?
The Internet is like a black hole, people are trapped in it uncontrollably and unable to extricate themselves.
During the time I was browsing my phone, a large amount of information flashed by, but I couldn’t remember any information in my mind, and I was just wasting my time.
Long-term addiction to social media will also fall into a state of "information fatigue".
Too much fragmented information, our ability to think deeply is deprived, and we only believe in everything we see. If this continues, you will become irritable and lack the ability to think independently.
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There is a saying in the documentary "Surveillance Capitalism: Intelligent Trap": "We have walked through a tool-based technical environment and came to a technical environment based on addiction and manipulation."
Most people cannot escape the cage of the Internet. They are taken away from time and attention, and then manipulated. Therefore, overcoming social media addiction is the first step to get rid of old life and start a new life.
To make a complete transformation, you might as well try these methods first:
Change behavior motivation
When we pick up the book, we want to read; when we pick up the word book, we want to improve our English level. But have you ever thought about why we pick up our phones?
Sometimes, when you open your phone aimlessly and roam in the software for two hours, you will get fragmented information. This information only stays in my mind for a second and is forgotten in a flash.
So, before opening your phone next time, be sure of what you want to do and don’t attract attention by other software or pushes.
Focus on one thing
Psychologist Mihal proposed the concept of " flow ", that is, the state of completely focusing on one thing. Research shows that flow causes people to feel high in excitement and fulfillment. One of the ways to generate flow in
is to focus your energy on one thing.
For example, when reading a book, you can isolate yourself in the study, concentrate on the ocean of books without being disturbed by the outside world, and enjoy the fun of reading.
If this happens, your dependence on the network will be greatly reduced. At this time, you have more time to improve yourself, enrich yourself, and talk to yourself.
Return to real life
Many people shine on the Internet. In contrast, some people are becoming more and more inferior and gradually lose confidence.
In fact, there are very few things on the Internet that deserve our concern.
Remove the useless APP and set the mobile phone's non-disturbance mode... A series of behaviors can selectively obtain information, block interference, and increase the sense of real life.
No matter how exciting the Internet world is, it is better to put down your phone and feel the real world.
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I heard a joke: "The farthest distance in the world is probably because I am looking at you, but you are looking at your phone."
The Internet is not the whole of life, reality is.
Sitting freely with your family, spending time with your lover day and night, chatting and laughing with your friends, everything is more real and warmer than the online world.
True freedom is not to look at the phone at will, but to put down the phone, feel every grass and tree in life, a flower and a world, and to experience the worry and joy of life, bitterness and sweetness of life.
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