After Ayu and her husband got married and had a baby, Ayu’s mother-in-law came from the countryside to the city to help Ayu take care of the child. Ayu's son started to add complementary foods when he was 6 months old. Ayu's mother-in-law often chewed the food and fed it to her grandson. Unexpectedly, Ayu's son suddenly developed symptoms of vomiting. Ayu collapsed after knowing the truth.
When Ayu was 28 years old, she married her boyfriend of four years. Ayu’s parents-in-law were ordinary farmers with traditional and conservative ideas.
Before Ayu and her husband got married, Ayu’s parents-in-law were not satisfied. Ayu's father-in-law said to Ayu's husband: "This girl is not good. She is thin and looks weak. Our family has been farmers for generations. Who will farm the land in the future? Let's not talk about whether she can do farm work. Let's talk about her thin body. How can she pass on the family lineage? No, no, I don't agree."
After hearing what his father said, Ayu's husband was so angry that he cried. Unable to laugh, he said helplessly: "Dad, what age are we in? Don't tell me that Ayu can't farm, and I have no experience. If you want us to come back to farm, why do you have to send me to college?"
"I sent you to college because you are a man. How can a man without education travel around and do big things so that his wife and children can live a good life?" Ayu's father-in-law scolded his son while smoking.
"Ayu is also a highly educated person. My parents want their son to find a highly educated and beautiful wife. How come he changed when he came to our family?"
"Is she beautiful enough to be eaten? If you ask me, let's find a girl who is honest, hard-working, and doesn't have to have a high degree of education."
When Ayu's father-in-law said this, Ayu's husband no longer wanted to answer a word. Although Ayu's parents-in-law were dissatisfied with Ayu, they still did not turn against Ayu's husband, and eventually the two got married.
After getting married, Ayu was a little afraid of getting along with her parents-in-law, especially Ayu's father-in-law, which made Ayu feel an indescribable sense of oppression.
After Ayu got married, Ayu's father-in-law and mother-in-law wanted Ayu to stay at home to raise a husband and raise children, and urged Ayu to have a child as soon as possible. But Ayu is a highly educated person and is unwilling to succumb to tradition. After that, she and her husband lived out of town and were busy working every day. It was not until four years later that Ayu and her husband prepared to have a baby.
In the fifth year of marriage between Ayu and her husband, Ayu gave birth to a son. When Ayu's parents-in-law found out, they were so excited that they stayed up all night. After much hope and hope, finally there was a successor. Ayu's father-in-law quickly asked Ayu's mother-in-law to help Ayu take care of the child.
Ayu's father-in-law said: "She has no experience and only knows how to work. How can she know how to take care of a baby? Go and help her and see if she can bring her grandson back."
Ayu originally thought about asking her mother to help take care of the baby and take her son to kindergarten, but her mother-in-law suddenly called and said she wanted to help take care of the baby.
Ayu declined her mother-in-law on the phone, but the day after Ayu finished her confinement, Ayu's mother-in-law appeared at the door of her house.
Ayu was very surprised by the arrival of her mother-in-law and asked: "Mom, why are you here?"
Ayu's mother-in-law's face was full of joy and she said excitedly: "I'm here to pick you up and arrange a full-moon banquet for your child. This is my heart. It's for the child." Ayu's mother-in-law took out 1,000 yuan from her pocket and handed it to Ayu.
"Thank you, Mom!" Ayu took the money and said, "The child is too young. I'm afraid the child's body won't be able to bear the tossing back and forth in the car. Let's wait until the child is older and celebrate his first birthday!"
"This is not possible. It is traditional to hold a full-moon banquet. It is unlucky not to push it back." Ayu's mother-in-law rejected Ayu's suggestion.
At this time, Ayu's mother also came out and saw Ayu's mother-in-law exchanging a few words.
Because Ayu’s mother-in-law insisted on taking the children back to the countryside to hold a full moon party, Ayu’s father-in-law also called and urged Ayu’s husband to take the children back. Therefore, Ayu’s husband had to take leave and took Ayu and his son back to the countryside with Ayu’s mother-in-law.
After Ayu and her husband took their son back to the countryside to celebrate the full moon party, Ayu's parents-in-law began to persuade Ayu to leave their son behind and let Ayu's mother-in-law take care of him.
She had just given birth to her son, and her son was about to be separated from her. Of course Ayu didn't want to, so she said to her mother-in-law: "The child is too young and needs breast milk. My milk is very good. Let's wait until he is weaned!"
"Nowadays, many children eat milk powder and grow strong. Just give the child to me, and you can go to work without worries. I am more experienced than you, and I will definitely be able to take care of us." This baby of ours is fat and healthy. "
" Mom, it's not that I don't let you take care of her, it's that the child needs breast milk. It's okay if I don't have it, my milk is so good. Besides, the nutrition of milk powder is definitely not as good as breast milk. Children who eat milk powder are smarter. People only eat milk powder after their children are weaned at 8 months. "
After Ayu finished speaking, Ayu's mother-in-law did not speak. Hearing that children fed breast milk are smarter than those fed milk powder, Ayu's father-in-law no longer forced his grandson to be raised at home, so he asked Ayu's mother-in-law to pack up and follow Ayu and her husband back to the city.
Because the house Ayu and her husband lived in was not that big, Ayu’s mother saw Ayu’s mother-in-law coming to help take care of the children, so she gave Ayu a few words and went home.
When her mother-in-law came, Ayu felt very uncomfortable. Thinking that she would have to go back to work soon, she had no choice but to let her mother-in-law stay.
After Ayu went to work, Ayu's mother-in-law took care of the children at home alone. Every day, Ayu's husband would buy the groceries in advance. Ayu would go home at noon to feed the children and cook at the same time.
When Ayu's son was 5 months old, one time Ayu got off work early. When he returned home and opened the door, his mother-in-law was sitting on the sofa feeding her son something to eat. Ayu came closer, and it turned out that her mother-in-law was eating the apple, and her son also wanted to eat it. The mother-in-law chewed the apple and fed it to her son's mouth.
Ayu's heart suddenly sank. She put the bag away and quickly stopped her mother-in-law and said, "Mom, he is too young. Complementary food can only be added after 6 months, and it must be added gradually, otherwise the allergies to some things will not be obvious. And When children add complementary foods, they should first add egg yolks. If they eat a lot of things, they will not be able to digest them, which will ruin their stomachs. There are special grinding bowls for children. There are too many bacteria in adults' mouths. If they are not chewed, they will get sick. . "
" You are chattering a lot, but I can't remember it. Some of my babies were chewed to bits at 4 months old, and they ate everything. The children grew up quite well, and they didn't have to pay so much attention. "
Ayu sighed helplessly and said: "We don't have to worry about how other people's children are raised, just our own children. Besides, if other people's children are sick, they won't tell us. Pay more attention and the children will suffer less, right? "
Ayu's mother-in-law looked at her grandson and agreed to Ayu.
When Ayu’s son was 6 months old, Ayu bought tableware for grinding food for him. One day, Ayu was at work and received a call from her husband, asking Ayu to go to the hospital quickly.
Ayu only found out when she arrived at the hospital that her son suddenly couldn't eat for some reason and started to feel nauseated and vomited when he ate. Because Ayu's son was only 6 months old and could not express his feelings, so he kept crying. Ayu's mother-in-law had no choice but to call Ayu's husband.
After examination at the hospital, the pediatrician said that judging from Ayu's son's symptoms and examination results, he was infected with Helicobacter pylori. When Ayu heard this, her emotions broke down instantly. How could a child who was only 6 months old be infected with Helicobacter pylori?
Ayu looked at the doctor eagerly and asked: "Is this serious disease? Can it be cured?"
The doctor looked at Ayu and explained: "The first symptom of a baby infected with Helicobacter pylori is nausea and vomiting, regurgitation, reluctance to eat, picky eaters, etc. If it is delayed, it can easily cause chronic gastritis. The second symptom is abdominal pain with irregular time and irregularity. The third symptom is weight loss and malnutrition.This disease can be cured, but if someone in your family has this disease, you must be careful not to talk to your children mouth-to-mouth, not share tableware, and wash your hands frequently. "
After the doctor finished speaking, Ayu turned to look at her mother-in-law, and took her son from her arms. "Mom, would you like to do a check-up too? "
" What do you mean? Do you suspect that I passed it on to the child? I am in very good health. "Ayu's mother-in-law looked at Ayu angrily.
"It's not mom. The child usually comes into contact with the two of us. We are the two of us to take care of it. I also do the examination. "
Ayu's mother-in-law looked at Ayu reluctantly, and had to do an examination with Ayu the next day. After the test results came out, Ayu's mother-in-law was indeed infected with Helicobacter pylori.
After it was confirmed that her mother-in-law was infected with Helicobacter pylori, Ayu was very angry and quarreled with her husband, "Your mother chewed up an apple and gave it to her son when he was 4 months old. I saw it with my own eyes. I told her at that time not to chew anything to feed the child, and not to give the child random food, but she agreed reluctantly. What now? She must have chewed something secretly to feed the child again. What should she do now? He is so young, so he needs to take medicine..." Ayu choked up as she spoke.
Ayu's husband frowned and listened, and retorted: "It's not necessarily my mother who got the infection. "
" Then who do you think was infected? Your mother is with the child all the time. I didn't want her to come and take care of the child in the first place. She insisted on coming and took the child away. I really don't know what she was thinking. Is this because she loves the child? This is harmful. Let me tell you, tell your mother that she doesn’t need to take care of the child anymore, and let her go back to her hometown and get cured first. If she doesn't leave, we will only get divorced and I will take my son away. "
The hospital prescribed medicine to Ayu's mother-in-law and told her to take it as prescribed by the doctor. After returning home, Ayu asked for leave from her work and said she would not let her mother-in-law touch the child.
Ayu's mother-in-law felt very aggrieved. She sat on the bed and burst into tears. While crying, she said: "I don't want to be infected with that bacteria. I don't know. I didn't infect my grandson on purpose. Why aren't I allowed to touch my grandson? If you don't let me care about my grandson, I might as well die. "
Ayu's husband had no choice but to persuade, "You should go home and cure your illness first! "
" I won't leave. I still have to take care of my grandson. We can just treat it together. "
" The problem now is that Ayu is very angry. She doesn't want you to take the child away. Do you really want to watch me divorce and let her take away the child? "
" If she threatens you with divorce, there is nothing you can do. If she really dares to divorce, you can earn custody of the child so that she can't see the child. "
" Mom? ..." Ayu's husband was particularly helpless.
Later, because Ayu's mother-in-law refused to leave, Ayu had to take her son back to her parents' home and gave the son to her mother.
Ayu's mother advised Ayu not to divorce, just because her mother-in-law chewed things to feed the children, so as not to lead to divorce. Moreover, as long as the mother-in-law is actively treated for Helicobacter pylori infection, cooperates with the treatment, and gets rid of her previous bad habits, she can still continue to take care of her children.
However, Ayu feels that her mother-in-law does not listen to other people's suggestions and only does what she wants. It is difficult to change one's habits in the future. When a mother-in-law takes care of a child, there will definitely be many conflicts. If her mother-in-law must interfere with her life, she would rather not get married.
Some people say that it is too difficult for the mother-in-law to help take care of the children. The daughter-in-law dislikes this and that, saying that the mother-in-law is not good at raising children. If she doesn’t help with the children, her daughter-in-law will say that her mother-in-law only cares about herself and refuses to help, and she won’t be able to take care of her mother-in-law when she gets old!
I am the mother of Happy and Candy, thank you for reading. If you were Ayu, would you choose to divorce because your mother-in-law takes care of the baby? What would you do if you were Ayu’s mother-in-law? Is it really that difficult to be a mother-in-law? welcome to leave a message to share your feelings!
