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At the dinner table, my mother-in-law was holding her mobile phone while eating, chatting with people from time to time, and listening to the content seemed to be about travel. Sure enough, after a while, she announced: "I want to go out for a trip. I will leave tomorrow afternoon, go home first, and then set off with others there."
My father-in-law said angrily: "I always want to go out to play. How can I take care of these two children by myself?"
Mother-in-law explained that this time, her brothers and sisters and other friends, and many people drove to Xinjiang together. It is rare that so many people went out together, and she could not be absent.
I felt a little dissatisfied and said irritably, "You have traveled all over Xinjiang, there is no need to go again, we are all in work, you say you will leave, what should we do, there is no room for anything."
My mother-in-law rolled down her eyelids, put the chopsticks on the table, and her voice raised several degrees: "How many of you mean? One I am against it. I am here to help you take care of your children. I am tired and hard, and I also supplement you from time to time. I want to go out to relax for a few days, but I didn’t spend your money. I have no freedom at all. It’s really strange. "
I couldn’t help but feel a little angry. My mother-in-law helps take care of the children. She is never vague in her daily life. I am naturally full of gratitude, but whenever we have conflicts, she likes to talk about this.
I suppressed the surging in my heart and lowered my posture: "Mom, it's not that I can't go, but I have to give us some time. The two children are still so young, and my dad can't be busy at all. You have to let us find temporary workers."
"There is no time to wait. My uncle and the others are going to set off in two days. You can find a way to do the child's affairs..." After that, she ignored everyone and continued to use her phone voice to say that she would go back tomorrow.
I was in no mood either. I took a few bites of food and entered the room with a dark face.
After my husband came back in the evening, I couldn't help complaining to him: "It's like this every time, helping us take care of our children, but when did she stay here for three months? Every time she didn't have to go home or go out for a trip in about two months. She had to leave and didn't consider us at all. Is traveling important or these two grandchildren important?"
My husband smiled and comforted me: "You all know that she loves to play, so she doesn't want to go there. She is not happy to take care of the children here. She is happy and she will be able to take care of her when she comes back. Tomorrow I will go downstairs to find a temporary worker as soon as possible. You can ask for leave in the next two days."
I rolled my eyes, smashed the pillow at him helplessly, and breathed heavily.
2
My mother-in-law packed her things the next day, and she didn't say how many days she would go out. I had to take two days off, but fortunately I found a nanny soon because it was temporary and the cost was relatively expensive.
Nanny is responsible for cooking and cleaning, and her father-in-law is responsible for taking care of two children. When needed, the nanny will take over all the affairs of the child. After get off work in the evening, I will take over all the affairs of the child.
This is not the first time I have endured my mother-in-law’s behavior.
Before giving birth, my mother-in-law and I never blushed. At that time, I thought I would become another existence, that is, there would be no conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After giving birth, reality slapped in the face.
When my eldest daughter was born, there was an elderly person at my mother-in-law's house. At that time, my mother was basically helping her with her mother. When my mother-in-law has time, she comes to my place to stay or go out for a trip. When she misses her granddaughter, she comes to see her again. There is no big problem with us getting along.
During this period, I learned that my mother-in-law is a playful person, likes traveling, and likes to take photos.She accidentally revealed to me that she had a sense of superiority in retirement payment, and she mentioned it more than once that she wanted to go back to live her old age life in the future.
I respect her ideas very much and think that the elderly should not be tied up with children in strange cities, let alone they have a pension, so it is understandable that they can live a comfortable life.
can be seen in front of reality, and it is not so easy to balance. When my parents-in-law got free, they mentioned the second child to us. My husband was the only child, and my mother-in-law said that we were too lonely to have only one daughter.
I have a younger brother and a younger sister. I feel the pleasure of having brothers and sisters, and I don’t reject the two. Not to mention my husband, he wants to have one more than anyone else.
Who knew that the second child was pregnant with one and gave one. In the late stage of pregnancy, my mother-in-law came over with confinement nanny . She said that I was pregnant with twins, and I could feel more at ease with a confinement nanny. I was naturally very happy, thinking that the first child had not had a confinement period well, so I had to take good care of this time, and at the same time, I still quite agree with my mother-in-law.
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htmlTwo boys were born at the end of August. Before National Day, my mother-in-law proposed to go home, saying that my friends and old colleagues missed her. She couldn't form a bureau without her, so she had to go back and relax.
Confinement nanny expires after National Day. When I just passed the confinement period, she had to leave such two young children. Even the confinement nanny said worriedly: "Auntie, how can you feel at ease when you go back so quickly? The child's mother has just passed the confinement period and her body has not fully recovered."
Mother-in-law said easily: "It's okay, I can take care of it after the confinement period. Anyway, the two young people sleep most of the time, let alone my husband is there."
Later she went home. After she returned, she basically had morning tea with her friends every day, and she would go around the surroundings. It was so good!
The most annoying thing is that my mother-in-law simply didn't come back because she was on maternity leave, and I was really holding my mouthful of blood and almost spit it out. The hard work of those months was self-evident, and I had stored more than 20 kilograms of meat and was quickly beaten back to my original state.
1 year later, and my mother-in-law came with us, but her mind was not here. Because she used to play too much, her knee meniscus was severely worn out when walking. When she took care of her child, she often sighed and complained that her legs hurt and her back pain.
But as long as any friend invites her to travel, she will immediately feel energetic, her waist doesn’t hurt, and her legs are fine, and it’s not a problem to follow every attraction.
Three months ago, she had been to Penglai with her friends. That's it, three months is her limit.
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Mother-in-law traveled to Xinjiang for half a month before she came back. As my husband said, she felt better after she came back and took the child with her peace of mind. Although I felt resentful in my heart, I actually looked forward to her coming back every day.
Seeing my mother-in-law so casual, I couldn't help but be affected. I often joke with my husband: "I have taken care of my children enough. I will not take care of my son and daughter in the future. I also want to travel around like your mother and live my old age."
Whenever this happens, my husband will tease, "Then you should make more money while you are young. With your little salary and social security, you can't go to many places when you are old."
I thought in my heart that in the reality that this woman wants to support the sky, there is a lot of women who need to have a job and income, and it's best to be financially independent, so that they can have enough voice in marriage.
So I have always adhered to this principle, even if it is a job that feels useless, I enjoy it, in order to prevent myself from being a housewife so early and not being upright.
If there is no work again, wouldn’t my mother-in-law be more polite and help us talk about it all day long.
But the more beautiful the ideal, the more skinny the reality is. Before I could exert force, I was pierced by the sharpened bones.
The epidemic is approaching, and the performance of the company supported by exports has shrunk by more than half. In the end, the leaders decided to implement a large number of layoffs, leaving only one comprehensive person in the entire department, and the rest are packed home.
I was packaged home. The company compensated according to the standards. After dealing with this matter, I quickly joined the army of looking for a job, but I played hide-and-seek with me at work, and I couldn't find the one that belonged to me for a while.
My mother-in-law said in a negotiation tone: "You should not look for a job. We are old and want to go back to live our own life. The pensions of the two of us are much higher than your salary. We might as well give you 4,000 yuan of living expenses per month. You can take care of your children at home."
I stood up with a "happy" and looked unhappy: "No, I don't work in my thirties, and I can't find a job in the future. Besides, I'm going to work more than 4,000 yuan. How much pressure is there for several children to raise."
My mother-in-law also lost her good face. She gestured with her hands angrily: "We In my sixties, my health is not as good as before, and I can enjoy it for a few years. If you don’t want to be a full-time housewife, then you can ask the nanny to take care of it. "
I couldn’t control it and raised my tone: "How much does it cost to hire a nanny to take care of two children? It’s equivalent to being a waste of time for me to work in a month. Can the nanny be relieved? Is your two grandchildren not important at all?"
Mother-in-law beat her chest and pointed at me with her fingers: "You, you, I’m too lazy to tell you..."
Although my husband also agreed to stay at home, he was mainly worried about his in-laws' health. If something happened, we would be unbearable. But I am determined and I insist on going out to work no matter what.
Finally, under the mediation of my husband, my mother-in-law agreed to stay until the child goes to kindergarten at the age of 3. No matter what, she will not care about us anymore.
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I still keep my words to my husband. After work, I come back from get off work every day, take the children, feed them, and play downstairs. I bathe them in the evening and sleep with them. I take the children out on weekends and try to let my in-laws rest.
I need their help, and I am also very worried, after all, the old man's body is indefinite.
When the child was two and a half years old, a grandmother-in-law called and she shouted in panic: "Come back soon, your dad fainted." I was holding a cup to collect water in the company at the time. My heart was "bang" in my heart. After a moment of trance, the water spilled on my hands, red and swollen.
I didn't care about handling it and ran out of the company. When I rushed to the hospital in a hurry, my mother-in-law hugged one son and wiped her tears while the other was held by the nurse. I asked anxiously: "How is Dad? What do you say?
My mother-in-law was shaking with her son's hands, tears kept flowing down, and her lips trembled: "He was playing with his two children at home and was about to stand up to cook, but suddenly fainted.
I said, don’t go to work, let us two old people go back, but you don’t listen. You don’t know how tired you are to take care of two children at the same time, you must be exhausted. Now you’re fine. "
My eyes drooped and I didn't dare to look at my mother-in-law. I had to lower my head and comfort me: "Mom, don't worry too much, what should I say when I see the doctor later."
I walked over and took the child from the nurse, trying to calm myself down, but I was still extremely uneasy. If something happened to my father-in-law, I felt that I could not escape the blame. If I hadn't asked them to take care of the child here, wouldn't this happen?
But I just want to work, contribute to the family, and at the same time, I can keep myself out of society. A civilian like me has no skills. If I don't work now, , no one wants to find a job in the future, so he was eliminated by society.
Who knows what he is worried about, the more what happens.
6
When my husband rushed to the hospital, the doctor came over to say that the patient was cerebral infarction , but fortunately, it did not compress the main nerves of the brain, causing a mild stroke .
Mild stroke will not cause paralysis, but the brain will not be so flexible in the future, and the reaction will be very slow. You usually rest at home and you will be best if you go out.
The burden in my heart was relieved suddenly. My husband saw my face sad, and he comforted me and said, don’t think so much. As you get older, you will have some problems.
I pointed a little with tears in my mouth Head, I thought fortunately nothing happened, otherwise I would have felt guilty.
After my father-in-law was discharged from the hospital, my mother-in-law asked to take my father-in-law back. They would have to be hospitalized for a general examination for a period of time. This disease requires regular medication because medical insurance is at home, which is more convenient.
My mother-in-law saw that I didn't say anything, thinking that I had something in my heart, so she deliberately looked at me and said, "You have nothing to say this time. Let us go back long ago, maybe this will not be the result. ”
I smiled apologetically and explained on the side: “I am really not considerate. You go back and take good care of yourself. Let’s find a way for ourselves. "
That's it. My mother-in-law took my father-in-law back completely. They won't come to live for a long time in the future. At most, I missed the children, so I came to stay for a while.
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My mother-in-law often calls and says that my father-in-law is like "dementia". He doesn't know how to see traffic lights when crossing the road; there is a pillar on the way to the supermarket, and my father-in-law can't see it, and he bumps into it straight; he bought a lot of dishes. My father-in-law always forgot to take this kind of dishes or that kind of dishes, etc.
As long as we go out to buy vegetables, my mother-in-law will basically accompany her father-in-law. Usually at home, my father-in-law can take care of himself, but he will cook the meals.
My mother-in-law went back to show that she was just like a fish in water. It can be seen from her circle of friends that there are dinner parties every few days and travel around the surrounding area. While we are worried, we have to often remind her to stay at home to accompany her father-in-law more.
And I had no choice but to resign from the company and return home I was unhappy in my heart to take care of the children in the court, but as a mother, I was even more worried about handing over the children to the nanny. They were the best time to move, and a consequence of being careless may be unbearable for me.
When my mother-in-law went back, she didn't mention living expenses. I thought my father-in-law would take medicine every month. When they couldn't take care of themselves later, they might have to hire a nanny. I was even less likely to mention it, and I had no shame to mention it, but I was a little regretful for some reason.
No matter what the reasons are, my mother-in-law's previous proposal, They are all kind-hearted, but at that time I had a way out, and I had to accept the situation now.
I think that as a full-time housewife, not many people are willing to be a woman, but are forced by life, so I have to choose one of the most favorable ways, but I have to bear the discriminatory eyes in my heart, and I always have the pressure of being eliminated.
So don’t give birth to a second child in order to satisfy the wishes of the elderly when the conditions are not met, but consider that even if the elderly don’t have the help, I can bear the responsibility of taking care of the children.
I have no choice. The child has been given birth and cannot be stuffed back into my stomach. What you can do now is to read books frequently while taking care of your children, so as to strengthen your heart, and at the same time, hope that the future will get better and better.
